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Islam comes from an entirely different moral system from Christianity. It has fundamental disagreements with the Christian understanding of right and wrong. And by fundamental, I mean that the very foundations of the the two faiths are entirely separate. So any advice people can give you here will completely differ than the Islamic understanding of right and wrong. All we can do is give you a Christian perspective. Christianity’s fundamental conceit is that all of mankind is fundamentally broken…
/r/RPChristians06/02/24 03:25 AM
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I think it highly depends on what’s available near you. I (a reformed Baptist) may differ than the high church brethren on this, but I believe that denomination means less for the benefit of a believer than faithful ministry. If the two choices before you are a baptist church that teaches heresy or a Catholic Church with doctrine that I have minor disagreements with, I would still recommend the Catholic Church. I’m a firm Protestant, but I do believe a shortcoming of Protestantism is that each c…
/r/RPChristians06/02/24 02:46 AM
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Bitterness over the past helps no one, least of all yourself. Think about why you never got laid, identify those problems, and then fix them. Are you broke? Work on getting a good job. Are you socially inept? Start working on being more social. Are you fat or scrawny? Hit the gym and/or go on a diet. We don’t know you and can’t give you particulars. You know your problems and know they need fixing. From there, it’s simple to do a little research and learn how to fix them. The hard part is doing …
/r/RPChristians24/01/24 06:34 PM
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Also, glad to see something new posted here. I love that RP concepts are getting more mainstream, but I do worry that there are not enough voices tempering it with Christian morality. We are getting a lot of Andrew Tate-style hedonism being pushed on young men, and that’s not the right path either. Being a blue pill simp isn’t good, but neither is being a hedonist.
/r/RPChristians27/07/23 05:05 PM
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I’ve mostly moved to twitter and very rarely check Reddit. It’s really heartening to see RP concepts becoming more mainstream and less anonymous. My take on Gilder is that some of his stuff is correct, but the superiority of the female is unBiblical and objectively false. Furthermore, we should not revisit the ideas of a generation that failed to stop feminism. Our ideas must come foremost from scripture, then from generations that would have thought feminism unthinkable. That’s our inspiration.
/r/RPChristians27/07/23 05:02 PM
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The Red Pill has gone mainstream, and that’s okay. Like every social movement before it, it starts small, just a handful of individuals with some “new” ideas. Then it grows into an insular community where those ideas are expounded upon, refined, and discussed. The community begins to expand until the ideas get fed into mainstream discussion. The ideas then get tempered by societal scale. We are currently in that phase. TRP is being tempered into something that can be used at scale. So far, the i…
/r/TheRedPill20/07/23 05:30 PM
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Yes, there are creepy people. It’s literally just people that violate enough social norms in conversation to be off-putting, where you doubt their sincerity.
/r/TheRedPill19/07/23 07:28 PM
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One of the dirty little secrets of RP is that most of the concepts are things that we understand naturally that just get socialized out of us. As it turns out, male leadership is a pretty universal idea. Working out and eating healthy is good for you. Women are attracted to tall, confident, and socially dominant men. When put simply like that, it's easy to think "everyone knows that", but actually realizing that you can work to BECOME that man is the difference.
/r/RPChristians12/05/23 05:32 PM
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OYS It's been a very long time since I've posted, so just an update post. Physical: 29 yrs old, 6'3", 217 pounds, bench: 245 lbs, deadlift: 275 lbs, squat: 155 lbs (yeah, I know). Still have about 17 lbs until I hit my final goal weight. After that, I'll reassess if I still want to cut some more or bulk. I've definitely hit the point where I can either cut or build muscle, but not both at the same time. I finally started doing legs regularly a few months ago. Went well until a couple of weeks ag…
/r/RPChristians12/05/23 05:26 PM
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That’s called “body recomposition” and it’s difficult. I think at the beginning, you can build muscle and lose weight at the same time, but eventually, it becomes either/or. It’s why bodybuilders have cuts and bulks. Focus on controlling your diet for weight loss, in particular. And with 50 pounds to go, that should be priority. So eat at a caloric deficit. But still lift. You will still get gains, particularly at the beginning. And as time goes on, you will stop gaining as much strength, but yo…
/r/askRPC02/03/23 08:23 PM
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We aren’t going to help you with a moral quandary. TRP is a series of tools in your toolkit, not a moral system. Figure it out.
/r/askMRP17/01/23 04:29 PM
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So be patient. How do you deal with rejection? Let it roll off your back. It doesn’t matter. Initiate, and when she rejects you, shrug your shoulders and move on. When you are clearly upset and lashing out, you give her power. When you don’t care, it actually provokes some curiousity in her. “Why isn’t he more mad?” So don’t act all moody, don’t avoid her. Just don’t let yourself care. It takes some practice, but you’ll get there.
/r/askMRP13/01/23 11:13 PM
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If you were attractive, you would find that her “low sex drive” disappeared.
/r/askMRP13/01/23 06:26 PM
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Even in a LTR or marriage, weakness is not wise. You can say that you have a problem, but not how it makes you feel. If anything, present the problem as a challenge you will overcome. But never show vulnerability. Your girl doesn’t need to see that part of you. That’s for your friends, not your girl.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/23 04:42 PM
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Good reminder for my goals. Let things slip in December, back at the grind now.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/23 08:25 PM
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Tall and skinny is just the prelude to tall and jacked. Hit the gym and eat more than you are used to. Focus on compound lifts and you’ll start seeing beginner gains in about a month of going 3 times a week. Going from skinny to muscular isnt that bad. Going from muscular to absolutely jacked is the hard part, lol.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/23 08:24 PM
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There are a few things that a married couple have to agree on, and children is definitely one.
/r/askMRP25/12/22 06:14 PM
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Good for you on starting to post here, but 2 weeks is absolutely nothing. That’s about as short term and short term gets. Try two years. You said you’ve been beta for 5 years and you expect a turnaround in 2 weeks? That’s silly. It takes time to get yourself in a better spot, and even longer for your wife to take notice. This isn’t something that’s fixed overnight.
/r/askMRP24/12/22 01:51 PM
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Looking at the stats you posted, you seem at least average in respect to weight to height, but it could be better. How often do you lift weights? So part of the impression I’m getting from you is that you have some issues with depression. Believe it or not, that’s not an attractive quality. It’s just about the opposite of confidence, actually. I’ll give the standard disclaimer that I’m not a therapist of any sort, and if you’re considering self harm, talk to a licensed therapist. With that done,…
/r/RPChristians14/12/22 09:38 PM
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Post the stats that @deep_strength mentioned for sure. With what you’ve said so far, I can tell you that “passion” like you are talking about fades in every single marriage. Do you think that a marriage that lasts for decades upon decades is built solely on passion? Passion is an intense, unreliable, short term emotion. A lasting marriage is built on love, which is a voluntary, willful action. You choose to love someone. Imagine if she gets burned in a fire and loses all her beauty. For sure, al…
/r/RPChristians13/12/22 04:45 PM
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Great read! Glad to hear that you are on a path that you feel fulfilled by. I still credit you with helping me to start taking my faith more seriously and to step up as the leader of my family. You don’t know how much the responses you gave in my old OYS’s meant to me. I don’t do it anymore because I don’t really need it, but this sub, and you in particular, have had an outsized impact on who I am as a father and husband. Thank you!
/r/RPChristians27/11/22 04:45 PM
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Think about why STFU is recommended. One, it’s to prevent newbies from going Rambo and let them focus on getting their lives in order. The 2nd reason is even more important: it prevents you from going out of your way to TELL your wife how much better you are and now instead lets you SHOW her. Talk is cheap, action is meaningful. So when your wife wants to “talk about the relationship”, it is more foolish to run and hide from that conversation than it is to entertain it, think about what you want…
/r/askMRP27/11/22 03:24 AM
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Read some scripture and please take it seriously. It will change you forever in the best way possible.
/r/RPChristians26/11/22 06:41 AM
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It’s not talked about much because if it was, 90% of the the new guys would use it as their excuse for why their wives don’t want them. For some women, yes, it can have an impact, but the vast majority of the time, a lack of sex drive is from a lack of attraction.
/r/askMRP17/11/22 03:59 AM
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You aren’t going to get great advice on the internet regarding depression. Depression can come from 1000 different causes, something the internet just isn’t equipped to help with. In terms of what we can tell you, you need to focus on getting yourself back in good mental and physical shape, whatever that entails. The best way to get your wife to believe that you are strong is to actually be strong. So do what you have to do to get there. If that’s recovering from injury/surgery, then do that. If…
/r/askMRP02/11/22 01:49 PM
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Frame is your entire outlook on life and your relationship to it. One of the things the the OG RP sub likes to do is to treat frame as something flexible and malleable, because you are just looking for a one night stand or something. So putting up a fake facade of confidence, charisma, and excitement is pretty easy for one night only. But when it comes to marriage and relationships, your frame has to come from something real. There’s something to be said for “fake it til you make it.” I think th…
/r/askMRP24/10/22 04:46 PM
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“ When do my actions of leading (i.e. scheduling dates, vacations, alone time, etc.) become simp behavior?” That’s not the job of a leader, that’s secretary work. The leader decides “hey, I want to go on a vacation”. He can either do the work of the planning or scheduling himself or delegate it to the team (in this case his wife). The leader sets the direction the team should go, and the team works to accomplish the mission. There’s a lot of talk about managing your own finances. But if your wif…
/r/askMRP23/10/22 01:01 PM
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Give it a cooling off period after graduation at least. There are some power dynamics at play that do make a difference. But, you know your circumstances better than I do. Pray to the Lord, and if you don’t see an ethical quandary, go for it. The only other thing I would caution you is that if you are on this board, then you probably have issues with women. So make sure you aren’t setting this girl as your “Oneitus” because she’s the first girl showing you blatant attention.
/r/RPChristians21/10/22 10:41 PM
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Self improvement is rarely a mission unto itself, unless you are a bodybuilder or something. It’s a tool to support what you really want to do. When I was a single man in college, my mission was to graduate, get a good job, buy a house, get married and have children. I’ve accomplished that. My mission now? To develop a more robust social circle and fill out my schedule with more social events. And I’ve stated that directly to my wife and you know what happened? She actually actively worked to he…
/r/askMRP18/10/22 09:46 PM
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Man, this is good stuff! Well worth the wait!
/r/RPChristians07/10/22 01:25 AM
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Pretty sure this is something my wife has, and it can suck sometimes. She gets in enough pain that we’ve had to stop midway and switch to a BJ. But other times, she takes it like a champ and begs for more. It’s not something you can control. I will say that as my own attractiveness has gone up, it’s gotten a little better, but it’s still there. If it’s something you can deal with, then deal with it. If not, then don’t.
/r/RPChristians04/10/22 12:04 AM
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There’s enough time in the day, you just have to rate your priorities. I get up and get to work around 7 AM. I work an 8.5 hour day, and immediately go to the gym afterwards. I have a 30 minute commute to the gym. I work out for about an hour to an hour and a half, then pick up my daughter from daycare before 6 PM. My wife and I then fix dinner, eat around 6:30, play with our daughter/clean the house until 7:15 or so. That leaves about 1.5 hours to 2.5 hours of leisure time every night. So, you’…
/r/TheRedPill21/09/22 03:07 PM
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Do the work, stop talking about it. If you can actually fix the problem, just do it and let the results speak. If you can’t, then obviously your wife is right, correct? I’m not a big handyman. I can do basic stuff, but I don’t have the interest in doing most of it. However, the battery in my wife’s vehicle went dead. All I did was buy a new battery and change it out, and she was shocked at how effortless it was for me to do it. Afterwards, she was all over me. Basically, it doesn’t take much to …
/r/askMRP20/09/22 03:13 PM
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Intermittent, but either would work. Intermittent is just easier and you can adapt better to it.
/r/askRPC09/08/22 11:46 AM
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One more thing: remember to pray to the Lord to make you better. He can absolutely do it.
/r/askRPC09/08/22 02:33 AM
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I’ve lost about 90 pounds. Have you tried doing a combo of keto and fasting? I always recommend starting keto for about a month, eating as much as you want as long as you are still eating keto. Then once you’ve gotten used to it, start skipping breakfast and just eat lunch and dinner. Do that for a couple of weeks, then start pushing your lunch back an hour. Then push it back another hour in another week or so. Then do it again the next week. Before long, you are able to go all day without eatin…
/r/askRPC09/08/22 01:28 AM
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Stop watching porn, and start reading scripture. Try to live your life accordingly. You may fail sometimes. Keep striving to be better and pray to the Lord to change you. Slowly, you will get better. Porn absolutely warps your sexuality, sometimes in semi-permanent ways. But you can at least recover most of the way. It’s not easy, but it’s doable. I’ve struggled with porn for years, and have gone months now without looking at it. Don’t keep track of streaks, it just keeps it in your head. When y…
/r/RPChristians08/08/22 09:50 PM
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Lol, in a woman’s mind, that IS punishment!
/r/askMRP07/08/22 07:08 PM
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I think you’re missing the point just a bit. I said those things to make you think, not to have you explain them to me. Ultimately, your own sense of self worth and your own ability to evaluate yourself must come from within. I gave you some metrics to look at, but ultimately, YOU have to think about these things and make a game plan. Don’t respond to these questions, just think about them: what is it that you can do to be more attractive and less unattractive? Are those things worth fixing just…
/r/askMRP05/08/22 01:30 AM
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At the most basic level, “be attractive and don’t be unattractive.” It’s up to you to figure out what that is. Assess your physical attractiveness first. Be honest with yourself. Next, assess how you treat her. Are you the head of the household in truth or in name only? If you are leading your household like you should be, then examine your dominance of the world around you. Are you submissive/nervous/shy to other men or are you the one who dominates and steers the interaction? An honest assessm…
/r/askMRP04/08/22 10:33 PM
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The way I’ve conceptualized the government issue is in a question: Is it better to live under a righteous tyrant or a wicked republic? The reverse it: is it better to live under a wick tyrant or a righteous republic? So the key is not so much the type of government, but it’s quality. We’ve been conditioned to argue over the means of government instead of the “what” of government. What that government is actually doing is the important part.
/r/RPChristians30/07/22 12:35 AM
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I know this post was a month ago, but I'm curious how you would recommend dealing with compliance tests. My wife has recently started trying to trade small favors for sex ("yeah, we can have sex if you'll fill up my water cup") Thus far, I've just told her no and even turned the sex down altogether for it, but tbh, I actually get mad when she tries that.
/r/RPChristians26/07/22 07:16 PM
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This is a blatant self promotion post disguised as "looking for feedback". If you want feedback, present your ideas here and let's talk.
/r/RPChristians26/07/22 07:02 PM
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There's a dangerous lie in the modern world that people are made up of their traits, which are immutable. Someone will view their fatness and anti-social behavior as "just who they are." They literally view changing themselves as becoming someone else, which in their worldview is impossible. But every aspect of what we are can be changed. Ultimately, we are composed of three things: mind, body, and soul. All three of those things can be changed/altered in some form. Obviously, your body can be c…
/r/RPChristians26/07/22 03:59 PM
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Was this a post generated by an AI, lol? Lot of buzzwords just thrown in haphazardly with no substance or a real question attached.
/r/askMRP12/07/22 08:56 PM
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Again, you are asking us to get into the details and tell you exactly what to do. Get into the mindset that YOU are the leader. What motivates your wife? The RP content is pretty much just about biology and psychology of all women. When you get into the leadership piece, you approach depends on what kind of leader you are, and what kind of person she is. That’s the hard work, the work that takes time and experimentation on your own. Lifting weights and learning not to be a pushover is step one. …
/r/askMRP30/06/22 12:24 AM
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A lot of unnecessary detail just to get us to tell you how to lead your wife. The problem with your post is that you are asking us to tell you what to tell your wife to do, which is ultimately us leading your wife, not you. Think about the end result you want. Now think about the steps it takes to get there and formulate a plan. Execute the plan. This is the process that it takes to get something done. If your wife is not yet willing to follow your leadership, then the point is moot because she …
/r/askMRP29/06/22 05:27 PM
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I’ve mentioned RP concepts to my wife plenty of times, usually in context of one of her friends or coworkers. She tends to agree. There’s no need to mention where you learned it, or anything like that. But there’s no reason to hide the truth.
/r/askMRP23/06/22 01:54 PM
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/r/RPChristians21/06/22 10:09 PM
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The reason is “because God said so.” Easier said than done, obviously. I personally failed in this regard, so I certainly can’t pass judgement. You seem like someone in the anger phase, which is easy to do, especially when you are single and still relatively new to RP ideas. Appreciate women for what they are, not the idea of what you think they ought to be. Women love a man for what he can do for her and to her, men love a woman for her beauty. It’s simple, and it works. Work on cultivating str…
/r/RPChristians21/06/22 09:55 PM
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“Yell at”, in the context of a lot of women, is simply being told no forcefully and assertively. Being willing and ready to assert yourself over her is an inherently attractive trait.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/22 01:06 PM
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The sub is only worth what YOU put into it. Just reading doesn’t teach nearly as much as interacting, especially in OYS. Start by posting your own OYS and interacting with the feedback you get. Then, after a while, try helping others with their own OYS. It actually helps to put perspective on your own issues to talk about the issues of others. For me, this sub has changed my life. I truly believe God directed me to this group of men and I credit Him for using this sub to make me a better man, wh…
/r/RPChristians13/06/22 02:01 AM
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As a Christian, you should always feel a little out of place amongst non-Christians. Just live your life and walk your Christian walk in humility and grace.
/r/RPChristians14/05/22 10:56 PM
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Exactly what I was going to say. Good comment 👍
/r/RPChristians08/05/22 08:42 PM
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So it’s a bit of a cop out answer, but it’s no less true: Asking whether or not something is a sin or not is a sign of immaturity in a believer. That’s okay, I was in the exact same boat just 3 years ago. At a certain point in your walk, you know whether or not something is a sin just based on the guidance of the Holy Spirit and the conviction that it gives you. So going forward, start trying to focus on walking well rather than simply “not walking badly.” To give a more concrete answer to the q…
/r/RPChristians05/05/22 02:56 AM
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I think it's more about the state of mind of the one doing the correction. If a father is telling their son they need to eat less to lose weight, it comes from a place of love and care. If it comes from the guy in math class who wants to get a laugh in at his expense, then it's bullying. The kid that mocked him had no interest in his betterment, only in tearing him down. It doesn't change the fact that the kid needs to lose weight, just that the bully needs correction as well in his attitude. Ge…
/r/RPChristians07/04/22 07:56 PM
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He’s got a girlfriend, and is satisfied with his appearance. Sounds like there’s nothing to change.
/r/askRPC20/03/22 04:54 AM
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I always like Intermittent Fasting as an option to reduce calorie intake. As long as you ease into it to where your body can adapt, it’s far easier to “not eat” than to worry too much over calorie counting.
