Social Charisma and Question asking

Deep_Strength · 2019-11-02T19:26:03+00:00

You're getting in trouble with superficial secular understanding.

So, essentially, getting the other person to talk and asking open ended questions (alongside not sharing your opinion) is a strong way to hold frame in social interactions.

Yes to the first half ("asking open ended questions"), no to the second ("not sharing your opinion"). "Frame" flows from identity not from anything you do.

Jesus was always talking about His mission and Himself to anyone who would listen (and especially the least of these). The "frame" is that He did not compromise one bit on any parts of His mission because everything He was doing is from the Father. Even if it was the Pharisees or His own disciples thinking He should or shouldn't do certain things.

What are some of your favorite questions to ask others in that curiosity is a way to maintain “being mysterious” if you don’t share your opinion (unless asked for it... which makes them buy into the conversation more after they have talked for a while... like a tennis match)?

Don't worry about being mysterious. Focus on building genuine connections with people. Jesus and the Samaritan woman is a good example of the way Jesus transitioned conversations into some of the mundane things in life (drawing water at the well) to deep conversions about identity and purpose (and sharing the gospel!).

Everyone, especially in today's digital age, is lonelier than ever. If you are good at building genuine connections with people (men or women), you will have no problem with both men and women being attracted to you at all. You'll be in the top 95%+ of men very easily.

Rifleshoot · 2019-11-04T14:58:57+00:00

Don’t make being mysterious the focus. All it’s saying is to not spill your entire life story on the first date. If anything, you should be getting hers from her. Remember, she is auditioning for the role of your girlfriend, not the other way around. She should be qualifying herself to you. The idea of using “mystery” as a pickup tactic appears to come from the idea that most men simply aren’t very exciting. If you have exciting stuff to talk about, go ahead. If you are a former navy seal-turned lawyer running for political office that does spelunking on the side, I might venture to say that mystery would work against you when you have such an interesting life story to tell. Women don’t want to hear your boring life story, they want to either talk themselves, or hear something exciting.

Title	Social Charisma and Question asking
Author	SingularityOne198
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	November 2, 2019 4:35 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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