Please help me, I think I'm falling in love. My friend AV isn't like anyone I've ever known. There are things about him that I didn't even know I wanted in a man. He's one of the few people who actually understands and shows respect for other people. He's kind and generous in a way that benefits people instead of enabling them. He tries to understand people and how they think so he believes in forgiveness and second chances. He's very self-aware and is the only man I have ever met who actually can own up to his mistakes and admit when he's wrong and sincerely apologize for it. He's patient, thoughtful, considerate and so much more. And it fucking sucks because he's told me that he doesn't want a relationship. He has a lot of issues with his ex, like ISSUES, and he can't be in a relationship with anyone else until he works thru them because it wouldn't be fair to the other person. Those are his words, and he doesn't talk bad about his ex, or blame her, I tell you he is mad respectful.

I know I sound like a twitterpated twat. I thought it was all just to get me into bed or something but I'm not so sure anymore. We just spent a week together and we only had sex once. Honestly, my self-esteem took a hit and my feelings got hurt, I felt unwanted and pathetic. But I talked to my sister and she saw it differently. She said I shouldn't be upset because that shows that he isn't just using me for sex , that he sees me as a person and cares about me and maybe if I can be patient he'll change his mind about a relationship with me.

I see her point and yeah maybe she's right. But I feel all fucked up and confused. I've told him how I feel about him and sometimes I feel like if he doesn't want me now he never will. I don't know, but I know if I don't get my head and my heart on the same page, I'm gonna end up letting my emotions get the best of me and pushing him away over some dumb shit.

What do you think? Should I let this go? Should I wait it out? How can I talk to him about this without sounding desperate or whatever? I don't know, I probably sound stupid as fuck.