/r/RPChristians06/03/22 05:55 AM
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Weight loss is all diet. Do a little research into keto and intermittent fasting. I lost 85 pounds using a combination of the two. Ease yourself into it to give your body some time to adapt.
/r/RPChristians06/03/22 05:32 AM
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If it’s an important boundary for you, then enforce it. If not, then you shouldn’t set it in the first place. A man that sets boundaries that he won’t enforce is a pushover. Even worse, a man that sets arbitrary boundaries is a tyrant. So, your boundaries must have meaning behind them, and they must be enforced. To your specific problem, no one here knows or cares about the specifics of the issue. As the leader of your household, figure out what it is that is making your wife miserable and lead …
/r/askMRP15/02/22 04:45 AM
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Great post!
/r/RPChristians31/01/22 04:21 PM
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You are married now. The time for that question was before you got married. You were able to accept it when you decided to marry her, you must accept it now. So, if it bothers you, accept that it is true, there is nothing that you can do to change it now, and move on. The only other thing I will say is that the fact that she has a VERY high body count (Dozens, really?) does mean that there is a higher chance of infidelity in the future, so don't plan on giving her the benefit of the doubt if the…
/r/RPChristians14/01/22 07:12 PM
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Asking if you are "supposed" to do something is part of the problem. It reflects your mindset. You are looking for another man or woman to tell you what to do. What do you want to do? Do you want to say something about the annoying stuff your wife does? Or is it inconsequential to you? So much of this is about learning to be your own frame of reference for your own behavior. The point of STFU is to keep you from saying something stupid while you get yourself in order. You lift, you do the readin…
/r/askMRP07/01/22 05:26 PM
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I don't know how much content you've read from here, but based on your post, probably not very much. You will NEVER be able to simply explain your way into your wife's pants. You can sit down, have the discussion that you need sex, and she may even agree to have sex more often. Then, nothing actually changes. Her sex drive is probably fine, you just aren't doing anything to spark it because you aren't being attractive. How often do you lift weights, and how is your leadership in the house? Women…
/r/RPChristians05/01/22 03:35 PM
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I'll give you an answer, but realize that if you are comparing yourself to other people to see if you are doing it "right", then you've missed the point of TRP. You should set the standards of what you feel is "enough", not what other people are doing. The only external source of validation that you get should be from the Lord Himself. Daily. I always try to pray just before going to sleep, but I will also pray any time that I feel like doing so during the day. This could be for 20 seconds or 20…
/r/askRPC03/12/21 03:50 PM
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I can’t speak to her mental issues or anything like that, but I would say that they are not and will never be an excuse for how she behaves. So man up, hold her accountable to boundaries that you set, and read the sidebar. Don’t be a doormat because of some past trauma, real or imagined.
/r/askRPC01/12/21 01:14 AM
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Most anger over hypergamy comes from a misunderstanding of it. Hypergamy does not mean that a women will always sleep with the highest status male, simply that they will always be attracted to them. Meaning that you can’t forget that women have agency to make their own choices, just like we do. As men, we find lots of women attractive, but we don’t try to sleep with every one of them, whether it is for morality, or social norms, or whatever reason you want to use. The same applies to women. If y…
/r/RPChristians29/11/21 07:32 PM
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It sounds like you don't know what you want out of life just yet, and that's fine. Your 20s is the first time in your life that you lack the structure of home or university, so it's to be expected, especially if you are single. So focus on building the life you want first. Build a social circle, save money for a house, make progress in your career, find some hobbies. If you want a girl, then go get one. If it's not a priority, then don't. A large part of this is learning to take ownership of you…
/r/RPChristians06/10/21 02:54 PM
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My wife is due to deliver this week. Yes, this is a problem that I've had as well during the pregnancy, and all I can say is that you just have to deal with it. For the first trimester, she is going to feel sick a large part of the time. Things will get better in the 2nd trimester, but don't expect things to be like normal. The 3rd trimester will go back to being hard on her, all the way up to delivery. Just realize that the 1st trimester is usually the most miserable.
/r/RPChristians05/10/21 03:05 PM
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You come off here as simply LARPing as a man with the hopes of getting laid. I can guarantee that your wife sees that as well, probably to a greater extent than the people here. If you were truly owning your decisions, would you have even posted here? Obviously not. Dread is fine, but what you are doing is building covert contracts: "if you don't sleep with me, I'll pretend like I'm having an affair!" Your wife sees through that. The point of going out is two-fold: one is indeed to inspire a lit…
/r/askMRP14/09/21 05:19 PM
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I really want to take some MMA classes, but the closest place to me costs around $100 a month and doesn't come with a gym or anything. It also doesn't help that the head teacher has a belly like Santa. They know what they're doing, but it doesn't make me interested in paying them a lot of money, lol.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/21 01:10 PM
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Yeah, if you use birdshot, which is a shotgun shell with tiny pellets inside that will kill a bird, but only make a small hole.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/21 01:44 PM
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Lol, yeah, she's already talking about how I'll need to go again this year, and we've got a baby due in about a month!
/r/TheRedPill08/09/21 01:43 PM
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OYS #38: 9/7/2021 Background/Stats: 27, 6’3”, 231 pounds, married for 3 years. Bench 225(5 rep max), DL 225, bulgarian squat 95 Physical: Went on a vacation over the weekend and ate some carbs, so I'm up on the scale about 5 pounds. I should be back in the 220s by next week. My goal is still to hit 200 pounds by the end of the year. May or may not happen, but that's the aim. Haven't been very good about getting in the gym lately. Need to make that a priority, especially this week. Mental/Profess…
/r/RPChristians07/09/21 07:46 PM
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Something that I've found interesting is how when I expressed an interest in learning to hunt, how much my wife encouraged me to do so. I think that idea triggered something in her that wanted to know that I was capable of killing an animal for food. It was to the point that I think she wanted me to hunt more than I wanted it, lol. And I think she was more disappointed than me when we didn't find anything. I'll be giving it another go this season and hopefully will stock the freezer... You are d…
/r/TheRedPill07/09/21 02:52 PM
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Absolutely. One of my most common prayers around 2017 was that God would make me into a stronger man and help me to improve my marriage. That same year, I discovered Reddit, then TRP, then MRP, then RPC. I have no doubt that he was working in my life during that time and that the Holy Spirit is absolutely at work in this community. It's improved just about every aspect of my life, and really helped me to better understand my faith as well.
/r/RPChristians24/08/21 01:30 PM
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OYS #37: 8/17/2021 Background/Stats: 27, 6’3”, 231 pounds, married for 3 years. Bench 225(5 rep max), DL 225, bulgarian squat 95 Physical: Still losing a good bit of weight every week, roughly 2-3 pounds. I've got about 8 weeks until the baby is here, so I can lose between 16 and 24 pounds if I can keep it up. My goal weight is still 200 pounds, then I'll reassess to see if I like my physique as is, or if I should lose more. I need to put more effort in at the gym, though. My main goal is losing…
/r/RPChristians17/08/21 06:40 PM
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I find that listening/reading along to an audio bible at night before bed is the easiest way to get into the Word. If that would help you, try looking up Bible.Is on the app store.
/r/RPChristians17/08/21 06:15 PM
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Let's go to the Brad Pitt thought experiment. If you were having sex with Brad Pitt, or whoever you think is the most attractive man on Earth, can you honestly say that you wouldn't enjoy a little dominance? There are very few women who would say no.
/r/RPChristians17/08/21 02:56 PM
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While you touched on it, I want to make it absolutely clear for the sake of new people that you DO NOT WANT TO TRY DOMINANCE IF YOU ARE NOT ATTRACTIVE. If your wife is not attracted to your body, an attempt at dominance will simply be repulsive to her. A woman wants to be dominated by a strong, attractive man. She won't let herself be dominated by a man that she considers to be beneath her. I think there's a tendency among men for us to assume that all you have to do is start asserting yourself …
/r/RPChristians17/08/21 02:53 PM
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I think it stems from a fundamental misunderstanding of what alpha and beta really means. In common speak, most men see alpha as good and beta as bad. In reality, they each have their positives and negatives. We just focus on beta being bad because its the one that's not going to get you laid. A self-actualized man is able to use both tendencies to his advantage.
/r/RPChristians12/08/21 09:30 PM
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So as a soon to be single man, you probably want to focus on upping alpha qualities, but understand that the main intent of the main RP sub is getting laid as fast and as often as possible. But if someone tried to implement those traits 24/7, they would find that they could not keep a girl around. It takes more than that. Personally, I feel the most pertinent sidebar reading for you is on r/marriedredpill . It's going to be a much better guide for what you are looking for. As far as making progr…
/r/RPChristians12/08/21 09:28 PM
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A career is as alpha or as beta as you are. A man can be the CEO of a fortune 500 company and still act more beta than a simple drug dealer. A teacher is a natural leadership role: you are placed in charge of a group of people that you need to lead to a desired goal, that being education. So as an educator, you can make that role as alpha or as beta as you want. Though I've always found that I respected my male teachers far more than my female teachers, because they challenged us more, which hel…
/r/RPChristians12/08/21 08:32 PM
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It's not about becoming someone who doesn't need validation, it's about becoming someone that doesn't need EXTERNAL validation. I think you understand how harmful it is to be seeking the approval of others for your own sense of well being. The next step is to understand that your own sense of worth should come from your own honest evaluation of your worth. If you do some self reflection and then come to the realization that you are fat and lazy, then guess what? You are fat and lazy. But that fi…
/r/askMRP12/08/21 05:39 PM
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OYS #36: 8/10/2021 Background/Stats: 27, 6’3”, 234 pounds, married for 3 years. Bench 225(5 rep max), DL 225, bulgarian squat 95 Physical: making a lot of headway with weight loss. I'm back to fasting every day, doing keto, and working out in the evenings. I finally started doing bulgarian squats instead of regular squats, which really helps with my back. I can always tell when I'm burning a lot of body fat just with how much better/energetic I feel. Getting some beginner gains with lower body. …
/r/RPChristians10/08/21 05:49 PM
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I think a far better question is "what does masculine Christianity look like." I don't think any of us have seen it on a wide spread scale.
/r/RPChristians10/08/21 05:25 PM
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This is what I respect so much about the sub: we really place the greatest emphasis on God. This sub encouraged me to really delve deeper into scripture and really gave me a better understanding of it. I credit this sub for encouraging me to get back in church, begin nightly scripture reading, and for opening up my eyes to many spiritual truths. u/rocknrollchuck was instrumental in helping me along, especially early on. None of the criticisms aimed at the sub in the post in question had any scri…
/r/RPChristians07/08/21 04:05 AM
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I agree that it's not always the best, but I do feel that it should be the "go to" of masculine communication, at least with our wives. I think my point would be that it is great to have all of these things in the toolbelt, but to use them sparingly, especially with women. They have an instinctive knowledge of these things and can more easily perceive the subtleties of manipulation than other men can. And even then, if you are using these sorts of things with other men you are in consistent cont…
/r/RPChristians06/08/21 08:16 PM
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Someone already posted this, and it was removed because this can be seen as brigading.
/r/RPChristians06/08/21 07:05 PM
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If they aren't interested in scripture, then they are likely only interested in the distorted, toothless vision of Christ that the world presents, rather than the Christ of reality.
/r/RPChristians06/08/21 04:19 PM
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I like some of this, but I do have to say, that when we talk about the masculine vs. the feminine forms of communication, the terms "covert communication" and "overt communication" come into the mix. I believe most of the techniques listed here would be considered forms of "covert communication", which is mostly the verbal realm of women. So, while I think they have a ton of practicality in subtly affecting the actions of people around you, I think men need to be careful in how often we utilize …
/r/RPChristians06/08/21 04:16 PM
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You could just copy and paste the text of the other post.
/r/RPChristians06/08/21 03:46 PM
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I did report this to the mods to bring it to their attention. We don't need to get into the practice of brigading and directly linking to an opposition sub's post is going to encourage brigading.
/r/RPChristians06/08/21 03:31 PM
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Well, considering not one of his points were backed by scripture, I think we can safely disregard his opinions. Likewise, he did not address the validity of TRP, he only spoke in morally outraged terms. So if his problem with TRP is a moral one, but it is not backed by scripture, then what moral system is he using to judge the supposedly immoral nature of TRP? I would say that he is likely just a feminist that either has a seriously flawed view of Christ and Christianity, or worse than that, a d…
/r/RPChristians06/08/21 03:27 PM
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Great points, but one thing that needs to be said, at least for new peoples' sakes is that your wife has to be attracted to you. You can't be a 300 pound slob and expect your wife to want you to dominate her. She wants to be dominated by a strong man, not a weak one. So don't think that you can just change up your behavior in the bedroom alone and somehow get the sex you think you deserve.
/r/RPChristians04/08/21 02:29 PM
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Just to make sure that your mindset is proper: you have to understand that the point of Redpill is to fix yourself, not your marriage. However, most of the time, those two go hand in hand. So the big point here is that you have to be able to stand by your decisions as a man. Your wife will try and test you and try to push your boundaries. You need to defend them. Once your decision is made, it must be set in stone and you must be certain of your decision. When she starts pushing you, broken reco…
/r/askMRP02/08/21 07:43 PM
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"Why don't you want to do counseling anymore?" Answer: "I decided that it wasn't worth it and we can get things right on our own." Directness is a masculine virtue. No need to beat around the bush. You made the decision to not do counseling. You just need to stand by that decision and own it as your own. Likewise, when she asks where you are getting help from, just be honest: "I've read several resources on marriage and masculinity and I am making changes in myself to better lead our family." Yo…
/r/askMRP02/08/21 06:37 PM
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Again, the point here is that you lead. Make an honest evaluation of whether or not what she is doing is adequate. If you find that it's enough, then stop worrying about it. If its not enough, then provide her the direction she needs to get her work to the quality you want it to be. Oftentimes, that's through example. She's not making good dinner for the family? Pick out a few recipes that you want cooked and give those to her. House not to your standard of cleanliness? Then start cleaning and e…
/r/askMRP27/07/21 03:15 PM
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Sit down, think about what is best for the family, and make a decision. You made a decision in the past to move away from work. If that's no longer the best option for the family, then change things. But you also have to weigh the moving costs. Is it better to move now, or wait for the market to look better? Your answer just smacks of childishness "I'll just hire a realtor and force her to go with me..." That's not going to work out in your favor. Just tell her the truth, you don't have to play …
/r/askMRP26/07/21 01:51 PM
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I'm about to be the father of a little girl myself, and I've been thinking about this stuff a lot. I think about what my own father did. My plan is to be a good example and expect the same of my wife. My daughter will expect good men to behave like I do and will try to behave like her mother. I will teach her right from wrong, and try to raise her to know Christ. I feel like by the time that she is a teenager, she will already know right from wrong. All I can do at that point is give advice when…
/r/RPChristians22/07/21 06:23 PM
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Its situational for sure, but if I had to give a scenario, it would be in a situation where someone is repeatedly making the same mistake. If an employee makes a mistake for the first time, its best to show some compassion/mercy. If they make the same mistake for the 10th time, its probably better to show some anger to let them know how much it means that they continue to make that mistake. I would say its essentially a way to let the other person know how important the issue at hand is to you. …
/r/RPChristians21/07/21 07:01 PM
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Excellent description. I would say that in many ways, you are describing stoicism, or at least the way that I understand it. I don't let myself show outward anger unless it is to accomplish a goal. Colin Powell's book on leadership describes is as "firing for effect." So there is a time for letting your anger be known, but it has to be well-considered and done with purpose behind it. That is a masculine way to handle emotions. We have the unique ability to control our own emotional state rather …
/r/RPChristians21/07/21 04:28 PM
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I thank God my father never told me "happy wife, happy life." He always made it a point: "you are the man, and you have to be the head of your household." He has always been an excellent reference point for how a masculine man treats his woman. I pray that I can provide the same for my kids.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/21 02:28 PM
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Put in the work to make it happen. Want to take a weekend trip and you're worried about leaving too much on your wife? Then get the stuff done that needs to get done beforehand. Get some of the cleaning done, get the laundry done, whatever. It is YOUR decision about what is too much to leave for your wife. So if you feel that there is too much work being left on her plate, then do some work ahead of time to get some of that work done. You are the leader in your home, so your wife's well being is…
/r/askMRP08/07/21 06:01 PM
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You really need to do some sidebar reading, it sounds like you don't understand many of the basic RP principles. That's perfectly fine, most people don't. Just realize that you aren't going to understand the reasoning behind a lot of the advice here without learning some of the basics. Continue engaging on this post and the comments here, but definitely read the sidebar materials. You might hear the word "one-itus" thrown around, and you clearly have a bad case of it. It's when a man focuses in …
/r/RPChristians08/07/21 01:41 PM
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You're young, so take notes, but RP principles are implemented differently at 16 than they would be at say, 40, or how they would be implemented at 25. So, definitely start lifting, start recognizing your value as a man. That takes time, though, but good to start now. Your valuation of yourself right now likely comes from your parents, and that's perfectly fine. But as you leave home and start forging a separate identity, you should begin taking validation from yourself internally instead of ext…
/r/RPChristians30/06/21 04:09 PM
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Just looking at it, there aren't that many users on your proprietary site. Has there been any efforts to reach out to (communities . w in ) to create a sub over there? They actually have pretty active numbers on the patriots page. Though, I get wanting to keep your own platform that you control entirely.
/r/TheRedPill22/06/21 03:43 PM
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Good stuff, I just want to tell you that you don't have to "earn the right" to post in OYS. OYS isn't for posting about how awesome you are at doing RP. It's a place for being honest about your efforts, whether good or bad, and getting honest feedback about it. Personally, I use it as a way to track progress. When I first started here, I posted every single week. Over time, as I understood things better, I've gotten to posting once per month, and that's honestly how it should be. So, keep it up!
/r/RPChristians21/06/21 05:31 PM
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OYS #35: 6/21/2021 Background/Stats: 27, 6’3”, 238 pounds, married for 3 years. Bench 225(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: Diet and Exercise wise, I've been way too lax since we got back from our vacation. I've been traveling a good bit and have had a lot of social functions to be at, and I've let that get me lazy. I haven't lost much muscle tone, but I've certainly not made any gains either. From now until the baby comes, I want to get really dedicated towards making progr…
/r/RPChristians21/06/21 03:57 PM
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You don't think archery is an interesting hobby? You don't think drawing is an interesting hobby? I think you are either lacking in self esteem, or you fell for some of the stories here of guys walking into a room and girls just throwing their panties on the floor. Probably both. Fix your self esteem issues, women can see them easily. One of the most successful guys I knew in college was short and overweight, but he had some of the best self-esteem of anyone I knew. I'm not going to say he was g…
/r/askTRP16/06/21 03:56 PM
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I don't think its as in demand as you've portrayed it. I think this sort of thing is being pushed on society, society isn't demanding it. But for those women that do like that sort of thing, I would think it plays into the "revenge fantasy" that women have. Men? We like watching movies about a guy taking violent retribution against those who have wronged him. That's our revenge fantasy, because we are most eminently capable of violence. It's what evolution has prepared us for. Women? They see th…
/r/TheRedPill08/06/21 09:37 PM
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My wife is pregnant right now and I'm still not going to put up with disrespect, but I am going to show some more leniency when she's clearly being irrational due to the hormones. On memorial day weekend, she started trying to pick a fight with me about "how we had no plans and we're the most boring people on Earth!" This being after we just got back from a 7 day beach vacation, lol. She started crying and verbally lashing out. I didn't try to reason with her about it and explain why its stupid …
/r/askMRP07/06/21 01:41 PM
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So I am in fact, married, so of course, I have my own biases, lol, so you can take what I say with a big helping of salt. I will say that you will likely never find the girl that "buys into the program" without you trying to sell the program, so to speak. I started looking into MRP within a year of marriage and I've made it clear that I'm the head of the household. It made her uncomfortable at first, but once she got used to the idea, she actually prefers it. She contributes to my life, rather t…
/r/askTRP14/05/21 04:07 PM
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I agree to an extent, but I also think that the comparison between "married and unmarried" gets confused with "25 year old guy and 40 year old guy". So the instant image of an unmarried guy that you conjure up is some 25 year old chad with a 6 pack picking up girls at a club, but what do you think of when you think of married guy? A 40 year old man with a dad bod. \ Now think of the single men you know in their 40s. I can't think of a single one that I would want their life. They drink too much,…
/r/askTRP14/05/21 02:27 PM
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Be fair, most modern men past 30, single or not, walk slow and have a big gut. It has more to do with our sedentary lives than simple marriage.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 02:02 PM
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When I think about physical handicaps, I think back to the story of when Christ and His disciples saw the blind man. The disciples asked "who sinned that this man was born blind." Christ then said that neither the man nor his parents sinned, but rather the man was born blind that the works of God may be shown through him. So, I would say that you have two choices, the same two choices that everyone has: you can live for God or you can live for the self. Yes, it would be easy to deliver yourself …
/r/askRPC14/05/21 01:49 PM
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Lean and muscular. Next.
/r/askRPC12/05/21 05:54 PM
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I think that's where the knowledge gap is here, though. On its face, MRP to new people does seem to be "add 1/4" to your bicep to make your wife have sex with you." But the more you delve into it, everything there is geared towards converting a passive male beta (one that is reactive) into a dynamic male (one that is proactive). It is so, so easy for men to fall into a trap in marriage of feeling subject to the whims and wishes of their wives. And that is the "real" problem in a failing marriage…
/r/TheRedPill11/05/21 01:36 PM
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It's not about taking blame, it's about accepting responsibility for your own circumstances. If you are married to an unrepentant whore, who is at fault? You, for being married to her. So in this scenario, you can't control her, but you can control yourself. So, the fact that you are married to this woman is your fault. What can you do about it? Divorce her. That is still permitted even under religious scenarios. The point here is that you never allow yourself the luxury of being a victim of you…
/r/TheRedPill10/05/21 08:19 PM
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Even when it's not your fault, it's still your fault. If something happens that is entirely beyond your control, it is still better to consider it "your fault" than to submit to not having the ability to affect your surroundings. So if a meteor comes in and destroys your house, it's better to accept responsibility for that house than to wave your hands at it helplessly. If you weren't prepared for an "act of God", then that was your fault. Did you not have a plan in place for when SHTF? Did you …
/r/TheRedPill10/05/21 06:46 PM
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"If you want to hear the Lord speak, read the Bible out loud." -- My Pastor, many times If the Lord wants you to do something, nothing will get in the way of that happening, not even you. Read His Word, and follow it, and meditate on it. We can't always see what the Lord has planned for us, we simply have to have faith that He has one in store. So live your life in accordance with the Word and seek out the opportunities that YOU want. If the Lord doesn't want you to get them, then you simply won…
/r/RPChristians10/05/21 02:51 PM
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I don't know if I'm the only one that's thinking this, but isn't leaving the house specifically to get into your wife's head kind of lame? I think the point is to begin building the kind of life where you always have something else that you can be doing apart from your wife. Just going out to get into her head just reeks of covert contracts/dancing monkey. The question shouldn't be "how do I get out of the house to add mystery", but rather what sort of things can I do when I'm out of the house t…
/r/askMRP30/04/21 02:54 PM
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A new house is definitely a good place to exercise leadership and initiative for sure! It's also a good way to get s-tested into oblivion if you choose not to exercise that leadership/initiative as well, lol.
/r/RPChristians30/04/21 02:15 PM
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That's awesome. I think people that were born back then are just built different, lol. I remember when I was younger, my grandfather was 75 years old, hammering roofing on an old ladies house after a tornado came through. I'm hopeful that we can get back to that level of toughness, though. I think the tide is slowly beginning to turn against BP ways of thinking.
/r/RPChristians30/04/21 02:10 PM
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Lol, that's whats nice about being a grandparent, right? You get to enjoy the fruits of a new child without having to actually raise and discipline them, so I don't expect him to have to do much, lol. As far as the gym goes, It's a combination from being on the road a lot, and getting back to strict dieting. Switching back to keto after eating carbs for a few days definitely makes you feel like you have no energy. I'm on the other side of it now, so I'm back at it, at least until my vacation in …
/r/RPChristians30/04/21 02:00 PM
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OYS #34: 4/28/2021 Background/Stats: 27, 6’3”, 235 pounds, married for 3 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: I've been pretty lax in the gym the last week or so. I've been using dumbbells for bench and shoulder presses. The heaviest dumbbell available is the 75 pound ones, and I can already press the 65s for 10 reps, so it won't be long before I have to go back to flat benching on the smith machine. I'm still doing pretty low weight squats and still struggle t…
/r/RPChristians28/04/21 10:01 PM
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Going along to get along is how we got to this point. No thanks. We need men that aren't afraid to stand up and lead society in the proper direction, not simply submit to the existing order because they don't want any confrontation. If you know better, act like it.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/21 03:33 PM
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By definition, you are adopting their frame. You are submitting to the way that they see the world in the hopes that they will reward you for your submission. Is that not the exact opposite of what is taught here? Sure, I get it, most guys here are only interested in getting laid, but submission in the hopes of getting rewarded is the very definition of beta behavior.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/21 08:15 PM
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The thing that got me was when I realized how little I actually enjoyed most of my internet time. I would say that a lot of that time, I was actively having a bad time. Combine that with the lack of real personal growth and eliminating as much wasted time on the internet as possible is a great thing. I can't say that I'm cutting video games out, though. I get it, the only value they give is the pleasure in the moment, but I still enjoy them. I just keep it in moderation. The same goes for televi…
/r/TheRedPill08/04/21 06:39 PM
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Good decision making tends to beget good decisions down the line, whereas bad decision making begets bad decisions. Great writeup.
/r/RPChristians05/04/21 06:43 PM
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Simply do what we are called to do: stand as beacons of God's light in a world of darkness. Live your life as a strong, Christian male and don't apologize for doing so. If someone starts teaching something that is contrary to scripture, respectfully challenge them on it. But understand that you have to be firmly grounded in scripture, not your own biases. And be willing to listen to their side, even if they are wrong. If the church continues contradicting scripture, then you should find a new ch…
/r/askRPC29/03/21 08:06 PM
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MGTOW is an odd one for me. On the one hand, its perfectly fine to me for a man to decide that he wants nothing to do with women. On the other, MGTOW likes to float legalized prostitution and porn as the "solution". So for a Christian, living a chaste life like Paul did is admirable, but most of us aren't built that way. So for most Christian men, MGTOW isn't really an option.
/r/RPChristians29/03/21 07:54 PM
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Glad to hear. It’s hard to swallow pride and admit a mistake. Just keep working at it and be patient!
/r/RPChristians12/03/21 09:10 PM
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Something that really helps me is to somewhat trivialize her fears and insecurities. If she's worried about something, even if its something to legitimately worry about, i don't let it phase me. I think our women appreciate that we can look at something that scares them and see it as inconsequential. Think about the way that the Lord views our troubles. They are pretty small in the grand scheme of things and it's comforting to know that while He cares about our troubles, He also sees them as sma…
/r/RPChristians11/03/21 09:32 PM
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I'll be honest, I saw the 300 pounds then the sentence "I have been taking charge in my relationship lately and really stepping into my role as a Biblical husband and father" and had a pretty good idea of what happened. I think the rule of thumb was "one month of STFU for every year you've been married." Obviously not a hard and fast rule, but it does give you an idea of how long you need to stop and just focus on self improvement.
/r/RPChristians11/03/21 09:21 PM
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OYS #33: 3/11/2021 Background/Stats: 27, 6’3”, 238 pounds, married for 3 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: Workouts are still going well. I'm back in a routine and loving it. I've started to prioritize reps over weight lately and I think i much prefer it. I definitely come away feeling more pumped and stronger. I've started doing curls instead of the pullup machine. i feel like I get more out of them. Diet-wise, I did eat a lot of carbs over the weekend, as …
/r/RPChristians11/03/21 08:58 PM
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"I've been a perfect level 3000 alpha RP warrior and my crazy wife just won't get with the program... what is wrong with her?" The first step in all of this is to examine yourself. Never mind what SHE should be or should not be doing. There's a reason she is questioning your leadership at every turn. Keep in mind that just about everyone that is here is here because they at one point or another have run into marital issues and wanted to know why. So examine yourself: are you really leading your …
/r/RPChristians11/03/21 08:33 PM
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First, you have to look at yourself: make sure you are working hard. Because to try and motivate her to start working hard, you have to lead the charge. If you are, then you need to leading her in working. “Hey, I need you to take care of the dishes while I do...”. You will have to lead her to act. She isn’t going to spontaneously start acting better without your leadership. Once you have established consistency with her “helping” you, you can start assigning work. “Hey, dishes are going to star…
/r/RPChristians03/03/21 02:03 AM
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The key to game is frame. Once you are so confident of your own worldview that you can entice others to buy in, you have game. And that doesn’t mean that you have to adopt some other person’s idea of game. If you are typically not a very funny person, it’s probably not the best idea to adopt the persona of a funny guy. In a way, it’s about confidence but it’s more than that. It’s about being so confident in how you see things that nothing can shake you. There has been so much written about frame…
/r/askRPC03/03/21 01:09 AM
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I’ve got to say that while I like the action, I don’t believe that telling people not to repeat what is said there is the way to go about it. We should not be ashamed of the truth. If we hide it like we are ashamed, then would people not think what we are saying is shameful? I believe that the path forward is to be bold in sharing what we know, because by all accounts, the things we discuss here are entirely scriptural. That doesn’t mean that we have to speak indolently and disrespectfully. We c…
/r/RPChristians26/02/21 04:27 AM
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OYS #32: 2/23/2021 Background/Stats: 27, 6’3”, 238 pounds, married for 3 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: Workouts were non-existent last week during the freeze. Back at it this week. Had a great upper body workout Monday. Did legs and back today. I did the work, but definitely felt like the energy was lacking more today. I probably need to be hydrating more since I’m fasting. I would still like to look into an MMA place to get some fun cardio going. Mental…
/r/RPChristians25/02/21 01:13 AM
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It’s pretty natural to have doubts about a large and difficult decision you make. Leaders always do. You just have to accept that you made your decision and accept the consequences, whether for good or bad. Can you go back and change it? No. Can you change it now? Sure. But that’s a new decision with brand new potential outcomes. As far as if you should take her back, no one can tell you if you should or should not do anything. You know your situation and you know the facts. And if you are guide…
/r/RPChristians23/02/21 03:59 AM
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To disengage, you can literally tell her “I’m done engaging you on this” or “I’m tired of talking about this, I’m done.” And if she tries to keep going, just be a broken record. I don’t want you to just treat those as the “magic phrase to disengage”, though. You have to find what works for you and your situation. The biggest thing to change is your attitude towards yourself and your wife. Once you do that, you’ll understand how to think about yourself and her, and with that, you’ll know how you …
/r/RPChristians23/02/21 03:46 AM
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You misunderstand your role in the marriage when you say that you don’t know the words to make her feel better when she feels bad. In the case that she is feeling bad, your words are going to be meaningless. Instead, you should be a rock. When something is making her feel anxious and sad, you stand above it. When she sees you as being unshaken by it, it lets her know that things aren’t as bad as they seem. And so, it is your actions that really speak to her. When you join her in saying how bad t…
/r/RPChristians22/02/21 06:04 PM
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The Bible says in psalms 104 that the Lord made wine that gladdens men’s’ hearts. There is nothing wrong with using a substance in moderation to help your emotional state. Our hearts are fickle and unreliable, as the Bible states. Our emotions and feelings are easily changed. So, if an SSRI is what is required, then I don’t think there is a scriptural reason why not. But, I do believe you are correct in being wary of using it as a first option. Just know that there’s nothing wrong with using it …
/r/askRPC18/02/21 09:16 PM
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Not politically correct to say, but it’s usually the damaged women that like to date outside of their race or ethnicity. I think these type of women have a natural inclination to take more risks in life, so they are comfortable dating outside of what is normally expected. This also means that they have a higher likelihood of getting pregnant, because they are willing to engage in riskier behavior. If you were able to find a sizeable Turkish community with several single women, I would be willing…
/r/askTRP15/02/21 03:53 PM
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Many Christian men have been raised to mistake gentleness with weakness. Christ was a gentle man, but he was NOT weak. What value is there in being kind to your enemies if you don’t have the capability to harm them in the first place? It is important for Christian men to cultivate our strength in all things: physical, mental, and spiritual.
/r/RPChristians13/02/21 04:13 AM
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Gab is picking up. Just this week, the performance on my phone is leaps and bounds above what it was last week.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/21 10:49 PM
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When you mention thinking about those "wifeable girls in college" you are elevating them to One-itus status. Instead of focusing on the bounty of women that are out there, this very second, you are focusing on women that you knew in the past. There's no point in regretting those so called missed opportunities. There weren't missed, they were there and you didn't take them. That's okay. You need to be focused on the opportunities of today. Yes, it's easier to date in college, but its not like dat…
/r/RPChristians28/01/21 07:52 PM
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My wife tends to annoy me when it comes to going to the store as well. I'm happy to go with her, but my go to move is to find out what it is we need, then basically split up. She can get X item, while I go get Y. Makes the trip a lot quicker, and lets me get away from her for a quick minute when she starts getting on my nerves.
/r/RPChristians28/01/21 07:42 PM
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Hope your job search goes well! Something my pastor once told me during pre-marital counseling is that "men need to work." Women are fine with tending to the house, but men suffer mentally and spiritually when they don't feel a sense of purpose or usefulness. He told me stories of men that he counseled that just fell to pieces after they lost their jobs. He even said that he recommended them to get a job flipping burgers while they searched for a real job, just to give them a sense a meaning. Th…
/r/RPChristians28/01/21 07:16 PM
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OYS #31: 1/28/2021 Background/Stats: 27, 6’3”, 240 pounds, married for 3 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: My workouts are definitely more lackluster since I've started fasting again, but I'm close to being adapted again. I've started doing dumbell chest press instead of using the smith machine. While it is definitely less weight (50 pound dumbells right now), I am doing more reps to compensate. I am definitely getting a bit sorer in my chest, so its definit…
/r/RPChristians28/01/21 07:05 PM
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It's not about enjoyment, its about duty or obligation. I enjoy the results of working out and eating well far more than the actual process of doing it. The art of discipline is doing something when you are not motivated to do it. Motivation is great, it makes doing these things easier. However, its unreliable and unsustainable. Everyone's motivation runs out. But you've got to show discipline to keep at it even when your motivation runs low. You have a duty to yourself to take care of your body…
/r/askRPC27/01/21 07:01 PM
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The Bible. Like most western men, I grew up nominally Christian, but paid little attention to it. Once I decided to actually go through and read the Bible, it changed me forever. The wisdom within it is transformational.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 04:40 AM
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The "yo-yo" dieting isn't really an issue for me. I spent basically the past 3 years dieting in some form or other, so a temporary reprieve was acceptable to me. I did probably go overboard, though. Prior to covid, I was losing weight at a pretty consistent pace. I never really yo-yo'ed until then. The reason I like my diet plan is that not much thought has to go into it: I don't eat until dinner time and when I eat dinner, I cut carbs out of the equation. I actually feel much better when I'm ea…
/r/RPChristians20/01/21 08:24 PM
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Do you have a job, or are you in school? What are you actively doing to accomplish your goals? Simply focusing on your sin isn't going to help you move past it. You have to have a positive focus that demands your attention more. Maybe you are going to school so you can get a job to make money to finance your true goals? Maybe you are working to do the same? I'm certainly not a great example of someone that has completely kicked a porn addiction, but I can tell you that the times when I tend to r…
/r/RPChristians20/01/21 06:18 PM
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OYS #30: 1/20/2021 Background/Stats: 26, 6’3”, 240 pounds, married for 2 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: I've started back to fasting this week. Its always rough in the beginning, but I'll be used to it in a week. It's tough to get motivated in the gym especially, with such little energy, but I'm at least still going. Usually, I use the smith machine for my heavier lifting, but I decided to use the dumbells for my bench yesterday. While lighter weight, it …
/r/RPChristians20/01/21 06:04 PM
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It’s very possible that the girl is a little more aware of “the wall” than most. If a girl is smart, she doesn’t wait until she hits the wall the grab a stable beta, she does it well beforehand.
/r/askTRP19/01/21 04:25 AM
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It seems to me that you are too wrapped up in your sense of self. You and I are not the protagonists of the story, so to speak. Christ is. We are just the people that the Lord chose to save. Yes, apart from Christ, we are evil. But through the power of the Holy Spirit, we can become good. I think you’ll find that as you shift your focus away from your self and towards other people, the self loathing becomes far more tolerable. If you are truly saved, you begin to realize that there are two men i…
/r/RPChristians14/01/21 12:43 AM
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Try denominational, if you must. It’s important to have a local church to go to, regardless of denomination. As long as the church is firmly planted in the word, it should be fine.
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 11:24 PM
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It’s a lot of work, especially getting the house clean so soon after decorating, but it was a great time. Definitely worth it, and it definitely got the wife excited to plan something.
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 10:46 PM
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Thanks! This is helpful!
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 10:19 PM
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How do you tend to schedule your lifting/BJJ days? I tend to get fairly sore a day or 2 after lifting, so I’m curious if you plan around that, or just lean into the soreness.
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 09:59 PM
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Do you feel that you are getting adequate excercise? You said that you do pullups and pushups, which is better than nothing, but I can't imagine that you are doing enough to get rid of the surplus energy. Could that be contributing to the lack of sleep? Find a way to do more exercise and shake things up. As far as your political stuff goes, maybe its time to get disinvolved with politics for a bit. I've been in your shoes and I may well be in them right now, but every time I've felt like I was g…
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 09:27 PM
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Do you have any plans to start attending a church? Church attendance can be very valuable in finding likeminded believers and finding time to actively worship the Lord. And if you eventually want to find a Christian woman, church is probably the first place you should look.
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 09:11 PM
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How do you like BJJ? I'm considering taking it up this month as a cardio supplement to my lifting regimen. What was it like when you first started?
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 09:07 PM
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You seem to have some self esteem issues, just looking at this one post. Do you do much weightlifting? One of the major benefits of weightlifting is the boost of testosterone, which is a major contributor to your self esteem. And I'll be honest about your OYS: I don't see how you will get any use out of it with the amount of information you put here. What are your goals, what do you want out of life? Do you want a wife? What are you doing to make progress towards that goal, or what have you fail…
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 09:02 PM
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OYS #29: 1/13/2021 Background/Stats: 26, 6’3”, 240 pounds, married for 2 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 *I haven't done OYS in roughly 6 months, so this post will be mostly dedicated to catching up. I'd like to get back into the habit of participating in OYS. Physical: In the past 6 months, I've not made much progress here. I finally got back into a regular gym habit in October/November, so all of my lifts are starting to get back to where they were pre-COVID. As f…
/r/RPChristians13/01/21 06:35 PM
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You know what, I did miss that part when I first read it. Yes, she should be criticized for being needlessly cruel in her rejection.
/r/TheRedPill13/01/21 02:43 AM
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What an idiot. He probably skimmed a little bit of TRP, decided that he needed to “up the alpha” and went Rambo. The fact that he doesn’t have the frame to make such an ultimatum without running to the internet for advice speaks volumes on his sense of frame.
/r/askMRP12/01/21 11:07 PM
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Seriously, how is this post upvoted? This guy is actually angry for a woman for wanting a tall guy. This whole sub is practically DEDICATED to the idea that women are biologically programmed to be attracted to certain traits and unattracted to others.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/21 11:04 PM
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There’s nothing wrong with her doing that. She isn’t attracted to a man that looks smaller and weaker than herself. Likewise, men aren’t attracted to fat and ugly women. No one is responsible for their own lack of attraction to someone else. If someone isn’t attracted to you, then it’s your fault, not theirs.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/21 11:02 PM
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Women love conditionally, men love unconditionally. It’s perfectly fine to love a woman with the knowledge that she loves you for what you can provide, not for who you are. It’s the natural order of things, fighting against it is an uphill battle that will leave you unhappy.
/r/askTRP11/01/21 05:45 PM
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It’s the principle. Someone strikes one side, show him the other so he can smack it too. Show him that his action did not effect you, that it makes him weak and that we are strong because of our God. Look at it from God’s perspective. People on Earth are constantly defying Him, sinning, and even cursing His name. Yet He does not strike them down, though He clearly has the ability. The reason is mercy. He gives them the opportunity to repent, just as He does for us. So though someone my spite you…
/r/RPChristians11/01/21 02:38 AM
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If she physically cheated, then divorce her. To me, that is completely permissible by the Bible. Still a tragedy, but one that is justifiable. If not, you can salvage it. But you can’t exactly salvage anything when you are “separated”, right? If she was the one cheating, why did you move out? The first move is to get back into your house. The second thing is to start lifting heavy weights. The third is to read the sidebar and start applying it. During all of this, start posting on OYS every Wedn…
/r/RPChristians11/01/21 01:42 AM
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Girls don’t comfort test guys they just met. A comfort test is something they do in a LTR to see how stable the relationship will be. It’s not something a tinder girl would do to a guy she has never met in person.
/r/askTRP08/01/21 02:11 AM
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“Let’s get to know each other over drinks at XXXXXXX.” You’ll know by her answer if she’s actually interested or just bored wanting attention. If she doesn’t want to meet, next and move on.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 08:24 PM
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I disagree with the premise of this post entirely. Guess what? Your girl could have a mother that is an absolute nag to her father and she can be as submissive as you want her. She could be broke as can be and you as wealthy as Bill Gates and settle for whatever you choose to give her. The deciding factor in all of this is NOT her, it's you. Your post is written like women decide the terms of a relationship, which puts you in her frame. You decide whether or not you want her to submit to you. Yo…
/r/TheRedPill07/01/21 03:29 PM
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Women want strength in general: mentally and physically. I know a guy that is literally squatting 500 pounds, yet still has the most self-defeating depressive attitude of anyone I know. He’s always putting posts on Facebook about how depressed and suicidal he is. But obviously he doesn’t do it because he’s ultimately looking for attention and external validation. It doesn’t matter what your lifts are if your emotional state is dependent on other people.
/r/TheRedPill04/01/21 08:37 PM
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Finally some sanity on this sub. People pretend like women have no agency in their decisions. Yes, hypergamy is real and it means that women are attracted to Chad. It does not mean that she will actually sleep with him if given the chance. Other things come into play. Her personal morality, the fear of being found out, the odds that it actually turns into a relationship, etc. Women can feel attracted without actively pursuing a man, just like we men can see a hot chick and not try to sleep with …
/r/askTRP04/01/21 08:25 PM
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It’s an uphill battle, for sure, but I’m sure there are women that wouldn’t find it a deal breaker. But, I would certainly talk to your doctor about options to treat it. You can look at this two different ways. You can use this as an excuse to never find a woman, or you can see it as something you have to compensate for in other ways. Become the most jacked, most confident, most social guy that you know. Increase your SMV in other ways. Maybe form a habit of wearing cologne. There’s plenty that …
/r/askMRP02/01/21 05:10 AM
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I used to write like this when I was younger. A little pseudo-intellectual stream-of-consciousness that made me feel smart. Something I’ve since learned as an engineer is that your thoughts do no one any good if you cannot put them in a form that can be easily understood. There’s a reason that Christ used parables related to farming and shepherding: his audience could easily understand them. He used simple illustrations to describe complex spiritual truths. If this guy even has a point, it’s far…
/r/RPChristians01/01/21 07:27 AM
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Why do you think those words that you use are clear and easily understood, when several have made the claim that your words aren’t readily understood? Is it inherent to your nature that you use many clauses that are not well understood in common speech, or is it simply a desire to elevate your prose beyond that of your audience in an attempt to obscure your central narrative beyond the point of reproach? Perhaps you ask too many rhetorical questions that seem to indicate a central premise that i…
/r/RPChristians01/01/21 02:27 AM
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Like I said, I can’t make heads or tails of what you are saying because you keep using this overly verbose and rhetorical tone in your writing. It’s of great help when you’re trying to meet a minimum word count in an essay, not so much help when you are trying to have a discussion, or in your case, make a point.
/r/RPChristians01/01/21 12:33 AM
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The Bible is clear: we are to respect worldly governments as there is no authority except from God. Like others have mentioned, your post lacks clarity and never really seems to make a succinct point. But, looking at your comment here, it seems you are trying to make some sort of commentary on the welfare state, is that correct?
/r/RPChristians31/12/20 10:04 PM
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“Women are slaves to the world...”. We all are, until Christ frees us. To be honest, this reads like someone that is in the anger phase. No, God does not will that you idolize your wife. If you are doing that, stop. Your idea of idolatry seems far too broad, to the point that simply trusting a good friend would be considered idolatry because you are “putting faith in something other than God.” Idolatry is, in my mind, putting something equal to, or above God. Your relationship with your wife is …
/r/RPChristians31/12/20 09:27 PM
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I had some frustration in my marriage and started trying to find ways to make it better. I stumbled across TRP and found that most of the principles already fit with my worldview, but it was still mostly about getting laid. I found MRP through the sidebar and basically read everything available. I was never much of a nice guy or feminist and never really bought into that narrative, but having the things that I believed put into words made it a lot easier for me to follow those principles and gav…
/r/askRPC24/12/20 06:27 PM
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If it’s something you know that she can do herself, then she should do it. If it’s something that she needs your leadership or skill to do, then do it. Or don’t. You’re a man, make the decision yourself based on what you believe to be best. The only pitfall is when you start doing things because you think they will get you laid or you want your wife to like you. Never let your actions be based in affecting her opinion of you.
/r/askMRP22/12/20 06:24 PM
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Women love conditionally, men love unconditionally. It's simply the truth. Women love men for what they can do for them. Men love women regardless. It's in our nature. There is no man that truly ever "needs" a woman. Sure, we might desire to have sex with them, but that is desire. We love from a position of giving and abundance. Women love from a position of want and need.
/r/TheRedPill21/12/20 02:16 PM
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I'm looking at starting some MMA after the new year. I'm interested in it mostly as a hobby that will help me get in better shape. And, if it makes me better at my God-given duty to protect my family, then all the better. There is nothing wrong with violence in and of itself. Did God not order the Jews to put their enemies to the sword? Has God not ordered His angels to kill in His name? So we have to look at violence like that in terms of motive. If God commands it, then it is good. If it is to…
/r/askRPC17/12/20 03:51 PM
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Nihilism is cringe, weak, and self defeating. Try reading the Bible instead. You might find meaning there.
/r/askTRP17/12/20 02:00 PM
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Then what are you asking us for? Give her the gift you want, or don't. Its that simple.
/r/askMRP15/12/20 06:56 PM
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Do you want to buy her a gift? Then do it. If not, then don't. Don't overcomplicate it. The only trap to watch out for is if you are give her a gift because you want her to have sex. If you are going to give, give only out of abundance, not out of some covert contract.
/r/askMRP15/12/20 06:48 PM
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Easy, just become a man with abundance. No, that doesn't mean cheat on your wife. It means get to the point where you know that if she died or left you today, you know that you could go out and pick up a woman. Build a life where you understand that you do not NEED her for anything. It makes it so much more easy to give to her out of your abundance when you both realize that you do not need her, but you choose to keep her anyway. She feels desired and you feel confident. The way to become a man …
/r/askMRP09/12/20 09:33 PM
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But like I said, it absolutely MUST be read through the lens of the Word. But, I do agree with your point. We must learn to live as Christians in a land hostile to the Word. In the West, we’ve gotten lazy and complacent. If you look on the faith of those in places like China and Africa, where they face real consequences for their faith, you see the difference. This is spiritual warfare, and western Christians have become like the untrained reserve troops, unprepared for combat.
/r/RPChristians26/11/20 10:59 PM
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The key is that everything should be measured against the Word. God’s Word must be the foundation that your entire belief system must rest on. If it contradicts the Word, it is false. Any man that doesn’t root himself in the word can be carried off by any deluge of ideologies. I’ve found myself looking at any number of dissident ideologies and thought lately, but they are always measured against the Word. It’s the only way to do it. Consider the things you read carefully, it’s all I’m saying.
/r/RPChristians26/11/20 06:09 PM
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To a degree, yes. In the business world or in the military, leadership is using the talents of other people as well as your own to accomplish your mission. It’s the same in marriage, to an extent. If your wife is an accountant, does it really make sense for you to actively manage the finances in the household? Of course not, she is literally trained to do just that. However, this doesn’t mean that you play no role in it. You still set expectations. If you wanted to live by a budget, you would te…
/r/RPChristians21/11/20 03:35 PM
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Yeah, I would not tell them any of that. That’s not what they want, nor is it what they need. They need you to guide them and set the example. If you were to tell them of your own sins, they would see it as permission to do the same. You can teach them right from wrong without going into detail about what you’ve done wrong. As a father, you are a source of stability, you’re supposed to be a rock. They don’t need to know about the chips in the armor. That’s my opinion on it. You can still admit t…
/r/RPChristians19/11/20 03:20 PM
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To be honest, it’s these kind of posts that can be misleading for newbies about AWALT. By the text of this post, AWALT means that all women are whores that are willing to jump into bed with any man alpha enough to take her. Obviously, that’s incorrect. AWALT means that every woman has the same attraction triggers: status, confidence, strength, etc. It does not mean that she will necessarily act on those urges. If we want to flip it on it’s head, then we can say that “All men are like this”: men …
/r/RPChristians12/11/20 12:55 AM
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“My wife expects me to lead her”.
/r/askMRP26/10/20 10:54 PM
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Motivation comes from a desire to see results. So, if you really want motivation, think about the result you want and think about what you need to do to get there. However, motivation alone isn't going to get you what you want or need. Motivation does not stick around long-term. That's where discipline comes in. Where motivation fails, discipline excels. Those mornings you want to just stay in bed rather than lift, or watch tv instead of going on that jog. Those mornings hit everyone. The key di…
/r/askMRP23/10/20 04:55 PM
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There are a few rough truths that you may have to accept before anything can change. Your wife is comparing you to her first husband and finding you wanting. That's a sign of an alpha widow. Second, the fast marriage after only 3 months means that you are likely her "beta bucks." She needed stability and provisioning, and you were it. Everything in your post screams beta. Quick marriage post wall, you are blaming her for the marital shortcomings, you are completely in her frame. With you being s…
/r/RPChristians22/10/20 07:42 PM
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Think about Christ’s relationship with the church. Does our emotion change who He is? Does he not yet feel compassion for us even as he remains sovereign? “Being the oak” does not mean be a robot. It simply means that you keep doing what you know to be correct. Her feelings don’t affect that. You’re only a week in, so understand that change is not a short term thing. Believe it or not, no one that’s successfully fixed themselves with RP have done it in a week. Or a month. It takes about a year t…
/r/RPChristians19/10/20 07:46 PM
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You’ve got a good salary and your stats look good. To me, that says there is likely a failure in leadership and a weak personal frame. You say she is blaming you for not liking her and only tolerating you. Is that true? Do you not love your wife? If it’s true, then you’ve got to find your own personal love for her and love her as Christ loves the church. If that is false, then you simply don’t need to engage with her. If you are doing what you ought to do as as a husband, then simply keep doing …
/r/RPChristians19/10/20 06:57 PM
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Say “whoops, sorry about that” and move on with your life. Don’t engage when she’s piling on like that. Just go do whatever you were going to do anyway.
/r/askRPC18/10/20 12:57 AM
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No. Any girl can you wear makeup and increase them SMV, but not every girl can either be a natural 10 or increase their value to a 10. Just like girls, any guy can increase their SMV from their starting value, but not every guy can increase their value to a 10. The problem I see in TRP a lot of times with new guys is that they don’t see how SMV is mostly the same with men and women. The only difference is that women grant men a few different factor that affect their SMV.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/20 02:46 AM
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Put your stats and your physical goals in your post. There’s different advice for someone weighing 160 pounds vs someone that’s 260 pounds.
/r/askMRP13/10/20 08:52 PM
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You are conflating love and sexual desire. They are two completely different concepts. Women love their men conditionally, which means their love of their men varies, based on the way the man acts. Believe it or not, women can still love their betas for their provisioning, they just feel no sexual desire towards him. Tomassi’s rule is referring to the fact that women will never love their men unconditionally. Men can love their women with no strings attached. There are men in dead bedrooms that …
/r/askMRP06/10/20 02:18 PM
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Something that I struggled with, and many of us do, is outcome independence. You cannot control her actions. So, regardless of what SHE does, you will continue doing what you are meant to be doing, which is your mission. Also, don’t be afraid to raise your voice if she really crosses a line, though it shouldn’t be your first resort. A controlled, well considered release of anger can be a useful tool if used sparingly. But that’s the key: you have to be conscious in doing it, and be in control of…
/r/RPChristians02/10/20 10:04 PM
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Be comfortable with creating conflict, because that’s what it takes to assert yourself as head of the household. Don’t let it be your “go to” answer (you don’t want to be a hothead) but every man has to learn to put his foot down when it’s necessary. As for when it’s necessary, that’s for you to figure out. It sucks, but for most women, it takes losing an argument to their husbands to learn to submit. It took me a few arguments for her to figure it out. I can’t remember what the arguments were e…
/r/RPChristians02/10/20 01:17 PM
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Be attractive and lead in your marriage and the sex will come. Don’t think that “working your butt off to make her happy” is what will lead to a happy marriage. That’s beta behavior and is unattractive. How much sidebar reading have you done?
/r/RPChristians30/09/20 01:47 AM
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Look at your pro list and look at your con list. Just about every one of the cons are things that YOU can lead her to change. But to lead her forward, you have to set the example, and therefore the standard. You are Egyptian, a place that is, from my knowledge, more traditionalist. So women in Egypt have the benefit of culture reinforcing domestic responsibility. Canada has no such cultural motivator. So, you have to do a little extra work. Step up your own game and get her on board to do the sa…
/r/askMRP29/09/20 08:38 PM
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Well, for a Christian, marriage is the ONLY way to get sex. You can either get a guarantee of no sex, or you get married.
/r/RPChristians29/09/20 04:57 PM
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To me, it’s a simple issue being complicated by people that want to have their cake and eat it too. Sex is wrong outside of the confines of marriage, full stop. There are very few men in this world that can remain chaste. If OP is someone that can, then they should do so. If not, they should get married. Who cares that marriage brings responsibility? So does anything that is worthwhile. We talk about going to the gym a lot here. That is a burden. But it brings forth fruit. You go to work in your…
/r/RPChristians29/09/20 02:00 PM
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But as a Christian, being single guarantees that you won’t have sex. Period. Unless you are comfortable with living in sin, at which point, I would think that you should probably doubt your relationship with Christ.
/r/RPChristians28/09/20 12:48 PM
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Well, I struggle with sexual desire and would not be able to remain chaste as a single man, so I chose to get married. Are you planning on being chaste for the rest of your life?
/r/RPChristians28/09/20 01:49 AM
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I’m not concerned with your satisfaction. Yeah, marriage is work. So is life. And so is being a follower of Christ. Being a man is to face adversity. If you are fine with being chaste, then go ahead and do so. That is actually preferable. But if you need/want to have sex, get married.
/r/RPChristians28/09/20 01:12 AM
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If you can say the words “I do”, then you’re fit to be a spouse. Do as the Bible says and you’ll be fine. Do you think that people enter into marriage and instantly are either good at it or bad? Of course not, it’s a learning process. The issue that these men you are pointing to are simply learning the wrong things. Men need to learn to lead in their marriage and women need to learn to submit.
/r/RPChristians28/09/20 01:02 AM
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Paul says that if you are able to remain chaste, then remain single. That’s not a reality for the vast majority of men. And so they should get married. So the question is whether or not YOU can remain chaste. If you can, then do so. If not, you should get married. It’s pretty simple.
/r/RPChristians27/09/20 10:39 PM
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From what I’ve read of what the 7th day Adventists actually believe, I personally would not go with them. They are the ones that keep “predicting” the end of the world. Many of them believe that the end has already come and gone. The entire founding of their denomination comes from a guy that tries to predict the end of the world in the 1800s. Christ Himself said that even He doesn’t know the day or the hour. Only a fool would suggest that he knows better than Christ.
/r/RPChristians11/09/20 02:56 AM
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I feel like some of these guys are just masochists....
/r/askMRP05/09/20 04:13 PM
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It’s also an ongoing battle. There are times I’ve been able to kick the addiction for several months at a time but inevitably there always comes a time when I’m weakened that the temptation creeps in. I’m currently in the midst of a pretty big relapse and am struggling to get out of it. I look back at the times that I kicked it in the past and it was always when I had a real mission driving and motivating me. It was when I was really doing well in my life and not letting myself get too lax. In c…
/r/RPChristians01/09/20 03:32 AM
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Height and weight?
/r/askMRP25/08/20 01:08 PM
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Put your stats in your post if you want real, honest feedback.
/r/askMRP25/08/20 12:58 PM
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Your husband should, and likely will, just get over it. You can have more kids, you know. God gives us what He chooses to give. Accept the gift of your daughter with gladness and joy. Trust in the Lord that what He makes happen will be the best in the long term.
/r/RPChristians18/08/20 04:02 AM
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Yes.
/r/askMRP14/08/20 08:52 PM
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The only thing I would add is that “taking a hit” can include things that aren’t necessarily physical attacks. If your wife makes a mistake and someone tries to place blame, as her husband, you can take the blame yourself. Is that not exactly what Christ did for the church? It’s something I’ve seen in good leaders at work. If I or another member of the team makes a mistake, our leader takes responsibility for it. We may be reprimanded in private, but he takes the blame. What is headship if not a…
/r/RPChristians12/08/20 02:55 AM
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Read the Bible. There’s a ton of wisdom within if you truly sit down and read it.
/r/askTRP09/08/20 03:40 AM
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Weeb stuff
/r/askTRP09/08/20 03:39 AM
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Something that a lot of people here like to forget about is that women do have personal agency. Hypergamy is not a guarantee of behavior, but rather a guarantee of attraction, just like hunger or thirst. If you are hungry, and someone sets a delicious bowl of food before you, you eat it because you have no reason not to. What if they told you it was poisoned before you ate it? Would you still eat it? Of course not. You may be hungry, but you know better than to let that hunger drive you to eat f…
/r/askTRP01/08/20 05:21 PM
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The vast majority of the world’s current social stupidity is generated by foreign actors, attempting to radicalize all sides to destabilize the west from within. It’s working.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/20 03:24 PM
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Just be honest. “Yeah, sorry, I’m looking for a girlfriend, not just a friend. Have a nice day.” Then go find someone else. There’s nothing wrong with having different goals relationally.
/r/askRPC03/07/20 09:28 PM
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Is "breathing oxygen" something you just need to accept and know that it could happen to you? This question shows that you dont really understand what hypergamy is. Its a biological tendency to be attracted to higher status people, not a guarantee of behavior. Guess what? The flip side of hypergamy is polygamy. Men are attracted to new/different women, regardless of how attractive their current woman is. You could be dating the hottest woman on Earth, then tomorrow, find yourself attracted sexua…
/r/askTRP02/07/20 03:32 PM
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But that 0.26 is out of the entire population. I would expect the fatality rate to be much higher for people over the age of 65 or 70. I totally agree that the response has been awful, that the political ramifications of all of this are bad, but as far as my own personal behavior during this, I don't want to get the elderly sick, because they are the only ones who are REALLY at risk here.
/r/RPChristians30/06/20 08:50 PM
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Yeah, I don't trust the numbers, but i also don't think that risking the lives of my brothers and sisters in Christ is worth it, especially if the services are still being streamed. My wife is a nurse, and they do take care of COVID patients occasionally, so I'm being very careful about not going into church because its a higher likelihood that I and my wife are carrying it.
/r/RPChristians30/06/20 03:48 PM
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The only danger here is in using these things to gain status in the eyes of others. Just be sure that you are doing it to glorify God and not yourself.
/r/RPChristians30/06/20 02:34 PM
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Ours just had a limited reopening. We have a lot of elderly people in our congregation that are part of the at risk demographic. I understand the precautions completely. While young men aren't really at risk, the elderly are. So, if we can do something to prevent them from getting sick and dying, we should.
/r/RPChristians30/06/20 01:54 PM
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Exactly. I think it’s wise for any Christian to know what they are getting into in a fraternity, but it isn’t necessarily any worse than the temptation you get simply by going to college.
/r/askRPC16/06/20 09:42 PM
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It varies from frat to frat. I was in one and while every member except one was nominally Christian, most of us had no problem having pre-marital sex, and of course, getting way way too drunk. But, that isn't to say that a Christian can't maintain his morality in that environment. We had a guy that refused to drink or have sex, and he was the best of us. I don't think frats or sororities are subject to any more temptation than the average college student is. Students in the dorms were subject to…
/r/askRPC16/06/20 07:31 PM
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Add it to your post. A lot of relationship subs will pretend like "looks don't matter", but they do. At your height and weight, I would say you are probably a little skinny. And if no one has told you this already, you shouldn't have tried to hide your smoking. If its something that you feel you must do to quit alcohol, then own it. The fact that you hid it says that you knew what you were doing was wrong. Your wife isn't angry that you were smoking, she is angry that you lied and then proceeded…
/r/RPChristians12/06/20 03:12 PM
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Surprised no one else has asked for them yet: what are your stats? Height, weight, how much can you lift on the basic excercises. Ultimately, it’s impossible to give you good advice without it.
/r/RPChristians12/06/20 01:06 PM
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OYS #30: 6/10/2020 Background/Stats: 26, 6’3”, 232 pounds, married for 2 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: Was gone for a wedding since Thursday, and I ate terribly on the trip. I'm starting over from scratch when it comes to keto. I weighted when I got back and I went all the way from 231 pounds up to 240 in a matter a few days. I know that its just water retention weight from reintroducing carbs, but it has lit a fire under me for lifting and fasting to ge…
/r/RPChristians10/06/20 10:19 PM
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I guess the question I want to raise is if virtue signaling is necessarily a bad thing. We often bring it up when it comes to corporate media signaling for the left's newfound cause of the day. We can't stand it when they do that. But what are we really angry at? The virtue signaling itself or the actual "virtue" that is being signaled? For me, it is the later. When Chik-fil-A closes on Sundays, it is its own kind of virtue signaling, one that I approve of. When Tim Teabow did his kneeling, mill…
/r/RPChristians10/06/20 09:28 PM
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So then, in what respect are you taking about “expressing your sexuality?”
/r/RPChristians01/06/20 03:47 PM
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What is even meant by "discover your sexuality?" You are a human woman with a functioning reproductive system, correct? Then let me clue you in to something: you have sexuality. No more discovery needed! In all seriousness, though, there is no need to have sex before marriage. In fact, it tends to dilute the experience of sex. Now if you are asking if you can masturbate, I don't see any prohibition in it in the Bible, but like RedCurious often states, the question is being approached from the wr…
/r/RPChristians01/06/20 03:06 PM
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Enter the date with the mindset you are vetting her to be your wife (hint: as a Christian, you really are). Ask questions, find out who this girl is. You want to know if she’s someone that’s worth getting to know better. Have fun with it, crack jokes, and don’t be uptight about it.
/r/RPChristians29/05/20 04:13 PM
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Yes, absolutely. You have to understand that the earlier you invest your money, the more it will grow. When it comes to retirement accounts, money grows exponentially. So if you are able to put your money in even a single year earlier, it makes a massive difference. So if you look at the difference between the guy that starts working/investing at 22 vs 30, it doesn’t matter how well the 30 year old diversifies his portfolio, he simply can’t beat the time in the market that the 22 year old has on…
/r/askRPC24/05/20 04:10 AM
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I’ve got one leg longer than the other, so my whole rear chain is pretty underdeveloped. Working towards addressing that, though. Squats have always been terrible on my back, but I’ve learned a few things over the last few months that help.
/r/RPChristians21/05/20 01:51 AM
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OYS #29: 5/20/2020 Background/Stats: 26, 6’3”, 232 pounds, married for 2 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: Got back into the gym for the first time yesterday. I've definitely lost a bit of strength over quarantine, but not terribly. Benched 205 for 8 reps for 5 sets. I probably could have gone up in weight to 225 for 5 sets, but I would like to go for more reps for right now. I'm doing IF every day except Sundays now. I got down to 232 the other day. I'm sti…
/r/RPChristians20/05/20 08:28 PM
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Your husband is the head of the house, as he should be. Now, if he is not contributing in any way while demanding you do everything, that is poor leadership and he should be called out for it. Is your husband a hard worker? Or is he lazy while expecting you to do everything? If he works hard and expects the same of you, then I would say he would be in the right. If he is playing playstation and drinking beer while expecting you to do all the work, then you need to speak up and let him know what …
/r/RPChristians18/05/20 05:10 PM
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You're right, I haven't read your OYS. I don't know what "hard heart basis" means, it seems to me to be something made up by church leadership to make addressing hard issues easier. The only justification for divorce that I know of was given by Christ, and I've taken it to mean physical cheating. Your wife does seem like a piece of work, and definitely not saved. I am going through something similar, though my wife is trying to pretend, or at least thinks she's Christian. I'm just trying to lead…
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 10:57 PM
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I think both of your are correct. If your primary reason for keeping your wife at home is to keep her from other men, it shows a horrible insecurity for your own value. However, I think there are definite benefits to having your wife stay at home with the kids. A well kept home, well adjusted kids, and a happy wife are not nothing. Most women are simply happier without the stress of a job, and homeschooled kids statistically do better than their peers, given the one on one treatment.
/r/askRPC08/05/20 10:43 PM
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If this stuff has been going on for so long, then give her the ultimatum, divorce papers in hand. If she decides to balk and whinge and debate, then tell her to sign. If she agrees to your terms, then goes back on them, then tell her to sign. Tell her that flirting with this other man is cheating in your mind and that this isn't acceptable. When you set your boundary with her, did you ever stipulate what would happen if she crossed said boundary? Your wife's behavior shows that she either does n…
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 10:33 PM
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It can be annoying seeing the amount of people that act like getting a divorce is the best solution to any marital issues. Maybe if you've been making steady progress for years and nothing changes, you can finally say "its all her", but that just isn't usually the case. Sure, you can get plenty of post wall girls willing to jump into bed with the first guy that shows them attention, but if simply getting sex was the goal, then why not go over to TRP? The goal of MRP should be to learn to lead yo…
/r/askMRP08/05/20 10:12 PM
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The issue with your mindset right now, at least in my opinion, is that you don't know that it has progressed to anything sexual yet. That leaves room that nothing has happened and then you would be divorcing your wife for non-biblical reasons. Obviously, there is room for interpretation for what "porneia" means in the Bible, but the overall concensus is that it is sexual in nature. What if she hasn't cheated yet, and you could have brought her back from the ledge? Ultimately, it's all your decis…
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 10:05 PM
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I'm sorry to tell you, but I think RP convention is accurate here: she's either cheating or she's trying to. If she wasn't, she wouldn't keep hiding it. Personally, I would probably go nuclear here. I would get divorce documents prepared, show them to her and let her know that she stops talking with that coworker, or she sign the documents.
/r/RPChristians08/05/20 09:47 PM
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I went off of keto for Easter, and have been slow in getting back into it. I do OMAD pretty much every day except weekends without a problem. I’m eating this week to try and get my body back into ketosis. When you combine keto and IF, you get great results. As far as the working out goes, yeah, I need to kick myself in gear.
/r/RPChristians07/05/20 03:57 PM
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What exact boundary are you setting with your wife? I wasn't there obviously, but correcting the difference between 16 and 17/18 is a pretty small thing to draw a line in the sand about. I guess the question is, does she show a pattern of trying to undercut your words with your friends or was it an isolated incident? If it was the first, then you probably did it right. If its the second, then it probably came off petty or weak. Only you know the situation, so if you felt that setting the boundar…
/r/RPChristians06/05/20 07:50 PM
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OYS #28: 5/6/2020 Background/Stats: 26, 6’3”, 236 pounds, married for 2 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: I am continuing to do keto/IF. I've decided to start eating lunch to try and get into ketosis. I think I'm not eating enough fat and eating too much protein. I haven't lost any weight, but I also haven't gained any, so I consider nothing lost. The biggest thing I need to get back in order is my exercise regimen. A did a lot of HIIT workouts with the wife…
/r/RPChristians06/05/20 07:42 PM
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Is your wife on birth control? I can tell you that that has a real effect on a woman’s libido, outside of your own attractiveness. My wife was as asexual as could be. We finally got her off birth control in January in preparation for trying to get pregnant, and her libido has never been stronger. We had sex 5 or 6 times in the last week. There might be something about the idea of her getting pregnant that turns her on, but we aren’t even trying yet. If you truly believe that it’s not something y…
/r/RPChristians03/05/20 02:06 PM
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Such questions aren't of any value. The Bible says to always be ready because the end will come like a thief in the night. Now do I think we are close to the end? Yes, but speculation is ultimately pointless. Christ Himself says that He does not know when the end will be, so why should we speculate?
/r/RPChristians27/04/20 09:16 PM
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Why not just start using a post flair system? It could help distinguish the posts for single men, married men, and women.
/r/RPChristians25/04/20 07:37 PM
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As the captain, it's your duty to care for your crew, which includes your first mate. If your wife's job is negatively affecting the family, then you need to take charge and fix it. And that does not necessarily mean telling her to quit the job or stop trying to work at all. You could set boundaries on when she is allowed to respond to business related messages: "no business after 5:30." Or, you could help her find a different hobby that keeps her busy. It's a problem that has a myriad of potent…
/r/askMRP23/04/20 03:14 PM
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Correct. From the Biblical perspective, think of the Pharisees praying loudly on the church steps. While the Pharisees publicly praised God, their hearts were far from Him. They were far more interested in gratifying their own egos than glorifying God. It’s this discrepancy between your external actions and your internal motivations that disgusts.
/r/RPChristians22/04/20 09:22 PM
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Why would those activities be something a Christian should do? Christ was about His Father’s work, not simply being a sponge for everyone to vent their problems to. He solved problems out of abundance and never showed any need for something in return. The behavior you are speaking of is kindness with covert contracts attached. Why, if you are doing these things out of love, are you concerned with how sexually attractive it is towards the woman? That’s the covert contract, you want to have sex wi…
/r/RPChristians22/04/20 08:22 PM
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Why do you think we want to reconcile those two ideas? You can use RP ideas to achieve RP goals, but RP goals are not Christian goals. We recognize the validity of some of what secular RP says, but not all. The emotionally unavailability/jerk thing is not attractive in and of itself. The attractiveness part of it is that it inherently springs from a man that is in no need of external validation from those around him. A jerk doesn’t care what anyone thinks about him and that is sexually attractiv…
/r/RPChristians22/04/20 07:31 PM
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Only you can tell what the right thing is here. You know you can still be her friend without marrying her, right? She’s already told you that she’s not attracted to you, and attraction is one of the foundations of a strong marriage. You have to want to be with the person and desire them. If you two married, she might be miserable if she did her wifely duties and you would be miserable if she did not. As far as the not kissing and hugging goes, why not? Those are signals of affection, not sex. Do…
/r/RPChristians17/04/20 03:09 PM
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The trick is that with the Holy Spirit, you won’t want sinful things and you will care for your fellow man. Someone who claims that they are saved, yet continue in selfishness and sin are likely not saved at all.
/r/RPChristians17/04/20 01:37 PM
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It’s odd, I’ve already “known” on a mental level that the old law isn’t the standard to which I should set myself, but it’s only today that the message really clicked. I put so much focus on “not doing the wrong things” instead of focusing on doing the right one: loving my neighbor as myself.
/r/RPChristians16/04/20 07:09 PM
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Congrats on your 1st OYS! I would recommend putting your weight in the physical section, along with your starting lifts. You should be lifting weights to put on some muscle, and build confidence. It doesn't matter where you start, even if it's just the bar, as long as you make progress week to week. I think 90% of the problems for most men can be fixed with getting into proper shape. As to the rest of your OYS, congratulations on figuring out that you would rather do a trade than your PhD work. …
/r/RPChristians16/04/20 03:28 PM
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OYS #27: 4/16/2020 Background/Stats: 26, 6’3”, 236 pounds, married for 2 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: I took off keto for easter, so I ate pretty badly, but I haven't gone up any on the scale. I'm doing some body weight HIIT workouts with my wife. I'm learning how little conditioning work I do, and that's pretty much all that my wife does. All I've really ever done was strength training, which does NOT translate much into conditioning. I am especially e…
/r/RPChristians16/04/20 03:19 PM
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1 Timothy 3 shows that there does have to be an overseer of some kind, and that overseer has to fit certain qualifications for the role. So, if the pastor doesn’t meet those qualifications, it’s probably not a church you want to join.
/r/RPChristians15/04/20 02:43 PM
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I’ve been doing bodyweight workouts and HIIT workouts with the wife. I’ve been mostly doing strength training since I’ve started lifting, and it’s eye opening how little actual conditioning I’ve been doing. So, I’m taking advantage of the situation and trying to get my heart in shape. I figure the increase in overall fitness will help fuel my heavy lifting when I get back in the gym.
/r/askMRP15/04/20 01:44 PM
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My church is pretty good about not going overboard with the “lovey dovey” songs. They are more about singing of God and Christ’s glory over “being in love.” Sometimes there are some weird ones, but for the most part, it’s not effeminate. My pastor often talks about how the church needs more masculinity and more strong men. He talks about how the prophets were kind hearted men, but they weren’t afraid to cut your head off either. I’m blessed to belong to a church that recognizes the problem and w…
/r/RPChristians14/04/20 03:39 PM
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You’ve already gotten it. Comfort your wife, take care of her, and get ready for your turn. Don’t leave the house.
/r/askMRP14/04/20 03:32 PM
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I might disagree with this one. It depends on what you would say godliness is. I would say it is having similar characteristics to God. God is powerful, God is strong, God is sovereign. Those are sexy characteristics. Women want men that embody those qualities in a very sexual way. But that's not all that God is. God is patient, God is merciful, God is abundant, God is giving. Women want men that embody those qualities in a very emotional way. Those are the beta tendencies that sustain a marriag…
/r/RPChristians13/04/20 04:02 PM
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This post is a good reminder of what is said in the sidebar: all RP knowledge is superseded by the Bible. I think there is a tendency, especially for newcomers, to see alpha as being the end-all, be all of life. That TRP is the secret to gain all that life has to offer. And yes, if all you were after was sex, TRP would get you sex in abundance. Being boastful and proud, combined with good physical form, will help you reach that goal of having as much sex as you like. But it’s folly. It’s not a w…
/r/RPChristians13/04/20 01:49 PM
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Post your stats and read the sidebar. Putting stats will help people here give you better advice. Read the sidebar to learn a little about what the community is about and some foundational stuff. And if you are serious about wanting coaching, start posting in OYS every Wednesday morning. It serves both as a journal entry for yourself and a way to get feedback and accountability from other people.
/r/RPChristians05/04/20 12:43 PM
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Agreed. God holds frame, we fall in line. If we remain in God’s frame, then we are unshakeable. It’s the whole premise of the analogy of a house being built on stone vs shifting sands. There is no sturdier frame, no more stable foundation than God’s. As Christians, we should seek to set our personal frame within God’s and we will be unshakeable.
/r/RPChristians05/04/20 12:39 PM
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You set the standard, not her. When my wife and I got married, I laid out exactly how I wanted our dishwasher to be loaded. She balked at first, then did as I asked. Now, it’s second nature for her. And when she teases you over something, it’s just her testing your frame. You A&A, AM, or any other “technique” you want to use and move on.
/r/askRPC05/04/20 12:11 PM
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I’ve got one leg longer than the other, so my legs have always been an issue. I’ve been working a lot lately to try and develop these under developed muscles. I’m using the quarantine time to build up a lot of these squat muscles so I can start going up on weight when all of this ends.
/r/RPChristians04/04/20 01:09 PM
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Someone who has truly accepted Christ CANNOT leave Christ. It is an impossibility. For someone to claim to have left the faith, it would mean that they never truly accepted Christ in the first place. There are many, many “believers” that have never accepted Christ. They believe in Christ, but they have never accepted him. They see Christ as a means of worldly gain and when it is no longer convenient, they cast Him aside. These people will claim to Christ on the day of Judgement that they believe…
/r/RPChristians03/04/20 03:52 PM
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Eh, I’ve heard that women really do get a ton of nausea with certain things during pregnancy, so i will probably be a little more sensitive to that. But, I won’t let her try and make me into an errand boy. I’ll just make sure that we are well stocked enough that she’ll have something that she can eat.
/r/RPChristians03/04/20 02:55 PM
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Even without being pregnant, my wife’s most overt “tests” are asking me to grab something, or refill her water cup, or to do some other inane task that she could easily do for herself. I tend to just laugh at her and force her to do it herself. I get the feeling that these tests are going to ramp up once she’s pregnant. I’ll just have to use judgement to see whether or not her requests are reasonable or not, just like I always do. But, with so little experience with pregnant women, I’ll probably…
/r/RPChristians03/04/20 02:33 PM
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You can’t “take a break” from Christianity. You are either a Christian, or you are not.
/r/RPChristians03/04/20 02:24 PM
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My wife and I plan on having our first child this year. I fully expect her to try and milk it for all it’s worth. I’ve got to find a balance between actually providing for and helping out my pregnant wife, and indulging her more entitled side.
/r/RPChristians03/04/20 02:17 PM
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OYS #26: 4/2/2020 Background/Stats: 26, 6’3”, 237 pounds, married for 2 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: I''m still doing OMAD 3 days per week and only having a cup of coffee with some creamer for breakfast on other days. I decided to eat carbs the other night, just to reset my system and hopefully break this plateau. I'm up on the scale a couple of pounds due to the water weight, but I predict I'll start losing again soon. I did that body weight workout la…
/r/RPChristians02/04/20 01:49 PM
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That was before she was married to Boaz. She was working for someone else to provide for her late husband’s mother and herself. She could have been like her sister-in-law and simply left her mother in law to fend for herself, but instead, she kept her obligation to that husband and his family and did everything she could to provide for them. I do agree with the fact that many women are indeed putting career ahead of their family these days, but I do not agree that a woman working outside of the …
/r/RPChristians01/04/20 05:22 PM
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I agree that women’s first priority must be God, then her husband and then his household. That doesn’t mean that stay at home mom is the only way that she can do that. If we look at the book of Ruth, one of her best qualities was that she worked extremely hard. So stay at home mom is not the only way. I like it personally, but there is nothing sinful about a woman working. Where it becomes sinful is where it conflicts with her duties as a wife and mother. Those must always come first.
/r/RPChristians01/04/20 02:41 PM
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It depends on the frat, tbh. Some haze and dehumanize their pledges, to the point that I consider anyone that stuck around to be pathetic. A good frat builds you up as a man. You’ve always got to serve your time at the bottom, but it should never be about taking away a man’s dignity. I highly recommend frat life, but preferably find a good one.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/20 02:36 AM
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Your post is heavily focused on your wife, and not yourself. Ask yourself, why, after 2.5 years, do you find yourself in a situation where you are even entertaining getting back with your ex wife. Shouldn’t you have a girlfriend by now? It seems to me that you are considering taking her back without ever having changed yourself. There was a reason your wife felt unsatisfied and that reason is you. Her sin is still hers to answer for, but you bear responsibility for your conduct in the marriage a…
/r/RPChristians27/03/20 12:03 AM
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Yeah, that was a killer body weight workout for sure! I set up steel bar in between two ladders to do rows on. Yes, I’m definitely blessed to be able to still earn a paycheck during this time and be impacted minimally. It’s mostly cabin fever that’s got me feeling restless. Both the cruise line and airlines are allowing cancellations for up to 48 hours prior to departure, so I’m covered there. As far as getting her pregnant during all of this, her OBGYN has said not to worry about it, but that w…
/r/RPChristians26/03/20 02:19 PM
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OYS #25: 3/25/2020 Background/Stats: 26, 6’3”, 237 pounds, married for 2 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: I've been extremely lazy last week with the coronavirus stuff going on. I got one good workout in before the gyms closed and since then, all I've done is go on the occasional walk. Chuck gave me a bodyweight routine yesterday, so I'm going to give that one a try today. I'm still sticking to my fasting, so I'm not letting myself gain any weight. Mental/P…
/r/RPChristians25/03/20 04:54 PM
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They can be friends with them without being sexually attracted.
/r/RPChristians25/03/20 01:02 AM
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As weak, ineffectual, and non-threatening as humanly possible.
/r/RPChristians24/03/20 11:42 PM
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Awesome, thanks!
/r/RPChristians24/03/20 07:58 PM
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Thankfully work is keeping me busier this week. Mostly just walking the dog and doing the occasional body weight exercise. I could definitely be doing a lot more, though. I was hoping this stuff would blow over in a couple of weeks, but that’s not looking to be the case.
/r/RPChristians24/03/20 07:02 PM
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Make sure to actually post in OYS. Self study is great, but OYS is where the real growth happens. You get to both keep track of your progress week to week, and you get light shed on your blind spots. I will literally copy and paste the OYS from the previous week in the comment box, and write this week’s update while looking at last week’s to see where I made progress and where I did not. OYS is like a diary and a source of feedback. Don’t underestimate how useful it can be.
/r/RPChristians24/03/20 03:50 PM
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Read the advice here OP, especially Chuck's comment. You know that you should break up with this girl, you are just hamstering away at reasons not to.
/r/RPChristians24/03/20 03:32 PM
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A lot of Christian men make it their mission to be as toothless and harmless as possible. It's no wonder that women aren't knocking down the door to get to them. If you want one of those women yourself, then become a high value man.
/r/RPChristians24/03/20 03:29 PM
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I can tell you this. I wish I had waited until marriage for sex. Don't get me wrong, it's a lot of fun, but it also does a lot to conceal flaws in a relationship that should be resolved before marriage. I think a lot of men have sex before marriage, which sets an expectation for them for after marriage. Women, on the other hand, have sex before marriage, with the expectation that things will be different after the marriage. It's why a lot of men see sex taper off after marriage. If you wait unti…
/r/RPChristians24/03/20 03:25 PM
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Yeah, I'm teleworking right now. I let myself be way too lazy last week. With all of the gyms closed around me, I'm trying to at least take some walks and get some work done around the house. I'm finding out that I do not do well when I'm off my routine. I tend to get way too lazy.
/r/RPChristians24/03/20 03:19 PM
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Hypergamy is NOT a guarantee of cheating. It's only a biological truth reflecting desire. Women desire men with status like men desire women with large breasts. Just because the other girl has larger breasts does NOT mean that you will leave your spouse to cheat with her. And just because your wife encounters gigaChad does NOT mean that she will cheat on you with him. She will only desire him. A truly Christian woman will feel the desire, let it pass, and stay true to her husband. Just like you …
/r/RPChristians24/03/20 03:00 PM
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That should be the post that gets linked every time someone asks "dad/bro/friend/whatever is bluepill. How do I change him". This is the way. You first have to set a shining example that others cannot help but notice. The Bible tells us we are called to be lights in the darkness, standing out from everyone else. This is where the modern church has failed. It seeks to relate to the world and does not demand excellence from its members. If we as Christian men want to share the good news of Jesus C…
/r/RPChristians24/03/20 02:53 PM
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I agree, in a way, but it’s not always the case. Me, I can put muscle on fairly easily when I lift, but if I don’t, I get fat easily. So for me, lifting and exercising should be a no brainer. It takes only a little effort for great gain. However, one of my friends was simply not blessed with a body that can easily gain muscle. He’s short and scrawny as can be. He simply can’t gain much muscle. So would he not be better served by working on his career and social life? He will never pick up a woma…
/r/TheRedPill22/03/20 06:06 PM
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I think the biggest point to take home is that a man’s measure of personal success must come from himself, not externally. Those measures of success can be external: looks, fortune, power, sex, etc. but these must be metrics chosen BY HIM. A woman can’t tell a man that he must make 6 figures to be considered successful and then the man make that his mission because of her. That’s letting others define who you want to be. A man’s mission is something only he can define.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/20 08:37 PM
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So maybe I’m wrong here, so someone correct me if I am, but we worship God because He is worthy of worship. We worship Christ because He is worthy of worship. Now, I’m not saying that you can just shirk your biblical marital obligations, because those are mandated by the Bible. But, you don’t have to pretend that everything is okay. You can act dissatisfied with your husband. If he is not behaving in a manner befitting a man, then why pretend that he is doing so? Submit to him, as he is your hus…
/r/RPChristians17/03/20 12:58 PM
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Some women get off on being used and do legitimately enjoy it. They get off on pleasuring their men and submitting. Swallowing a man's semen is a very submissive act that the woman might actually enjoy if you are high value.
/r/RPChristians16/03/20 01:41 PM
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Her OB thinks that she just has extra sensitive pain receptors, or something to that effect. My wife’s a nurse, so she told it to me in medicalese. She had surgery a year or so ago to look for endo, and she doesn’t have it, or any other indicator for what it could’ve.
/r/RPChristians14/03/20 03:41 PM
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OYS #23: 3/13/2020 Background/Stats: 26, 6’3”, 239 pounds, married for 2 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: Finally got down into the 30s. I've added 2 days of eating lunch back into my diet, and I've started losing again. I haven't lifted as much as I would like this week. I've had to go into the office late and had stuff to do after work. I'll try to make up for it this weekend. Mental/Professional: Still need to study for the FE more. I'm sure with the cor…
/r/RPChristians13/03/20 06:01 PM
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Its a different form of love. We love God for his power and abundance. Does that make that love any less real? The relationship between man and woman is modeled after the relationship between God and mankind. Women love us for our power and abundance. A lack of those qualities is unattractive. A woman's love reflect's our own love of God.
/r/askRPC11/03/20 08:39 PM
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Probably having sex before marriage. I regret it for its sinfulness. Did it harm our relationship? I don't know, as this is the only marriage I've ever had, but I wish I had waited.
/r/askRPC10/03/20 01:28 PM
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In your life, you will sin so much that you forget more sin than you remember. Make no mistake, you will remember every last one of those sins on the Day of Judgement. And you will he held accountable for them. As will we all, men and women alike.
/r/askRPC09/03/20 11:58 PM
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So she’s baiting you by telling you that you have no balls, and you just sit there and take it? Your wife is right. You’ve taken STFU to a literal extent. STFU is a blanket statement intended to stop spergs from going Rambo and making fools of themselves while they play act being a man. When you’re being insulted to that degree by your wife, just sitting there and taking it in silence is just confirmation that she is right. Obviously, your frame isn’t solid enough yet to handle that properly. Bu…
/r/askMRP09/03/20 11:56 PM
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It’s a subreddit largely dedicated to the self improvement of Christian men. A few women participate, but most posts are only applicable to men.
/r/RPChristians09/03/20 03:38 AM
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It's porn addiction. A lot of guys condition their brains to where they can only really get off by watching other people have sex. It's why cuckolding is becoming a "thing" now. Likewise, the amount of attention paid to the women in porn can also condition men to see the woman's role as more glamorous, and they start to fetishize the idea of being a woman. It's part of the whole "trans" movement. These are men that have never had the opportunity to have sex, have had their testosterone drained t…
/r/askTRP06/03/20 03:26 PM
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I don't follow any internet programs. I just focus on the compound lifts and keep it simple. Its worked pretty well on my upper body, so I expect it will work well for my lower body as well. I've got a leg length discrepancy, a pretty bad one, so my whole rear chain is out of balance. I've got some inserts now, so its helping when I lift. But, I definitely have to keep the weight low on squats for now.
/r/RPChristians05/03/20 08:54 PM
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I know it can be really easy to get defensive during this sort of thing and read malice into church leadership's decisions, but try to understand it from their perspective. Churches are under a lot of scrutiny, both catholic and protestant alike, for child abuse scandals. Even the appearance of one could prove detrimental. I'm sure that they are just trying to steer things away from that. I would just use something like groupme so that you can be considered above reproach. That should satisfy ev…
/r/RPChristians04/03/20 09:39 PM
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So while I understand your situation, and how it can definitely be irritating, I also see the church's standpoint. We are called to be above even the appearance of impurity. Snapchat is a bad idea for communicating with the kids. I know that it can be used for perfectly innocent communication, but it also has a (well-deserved) reputation for being a sexting app. If I were you, I would limit my conversation with the kids to just using groupme. It's a much better platform for it, anyways. And you …
/r/RPChristians04/03/20 09:27 PM
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Infatuation is natural and good. Where it turns bad is when it becomes "one-itus". There is no "the one". You can't get rid of infatuation because it is built into our biology by God. You have to learn to appreciate the desire you have for women, accept it, and either act on it by dating her, or let it pass. Keep in mind that scripture says that not all men are built to be chaste followers of God. Part of our directive is to "be fruitful and multiply". That is true in both the physical sense and…
/r/RPChristians04/03/20 09:10 PM
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OYS #22: 3/4/2020 Background/Stats: 26, 6’3”, 243 pounds, married for 2 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: Trying to break into the 40s. I've been really stagnating a lot on the scale lately. Before my trip a few weeks ago, I fasted extremely hard and got to 241. But, during the trip, I rebounded back up. I think the amount of fasting that I'm doing is actually having an adverse effect on weight loss. I'm adding back in a couple of days a week where I eat lun…
/r/RPChristians04/03/20 07:58 PM
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It's like giving charity. If you give money to a homeless man with reluctance in your heart and no particular love of giving, it doesn't really count in God's eyes. God wants us to be giving people by our very nature, not just because that is what He says we should do. A beggar that gives his last coin is more justified than the rich man that gives a quarter of his wealth. Because that beggar gave his last coin because he wanted to, and for most people, it would be an extremely hard and bitter t…
/r/RPChristians04/03/20 03:07 PM
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It's pretty unlikely. I'm only 10 pounds or so heavier than she is and she's almost a foot shorter than me. That's not to say that a guy wouldn't give her attention, just that it's less likely. She also just bought a new vibrator after months of her other vibrator being broken. She never cared to replace it, since she never felt horny. I find out this past weekend that she just bought a new one. That's highly indicative to me that she is gaining a renewed interest in sex in general. I'm fairly c…
/r/RPChristians03/03/20 08:45 PM
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You asked if men were hypergamous. I answered no. There is a difference between sexual inclinations (of which hypergamy is one) and what you consider good marriage material. A man can find a woman extremely sexy and not want her for marriage. That doesn't make him hypergamous for wanting a less sexy girl for marriage. Hypergamy by definition only describes sexual inclinations.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 04:36 PM
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No, because men (absent any sense of morality) will have sex with a lower status woman than himself. A woman, on the other hand, will generally not sleep with a lower status man. She would rather save herself for a higher status man. A man doesn't have that long-term thinking when it comes to sex. We can have sex with a lower status woman in the morning and have a higher status one in the evening, and it make perfect sense to us. A woman has to choose who she allows to impregnate her, because sh…
/r/askTRP02/03/20 04:30 PM
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I definitely want to get a new house in the next 3 years or so, but I don't think we can afford to outright build one. I haven't done any actual calculations yet, though. I know that we will be able to afford a newer one next year, as I will be making significantly more money, but God willing, we will also have a new child to care for. Overall, I don't think the idea of a new house is out of the question, the real question is if we have the budget to just outright build one or not. It's usually …
/r/RPChristians27/02/20 08:26 PM
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Like I said, I'm not worrying myself about it. I'll keep my eyes open, so I'm not blindsided, but I'm also not going to work myself into a paranoid mess. I just felt that it needed mentioning.
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 08:59 PM
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Again, in 2 years of marriage, and 5.5 years together, I've maybe seen her get even close to that way once. I'm still keeping my eyes open, but I have no intention of being paranoid about it and worrying/stressing myself to death over it. If I find out she cheated, I'll divorce her and move on, child or no child. I won't stay with a cheating spouse under any circumstance. But like I said, I think it's unlikely. She wouldn't have had time to go anywhere else to cheat. She could have done it at th…
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 08:56 PM
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OYS #21: 2/12/2020 Background/Stats: 26, 6’3”, 243 pounds, married for 2 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: Still fasting a lot, for the most part. I went out of town on a work trip for most of last week, so I wasn't able to fast due to working lunches. I still avoided carbs, though I think the ettoufe' I had had some starches mixed in with it. I actually got down to 241 pound the week before, but I've rebounded up somewhat due to eating more last week. Still…
/r/RPChristians26/02/20 06:54 PM
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The difference is where your valuation comes from. Does it come externally, from your interactions with women, men, bosses, friends, etc.? That is the kind of “ego” that is destructive, needy, and weak. Or does it come from within yourself? The metric you use to determine your worth should come from your own self judgement, not your wife, not your friends, and certainly not from strangers on the internet. You know how awful and weak you are, far more than anyone else in the world. And if you kno…
/r/askMRP26/02/20 05:54 PM
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How do you know she's not a Christian?
/r/RPChristians25/02/20 02:13 PM
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We had a discussion on Colossians this week in Sunday School. We discussed the verses about wives submitting to their husbands and husbands loving their wives and the discomfort was almost palpable. Listening to the wives in the group go through mental gymnastics to turn the word "submit" into "respect" was funny because I knew it would happen, but disheartening. Too often, the church tries to reconcile scripture with worldly virtue and you run into things like this. I think it's the biggest wea…
/r/RPChristians24/02/20 05:48 PM
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There is a ton of wisdom contained in the Bible for both Christians and non-Christians. I would highly recommend reading it yourself, and if you would like the perspective of a non-Christian philosophy from it, listen to Jordan B Peterson’s Biblical lectures. He approaches the Old Testament stories from a philosophical point of view and does a good job of distilling the wisdom contained down into a lecture.
/r/RPChristians22/02/20 08:38 PM
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Absolutely, scripture memory can be a powerful tool to purify oneself. However, it must be accompanied by the death of the sinful self in Christ. There are some who are not truly saved that will see this and put their faith in their ability to memorize scripture. It will not work until you have given yourself over to Christ in your entirety. That is the first step. Scripture memorization comes after.
/r/RPChristians22/02/20 08:34 PM
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Your body is a temple. It should be kept clean and pure.
/r/RPChristians22/02/20 06:43 PM
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The ability to have sex and have children in the God-ordained manner.
/r/RPChristians18/02/20 01:53 PM
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Places like TRP and MRP, which is where this sub originally sprang from. Neither of those subs have a biblical basis in their teaching and leave all morality out of their decision making. TRP encourages sleeping around with many different women and MRP encourages divorce as a solution to marital problems. RPC merges the valid practical concepts from those subs with Biblical morality.
/r/RPChristians18/02/20 01:48 PM
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Too process oriented? That would be like saying that the Bible is too process/result oriented for telling you right and wrong. Most RP orthodoxy is in the Bible in some form or another. The only real complaint is that TRP itself springs from cheesy 2000s pickup artists, and even then, it's ironic that all those pickup artists did were rediscover the things that anyone who has read the Bible already knew.
/r/RPChristians18/02/20 01:44 PM
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I just teased her when she mentioned being crazy off birth control. I told her "I don't know, I might like a little crazy in the bedroom" or something to that effect. I am curious to see if the testing ramps up as the birth control gets out of her system. The only real testing I ever get from her is her asking me to do things for her that she could clearly do herself. I mostly put it in my OYS because she's been on birth control since she was like 13 or so. I'm sure getting off of hormones like …
/r/RPChristians13/02/20 02:49 PM
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Read through this comment carefully, OP. Does any of the behavior that this pastor demonstrated point to Christ? The Bible calls on us to be above even the appearance of impurity, and your pastor has gone way past acceptable conduct. Change churches.
/r/RPChristians13/02/20 02:36 PM
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OYS #21: 2/12/2020 Background/Stats: 26, 6’3”, 243 pounds, married for 2 years. Bench 245(5 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: Doing a lot of fasting to lose weight before the cruise in May. Got back down to pre-Christmas weight and am now back to making progress. I hope to be in the 220s by May. I'm finding that my bench is pretty much going to stay where it is as I'm cutting calories pretty severely. I fast basically every weekday and only eat one meal at night. I'm trying to…
/r/RPChristians12/02/20 06:32 PM
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If a beggar gives gives just a single dollar, which is all he owns, he has given more in God's eyes than the billionaire that gave $100K. So in God's eyes, giving freely without concern for yourself is how to approach it. Give the money that your in-laws are requesting with no expectation that it will be repaid. God will ensure that you are repaid in abundance, whether in this life or the next.
/r/RPChristians11/02/20 10:28 PM
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Own it? Why pretend to believe things that you don’t? If you lie and say you don’t believe in conservative values, then you betray yourself and worse still, you betray Christ. From the standpoint of being a Christian alpha, what’s more alpha, changing your beliefs to match your surroundings, or maintaining your principles in the face of opposition? The only way you lose your dignity is if you betray what you believe in because someone tries to shame you for it. Show some spine and while you may …
/r/RPChristians09/02/20 06:52 PM
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Have fun? Learn more about her? Your mindset is already to a bad start: you are trying to “win” this girl. Let her win you. Like secular RP circles like to say: “women are the gatekeepers of sex, and men are the gatekeepers of relationships.” As a Christian man, you aren’t going to be seeking pre-marital sex. So that leaves you with the power of deciding if you want to start a relationship with this girl. So have fun, get to know each other and relax.
/r/askRPC09/02/20 03:40 PM
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What if that situation is where God wants you, though? All but one apostle were murdered horribly for their faith. God didn’t take them out of that situation. Life for a believer will have struggle and pain. The real strength we gain from God is not our ability to come out of trouble unscathed, it’s our ability to hope in Christ, in spite of oppression. Our brothers and sisters around the world that are suffering for their faith may never escape from their horrible worldly “situations”, but thei…
/r/RPChristians06/02/20 09:36 PM
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So yes, women get cravings when they are pregnant, but you are a man. You do not have to cater to her every whim. If she is 9 months pregnant and can hardly get up to waddle over to a waffle iron, then helping her out is fine. However, since she is just now pregnant, how about you let her go fulfill her own cravings? As far as the budget goes, you set the budget. If she wants expensive foods while pregnant that falls outside of what you consider reasonable, just say no. There is absolutely nothi…
/r/askRPC06/02/20 07:58 PM
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Is it not rational to follow God's commands? I just want to make sure we are careful about the feel-good churchianity that so infects the modern church.
/r/RPChristians06/02/20 07:53 PM
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I agreed up until you said "let go of your logical mind." God's existence is logical and rational. There is a tendency in Christian circles today to relinquish the realm of logic to the secular world and let our feelings guide us. That is not a masculine approach to faith, that is a feminine one. We men are guided by our rationality far more than our feelings. For women, it makes more sense to let their feelings guide them. For men, a cool rationality is generally better. It is entirely rational…
/r/RPChristians06/02/20 04:58 PM
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Here's the way that I looked at my wedding (especially since the in-laws paid for it): I saw it as a giant party where everyone I know and love were invited. Cliche', I know, but it really was one of the best days of my life, and not simply because my wife and I were being joined together. It was just a day of pure joy and celebration. Prior to the ceremony, I hung out with my groomsmen and my father, drinking and reliving old stories. We had a blast. Then we did the ceremony. Afterward, my wife…
/r/askRPC03/02/20 09:08 PM
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If she is being this overt with it, it means she wants out. If she is saying that "it's okay if you sleep with other girls", it means she is conditioning you to be okay with her sleeping with other guys. Which most likely means she has already done so. Contact a lawyer, get some basic divorce details ironed out. It's never good for a woman to say things like that.
/r/askMRP30/01/20 03:32 PM
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I think of Machiavellianism as being practical without regard to virtue or morality. So if brown-nosing the boss while also talking badly of him to his superiors is what will advance your interests, you do so. I don't believe Christians should aspire to be Machiavellian. We should instead aspire to be wise and strong. Be wise enough and strong enough to overcome without having to abandon virtue. "The Prince", from what I know of it, emphasizes political and personal expediency over virtue.
/r/RPChristians29/01/20 02:07 PM
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"Fake it til you make it" is simply an adage to help someone get past the awkward transition stage of change. If you are someone who grew up with no game all of his life, you aren't suddenly going to feel like a strong, confident man. You have to fake it, in spite of the insecurity you feel. Eventually, that false confidence become real confidence and the fake persona becomes your real personality. Telling someone to just be genuine is the same as telling them to be their insecure, vulnerable se…
/r/TheRedPill24/01/20 10:11 PM
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So to the most obvious thing that no one suffering from depression likes to hear: are you exercising? I've suffered some depressive bouts several times in my life and they all just so happened to coincide with times I was lazy, eating junk food, and not getting out of the house. And of course depression tends to worsen those things, doesn't it? So the first course of action is to simply get up and start doing something. Clean your house or apartment top to bottom, then find a gym and go there. I…
/r/askRPC21/01/20 06:44 PM
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Hamster running amok. If she was abused in the past, sorry to say, she’s damaged goods anyways. Read Practical Female Psychology. Your wife sounds like low self esteem, high sex drive. She seeks out abuse because she gets off on it. She probably even convinced herself that you raped her as part of some fantasy that she is now convinced was real. These type women waffle between abusers, then nice guys, then go back to abusers. Her ex was probably an abuser and you were a nice guy. She told you ab…
/r/askMRP17/01/20 03:57 PM
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The church should forgive a woman for that. A man should forgive her, yet realize there are better options for a wife. The problem is that our society has castrated so many men that a large percentage of them will go with any woman that gives them the time of day. The solution is simple: begin raising your male children in masculinity early and set a good example. There's no real society-wide simple fix. It starts with yourself becoming a valuable, masculine man who then teaches his male childre…
/r/askRPC16/01/20 02:37 PM
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You seem to be asking us to help you come up with a way to sidestep the doctrine of your denomination, and that is neither something we can do, nor something you should even be requesting. If you do believe that all sexual activity must be life-giving, then you should be having sex with your wife to have more children, or you should be abstaining. It is God that decides whether or not sex will yield a child and if He decides to bless you with children 6-10, then that is what He will do. Now if y…
/r/RPChristians13/01/20 06:28 PM
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I don't believe there's a biblical basis for being against interracial marriage. It's ultimately up to your own choice. Me, I'm not attracted to black women in the slightest, but I do like Latinas and some asians. I don't see an issue with being with different races as long as I am abiding by God's rules.
/r/askRPC13/01/20 04:06 PM
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Your lifts are tiny and you weigh practically nothing. Put on some muscle before you start looking at your wife. You say you lost 50 pounds. Great, you lost a lot of fat. But now you are tiny and weak. You need to put on muscle. The first inclination that most men have, myself included, is to blame your wife. Don't. You can't control her behavior, you can only control yourself. So get disciplined enough to get into the gym and raise those lifts. Make sure you are eating enough to build muscle. A…
/r/askMRP13/01/20 04:03 PM
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If you are lifting (as you should be), your testosterone levels will indeed go up. You will feel more sexual desire and confidence.
/r/RPChristians10/01/20 06:06 PM
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OYS #20: 1/8/2020 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 255 pounds, married for 2 years. Bench 245(4 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Physical: Back to the grind after a lengthy holiday break. Since I started eating carbs over the break, my weight has gone up around 10 pounds in mostly water weight. I expect to be back around 245 in two weeks, after my body gets keto-adjusted. I haven't lost any progress on lifts, fortunately. With our trip to Europe coming in May, I want to lose as much weight …
/r/RPChristians08/01/20 06:32 PM
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Exactly. You can’t discount everything he says, but your understanding has to be tempered with a knowledge that he is not a Christian in truth.
/r/askRPC01/01/20 01:29 AM
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Not a lawyer, but I have heard that moving out does disadvantage you in the divorce proceedings by granting your soon to be ex the presumption of owning the family home. So if you do move out, a judge could see that as proof that you are capable of providing a home for both yourself and her and simply giving the house to her. Just hearsay on my end, but it’s generally considered a bad decision to move out before the divorce.
/r/askMRP30/12/19 07:54 PM
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I attend a church that is actually most of the way RP’d. When we were going through Ephesians, there is still a bit of apologizing for the call to wives to submit, but it was still stated bluntly, with no trying to reason away the truth. I don’t know how other churches operate, though. However, I don’t think any real turnaround is going to occur universally through the church. A church is going to reflect the attitude of its members. As society continues to progress away from the godly order, mo…
/r/RPChristians27/12/19 04:28 PM
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I always get suspicious when I see someone bring up Jordan Peterson. There is certainly value in some of what he says, but he is definitely NOT a Christian. He follows the idea that the Bible isn’t real, but there is value in living your life like it is. So while Peterson does actually provide some understanding of Biblical truths, he is leading a lot of people to a false sense of faith. So while churches might see some extra attendance, a lot of those people will not be truly saved.
/r/askRPC27/12/19 04:21 PM
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Do things that would garner external validation and simply don’t talk about them or flaunt them. Work out, get ripped, and never talk about how much work you put in to do it. Learn guitar, painting, smithing, or any other skill and never discuss the hard work that went into learning it. The idea is that you do those things because they are worth doing, not to gain anyone else’s praise. If it comes unsolicited, take the compliment, show humility and move on.
/r/askTRP22/12/19 04:59 AM
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Lifting boosts testosterone and overall energy levels. Likewise, there’s very little you can do about your face outside of surgery. But lifting is something that anyone can do that improves every aspect of your life, not just women.
/r/askTRP19/12/19 10:08 PM
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Seriously, the Bible. So much of it is about being unflappable in your convictions, even as the entire world stands against you.
/r/askMRP18/12/19 07:48 PM
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Great for losing weight, bad for athletes that need that explosive power. For sedentary people, keto is great. They don’t need calorie dense carbs or extra energy storage, they need calories that burn over a longer period of time that don’t stick around. When you eat carbs, glucose that you don’t use immediately gets stored in the muscles. This helps your muscles when performing strenuous exercise (like athletes often do) by providing a quick energy source to burn. It’s similar to creatine in th…
/r/askMRP18/12/19 07:45 PM
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OYS #19: 12/18/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 245 pounds, married for 2 years. Bench 245(4 rep max), DL 225, squat 155, leg press 230 Been about a month since I last updated OYS with the holidays and not much happening, but wanted to make an update to keep the habit up. Physical: Diet has still been steady. I've added carbs back in as of this week, so I should see some water weight gain over the next week. I will not be achieving my goal of 240 by New Years. It was definitely an achievable goa…
/r/RPChristians18/12/19 07:01 PM
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I thought this post had a lot of wisdom that is in line with biblical values. Thought it was worth cross-posting.
/r/RPChristians18/12/19 05:29 PM
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I think it’s the difference between active confrontation with a potential threat vs maintaining a defensive posture. If you are acting defensively (searching her phone, constantly managing her to keep her away from men, etc.) then the presumption is that there is a reason for you to be scared. If you aren’t worried about any other guys, then some guy comes up and starts flirting with your wife, then that is a scenario where you are actively confronting competition and turning it away would be al…
/r/askMRP17/12/19 05:47 PM
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So you think you are perfect in every way, huh? Have you even met this guy? If you were really as great as you are trying so hard to portray yourself to be, this post wouldn't exist. You would have already been with women much younger and much hotter than your soon to be ex wife and wouldn't have given this a second thought. Instead, you are talking to internet strangers about why your wife left you. The first step is figuring out who you are. Figure out your strengths and weaknesses. Hint: focu…
/r/askMRP16/12/19 06:46 PM
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Let's say for the sake of an exercise that you are correct and he is truly the beta and you look like the RP Chad you've always dreamed of being. Guess what? She could still branch swing and be happy doing it. You can look fantastic, but if you are boring, she might be happy being with a guy that actually has an exciting life. You live your life lifting and eating right, then spend the rest of your time watching television while this guy gets invited to every party and event, and maybe she wante…
/r/askMRP16/12/19 06:27 PM
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That last paragraph really made it click. Thank you!
/r/RPChristians16/12/19 02:26 PM
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Its the difference between lifting and eating right to get in shape and doing those things as a new lifestyle. The guy that does that just to reach a goal will inevitably gain weight/lose muscle once he achieves it, where the other guy will continue far beyond what he ever expected to reach when he first set the goal. It's the difference between the man that is simply play acting all of the RP wisdom and the man who adds that wisdom to who he is. It's the difference between the Christians that b…
/r/RPChristians16/12/19 02:20 PM
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Just remember that God is great during the good times and God is great during the bad times. I like to caution people when things are going well that things can always go horribly wrong tomorrow, and that that is okay too. Too often, people believe their own version of the "prosperity gospel" that if you simply love God and Jesus enough, then you will receive material wealth on Earth and nothing bad will ever happen to you. That's not the case. Our treasures are stored away in heaven rather than…
/r/RPChristians13/12/19 10:30 PM
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I wouldn't read a book on masculinity written by a woman. And I agree with the guy on the willingness to sacrifice yourself for the sake of your wife and family. I mean that in the literal sense: be willing to jump in front of a bullet for them. That doesn't mean sacrifice your mission or your goals, or even your happiness. It's literally be willing to sacrifice your life for their wellbeing. Place their safety and security ahead of your own. Not their happiness, their safety.
/r/askRPC11/12/19 03:12 PM
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You need to go with her to celebrate Christmas with her family, as they are your family now as well. Your physique is actually above average for your size, so I suspect its more an issue of your frame and leadership. What are your hobbies? Do you maintain an active and fun social life? What were you like when the two of you met, and how have you changed? You need to do some honest self reflection about who you are as a person and ask if that person is someone that women would be attracted to. An…
/r/RPChristians09/12/19 08:05 PM
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If you are a Christian man that wants sex, then you must get married. It’s as simple as that. Now we can get into what exactly constitutes a marriage. A marriage license held by the government does not have to mean marriage. Your true covenant is held by God, not the government. And He does NOT permit no fault divorce. So, theoretically, you can have your wedding with your woman and be married to her and simply never get it legally recognized by the state. It’s not required.
/r/RPChristians07/12/19 03:35 PM
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Is it a higher standard due to purity or is it a higher standard due to more practical considerations? Part of the discussion is that if a man cannot properly run his own household, how then could he properly run the household of God? So with multiple wives, his household would take up more of his time, distracting him from his duties to the church.
/r/RPChristians06/12/19 02:33 PM
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I think polygamy is more of a cultural prohibition rather than a biblical one. I’m open to having that idea changed, but I’ve never seen a prohibition on multiple wives in the Bible and it’s clear that God even told Abraham to take his wife‘s servant as a wife. By itself, it isn’t sinful. It’s only sinful because it is outlawed by our nation’s law.
/r/RPChristians05/12/19 10:43 PM
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I can’t remember the technical term, but men aren’t hypergamous, we are something else. Women’s sex drive tells them to get with the highest value man and stick with him. Men’s sex drives tells us to spread our seed far and wide. So we are happy to have sex with the hot model, then a few hours later screw the average looking maid as well.
/r/RPChristians05/12/19 08:15 PM
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AWALT holds true for all women. All women desire the highest status men, like all men desire the sexiest woman. AWALT does not mean that all women will act on those desires, simply that all of them have those desires.
/r/RPChristians05/12/19 05:51 PM
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Post your stats.
/r/RPChristians02/12/19 08:05 PM
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You don’t have to do it in an isolated context, and you don’t even have to use the word “date” when you ask. You can simply ask “hey, want to grab dinner and a movie Friday night?”
/r/RPChristians02/12/19 07:57 PM
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What are her thoughts on kids? If she’s political, what does she believe? There are 3 things that need to be aligned when considering a woman for marriage: religion, politics, and children.
/r/askRPC02/12/19 07:53 PM
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Treat her as you would any other human being, no better, no less. Taking the woman off the pedestal does not mean casting her down into a pit. It means recognizing yourself as the natural, God ordained leader in the relationship and adopting that role while-heartedly. And as leader, your mission comes first. As part of that, you need to ensure that your team is well equipped to aid you in accomplishing that mission, so take care of your woman as you give her direction to aid you.
/r/RPChristians30/11/19 04:20 AM
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Are you going to make a statement on it, or just posting a long video for the sake of it?
/r/RPChristians28/11/19 10:15 PM
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Adding in cardio doesn't seem like it could be a bad thing, as long as it doesn't impact your lifting. You could look into High Intensity Interval Training (HIIT) for on your off days. They say its the best way to burn extra calories.
/r/askMRP27/11/19 02:02 PM
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Continue having them somewhere else rather than the church. The church is under the care of the pastor, so it’s ultimately his decision whether it’s right or wrong. However, if you feel that what you are doing is right, simply moving locations is a minor inconvenience at most.
/r/askRPC27/11/19 01:13 PM
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So the idea that I had heard for people using fasting to cut is to eat on your lifting days to fuel your workout and get the most out of it, then fast on your "rest days." Personally, I've been doing the opposite, but I've been considering swapping it up. I've been fasting on my lifting days and lifting on an empty stomach, then eating a protein rich meal within an hour of lifting. Then I up the calories on my recovery day to fuel muscle growth/repair. I feel like I've been seeing decent strengt…
/r/askMRP26/11/19 10:11 PM
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Not sure, but it’s the one that I’ve always held and it has served me well.
/r/RPChristians26/11/19 04:24 PM
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Broken record enforcement. When your wife wants to push the boundary, you assert it and reassert it until she backs down. If she crosses the line, then rebuke her and punish it in some way. If it is not something sexually immoral, then divorce is not on the table as a punishment. Your punishment for her could merely be withdrawing time and attention from her. It could be deciding not to go with her to her office Christmas party. And when you decide to enforce that boundary with punishment, whate…
/r/RPChristians26/11/19 04:06 PM
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I’ve always held it as a list of priorities. God and Christ come first in everything, then my family, then my friends, then mankind. No idea what they believe, so no opinion.
/r/RPChristians26/11/19 03:53 PM
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There are several books on MRP that discuss it. I would look at the sidebar there.
/r/askTRP25/11/19 05:59 PM
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She left you. Sucks. Happens to a lot of guys. The question is, what are you going to do about it? You can sit and wax poetic about the injustice of it all and how evil women are like the incels and MGTOW do, or you can get over it like a man and go build a life that you want to live. She made her choice and if you looked at yourself honestly, you would probably agree that you are boring and unattractive. Get up and get to work building your life or wallow in your misery. Your choice.
/r/askMRP25/11/19 05:34 PM
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What he’s saying is that you are putting the woman on a pedestal. That she is somehow above you, and that you have to become worthy of her love and attention. Basically, you are placing yourself in her frame before you even start dating. It’s a real rule of relationships that the one who cares the least has all the power in the relationship. With the attitude that you are approaching this girl with, you are surrendering all of the power to her. Imagine you do manage to get this girl into a relat…
/r/askRPC25/11/19 03:20 PM
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You're right, I should have told her that. I was harsher with her than I should have been, even as I told her that I had nothing to say. I should have been upfront about it. She's done some physical therapy for a few months earlier this year, and it did seem to help for a little while, but the pain still seems to be an issue and seems to be getting back to how it was before she started it.
/r/RPChristians20/11/19 10:04 PM
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OYS #18: 11/20/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 248 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 235(4 rep max), DL 195, squat 135, leg press 270 Physical: Diet still going well. Down another pound this week, so I'm on track to hit my goal of 240 by New Years. Bench has stagnated somewhat, but when I benched last, I hadn't eaten in around 36 hours, so I'm sure that had everything to do with it. I've started on Deadlift and squats again, so those numbers should start trending upwards. Right now, …
/r/RPChristians20/11/19 06:42 PM
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I started at 315 and am down to 248 right now. Fasting +keto is a godsend. Fasting really helps with appetite control.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 02:51 PM
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This is where I differ on RP orthodoxy. Most RP says "don't get married at all, but if you do, wait until you are in your 30's and marry a girl in her early-mid 20's." Biblically, if we are able to control our sexual desires and be chaste, then that is what we should in fact do. However, most men are unable to do this, and so marriage is how we are able to express our sexual desires in a God-approved manner. So if you are able to wait until your 30s to have sex, then it begs the question why get…
/r/RPChristians15/11/19 06:37 PM
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So the question is, is it you, or is it your wife? Do you get attracted to other women? Do you feel desire for them instead of your wife? If so, then it’s your wife and MRP can probably give you direction. If it’s you, then you need to talk to a doctor about it.
/r/askMRP14/11/19 06:47 PM
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Time and attention is a tool. Use it. Let her know the consequences. “Until you can speak to me like a reasonable adult, this conversation is over. Do NOT touch my things without my permission. “. Then walk away and continue doing what you were doing. Don’t talk to her, don’t engage when she inevitably continues trying to keep the argument going, and don’t respond when she texts you later in the day. Let her hamster run wild for the day and by the time you get home, she is going to be desperate …
/r/RPChristians14/11/19 06:22 PM
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Just kiss her dude if that’s what you want to do. Women want a man that is willing to make that first move. Realize that if she doesn’t want to be kissed, she wouldn’t put herself in a position to be.
/r/RPChristians14/11/19 02:35 PM
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Idk, that sounds like being a pushover to me. STFU is simply about not emotionally vomiting like a woman. If your wife is being disrespectful, you have a right and I would even say an obligation to call her out on it in a simple and direct manner. Would you accept your child talking to you that way? Or any other man? Simply saying “I refuse to engage with you on this while you are acting this way” and leaving seems to me to be a more appropriate response to such disrespectful behavior.
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 10:23 PM
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Maybe some guys with more experience than I do can weigh in, but I feel you should have drawn a line at messing with your things. With how she started throwing a tantrum, you came off more as a pushover than as a man in control of his family. As it stands, she crossed what should be a hard boundary of what is acceptable behavior and then you did nothing to enforce that boundary.
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 08:41 PM
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I don’t think you should worry about censoring the message. If feminism clashes with the Bible then it IS wrong and we should be unapologetic in saying so. If a church puts someone on thin ice for teaching the Bible, then it is not truly a church of God.
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 08:29 PM
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OYS #17: 11/13/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 249 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 235(4 rep max), DL 195, leg press 270 Physical: Finally got my diet back under control and what do you know? I'm right back on track. My goal is to be at 240 by the new year. Hard, but achievable. I just have to be careful not to get too terribly derailed by Thanksgiving and Christmas. After several weeks worth of weird schedules, my lifting routine is definitely out of sorts. I haven't lost any prog…
/r/RPChristians13/11/19 07:12 PM
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Stats???? (This is important if you want good advice) As far as your wife and her faith, that is between her and Christ. You can make the introduction, but you can't make her love Christ. Find a good church, then start attending regularly with your kids. Your wife can stay home if she likes, or she can go. Either way, it doesn't affect you (outcome independence). Build the life you say you want to build. Make that your goal, find out how to accomplish it, then make it happen. Believe it or not, …
/r/askRPC12/11/19 05:56 PM
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Post in OYS. Writing down all the ways you failed in the past week has a way of putting things into perspective and motivating you to get things right the next. If you post for two weeks straight about something you’ve failed at, make that thing a priority and get it done.
/r/askMRP11/11/19 03:26 PM
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Your weight seems low for that height. You can put on some pounds of muscle. Become more attractive and be less unattractive. Realize that the focus of RP is not on you wife changing/improving, but rather on yourself improving. Your wife, if you are attracted to her, has nothing to improve on in the realm that most of us are looking for: sex. She physically can’t make herself attracted to you. Only you can do that by becoming attractive. If your wife isn’t responsive, then it means she isn’t att…
/r/askRPC09/11/19 12:28 AM
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Stats? If your wife is not attracted to you, then no matter what you do or say, she is never going to be thrilled by the idea of sex with you. You can’t negotiate attraction, whether through talking or handing your wife a book. Post your stats and we’ll see the answer for why she is resistant.
/r/askRPC08/11/19 10:50 PM
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Your wife notices, she just wants to make sure that YOU don’t notice. I’m sure the boob job idea is probably a combination of your improvement and her anxiety over her aging body. So your SMV is improving while hers is steadily dropping. In her eyes, a boob job might make her competitive.
/r/RPChristians07/11/19 10:52 PM
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Go to r/keto. You’ll learn everything you need to know. Keto isn’t simply just low carb, it’s high fat. I would recommend that you spend a month eating high fat, keeping carbs to below 20g per day. That should be enough time to get you well into ketosis. Then, add in some light intermittent fasting. It’s much easier to do when you are doing keto because you body is acclimated to burning fat.
/r/askMRP05/11/19 01:30 PM
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I found that my porn use compounded all of the other issues in my life. I was already living a lazy life on autopilot. I didn’t exercise, I ate like crap, and did the minimal amount necessary to simply get by in everything I did. I had no drive. Porn use ended up making all of those bad habits exponentially worse. Excessive masturbation sapped any energy I could have used to want to exercise. It put me into prolonged depression that made me want to eat like crap. It robbed me of the natural driv…
/r/RPChristians05/11/19 03:41 AM
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If you have something to share that’s worth sharing that you want to share, then do it. The whole mystery idea doesn’t appear to me to be attractive in and of itself. I don’t think women are attracted to mystery. It’s simply that when you don’t spill your guts on the first date, you have far less chance of shooting yourself in the foot by letting her know that you are boring.
/r/askRPC04/11/19 08:52 PM
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Don’t make being mysterious the focus. All it’s saying is to not spill your entire life story on the first date. If anything, you should be getting hers from her. Remember, she is auditioning for the role of your girlfriend, not the other way around. She should be qualifying herself to you. The idea of using “mystery” as a pickup tactic appears to come from the idea that most men simply aren’t very exciting. If you have exciting stuff to talk about, go ahead. If you are a former navy seal-turned…
/r/askRPC04/11/19 02:58 PM
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So you mentioned that you let her dictate when you have sex now. That means that you guys had a discussion about the quality of sex. If she brought it up, then you should have held frame. Instead, you yielded it to her and now, she holds the keys to sex. You username is “love is conditional.” With a name like that, you should understand that your love for her has conditions: sex. You are the man, you bear the responsibility of initiating sex. By giving her that responsibility, you essentially gi…
/r/askMRP02/11/19 09:16 PM
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Lol, I’ve already said it. And it’s completely true. With God, I don’t have to worry. I could be being delivered into the hands of ISIS terrorists, and I still wouldn’t have to worry: I know where I’m going. It frees you from worry completely.
/r/RPChristians01/11/19 10:38 PM
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OYS #16: 10/30/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 256 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 235(4 rep max), DL 195, leg press 270 Physical: Like I predicted last week, I did not get much time at the gym. This week, I'm doing much better. I got a really good, intense upper body workout Monday, planning on doing the same for lower body today. I was pretty bad over the weekend diet-wise, ate a lot of garbage tailgate food. From now until Christmas, I am committed to eating properly. I gained 6…
/r/RPChristians30/10/19 05:39 PM
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Try to get him to the gym. Working out increases testosterone, which increases a man's boldness and drive in every aspect of his life. I literally feel like a different man after I've had a really good lifting session: more energetic, more assertive, just all-around more powerful. There's a reason we put lifting as such a major focus here.
/r/askRPC30/10/19 02:37 PM
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I used to think that that was something to be ashamed of. It isn't. Believe it or not, women actually LIKE boners. However, you should try to avoid situations where you might be tempted to have premarital sex.
/r/RPChristians30/10/19 02:15 PM
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Be attractive and don’t be unattractive. You need to look attractive. Your girl might tell you that she LIKES you fat. Don’t believe her. Lift weights, build muscle, and cut fat. As far as attractive behaviors go, be a self-sufficient leader. Beyond that, sidebar. There are entire books written on this stuff, you aren’t going to get One Simple Trick ™️ to get her to suck your dick. If you are an attractive man in both body and mind, then she will do so. Read the sidebar to figure out what is act…
/r/askMRP29/10/19 02:55 PM
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Honor them as your parents. Never compromise on your faith, but give them the respect that they deserve as your parents. They may disagree, and you may never convert them, but that’s okay. Everyone takes their souls into their own hands with their decision to accept/reject Christ. All you can do is to live your life according to God’s commandments in the best way that you can, share your testimony with them and pray that God would change their hearts. But right now, you need to focus on yourself…
/r/askRPC28/10/19 04:09 PM
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Your strict keto does not appear to have much fat in the diet. You need to have a true source of fuel in your diet. Fat or carbs: pick one. Strict keto is simply keeping your carbs under 20g per day and keeping fat as your primary source of nutrition. If you are just starting keto, you need salt. I personally don’t use a lot of salt typically, so I had to keep some dill pickles around and eat those. Add more meat into your diet and less fruit. Bananas and tomatoes have sugar in them. If you are …
/r/askMRP28/10/19 04:02 PM
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I think it’s the difference between lacking physical attractiveness and mental attractiveness. The guy could have been still leading at home, but just didn’t have the physical attraction components because he was fat. He’s in his 50s, so he could have been less inundated with feminist/BP stuff when he was younger, so he had less of that bad behavior to unlearn and his wife had a much shorter rope than the typical 1000 ft.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/19 03:02 PM
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If YOU feel that you should have gotten the work done, then you should have done it. It doesn’t matter what you wife thinks or says about it. You know whether or not you are dodging responsibility. If you had the thought that it could wait until tomorrow and that you don’t get the chance to spend the day with the kids, then that’s you decision. It doesn’t matter whatsoever what your wife’s opinion is on what you do with your time. You are living in HER frame, you need to get into yours. What do …
/r/askMRP24/10/19 03:08 AM
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OYS #15: 10/23/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 250 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 225(6 rep max), DL 195, leg press 270 Physical: I’ve been well behaved on the diet this week, less so at the gym. Going out of town tomorrow, so I’ll be missing two gym sessions. I might try a HIIT class with the in-laws to make up for it, not sure though. Bench is improving well. I’m going to up the weight on my next chest day. I’m still stalled out on weight loss, but I’m anticipating a quick drop …
/r/RPChristians24/10/19 01:31 AM
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I couldn’t get into WOTSM. It was definitely a lot of “woo woo” spiritual crap and seemed to lack much practicality. The best use I’ve seen for it is taking guys stuck in anger out of the anger and helping them to appreciate femininity for what it is.
/r/askRPC23/10/19 05:03 PM
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Well, once you are saved, you go through a process of “sanctification.” It’s where you start trying to become more like Christ and to reject your former sinful self. I’m in a similar boat with the swearing. I spent 5 years in a frat house, so I picked up some bad language habits. I’m trying to become less crass in my language and be more pure in general, but that takes time. Someone who is new in the faith is going to still make mistakes. And you’ll never be perfect in this lifetime. But, increm…
/r/askRPC23/10/19 04:55 PM
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Post your stats. That will clear up the issue a lot more, I suspect.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 01:23 PM
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Now you’ve got me trying to think up camera based innuendo....
/r/askMRP21/10/19 07:00 PM
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You’re a man. Men like sex and we like variety in sex. It’s no great mystery why you would want to have sex with different women. It’s innate to men to feel that way. What matters is what you actually DO about it. I’m a Christian. I wouldn’t sleep with someone I’m not married to. If you are the same, then don’t do it. Appreciate the beauty of a sexy woman, then move on. If you are looking for more tailored advice, I would go to r/askRPC
/r/askMRP18/10/19 01:32 PM
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It’s up to your own principles what to do. Are you actually religious and don’t want pre-marital sex? Then be a man and stand by you convictions. Your post sounds like you are looking for people here to somehow help you rationalize screwing your neighbor into something that doesn’t violate your beliefs. Either stand by your convictions or do not. This sub isn’t going to create new convictions for you.
/r/askMRP18/10/19 01:13 PM
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Have you tried doing goblet squats? I'm still a novice when it comes to lifting in general and even moreso with lower body exercise, but I feel that goblet squats are feel much better than back squats and help you work on your form.
/r/RPChristians16/10/19 05:54 PM
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OYS #14: 10/16/2019 Edit: for some reason, reddit decided to discard all of the edits i made (i usually just copy+paste last weeks OYS and edit over it each week), so this OYS is going to just be a highlights instead of the full thing that i typed out originally. Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 250 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 225(5 rep max), DL 195, leg press 270 Physical: Diet bad, rededicating myself to keto full-time this week. Still fasting daily during the week. Got shoe lift s…
/r/RPChristians16/10/19 05:51 PM
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Your wife is now aware of RP, seems open to it after a short period of outrage, wants to be more spiritual, and wants to actually work on things. Why don’t you encourage her to create a reddit account, and both of you participate on RPChristians? If she’s willing to change to become a better wife, and you are willing to change to become a better husband, why don’t you work on that together? I don’t know how important religion is to you, but if it is, the OYS in RPChristians is just as helpful fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/19 07:48 PM
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I’ve come to the conclusion that a lot of people use the term introvert as a crutch to justify their lack of social activity. I used to be one of them. The best way to develop charm is to just go be with people and maintain an infectiously positive spirit. Charm is basically a personality comprised of positivity and good humor. You’ve never met a charming pessimist because he doesn’t exist. Obviously, you can’t force yourself to feel positivity when you please, but you absolutely CAN fake it. Ev…
/r/RPChristians14/10/19 08:29 PM
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This is a great answer. I tend to let my wife do her venting and let her chatter about work for 10-15 minutes and she loves it. Typically, if she asks how my day was, I just say “fine” and move on. The only time I ever really expound is if I’m really killing it at work or if I have an actually interesting story to tell. I guess men and women are different in how we decompress.
/r/askRPC11/10/19 05:54 PM
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It’s the same guy. I’m pretty sure this guy is a troll.
/r/askRPC11/10/19 05:21 PM
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If she’s not a Christian, then it is not advised to date her.
/r/askRPC11/10/19 05:18 PM
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Post your stats so people can give you good advice. There are different tactics you need to use at different levels of attractiveness. If you’re a fat slob, dread simply will not work. She has to actually care about losing you, and if you look awful, she won’t care anyways because she knows you couldn’t do better than her. If you are physically attractive, then withdrawing time and attention could have an effect. But, as a newbie, you probably lack both physical and mental attractiveness.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 05:14 PM
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I’m trying to do keto as well as the fasting, so adding a bunch of carbs into the mix slows down weight loss. Reading the Bible IS what I’m calling reading the Bible. It’s been about a decade since I’ve read the Bible through, so it’s definitely time to do it again. I’m still fairly certain I wouldn’t be considered a “nice guy.” Everyone always tells me how stubborn I am. When I don’t want to do something, very few things can move me to do so. My wife constantly tries to get me to do “favors” fo…
/r/RPChristians10/10/19 08:49 PM
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Lol, I do it with just about everyone else with no awkwardness. It’s really just this woman and a disabled woman that make me overwhelmingly self-conscious.
/r/askRPC10/10/19 05:49 PM
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Have some pride. Moving out, to me at least, is a red line in the sand. If she doesn't care enough to stay to try and fix things, dump her and move on. It stings, I'm sure, but you don't have kids together. You don't owe her anything. Take the opportunity you've been presented with and improve yourself and get a much higher quality woman than a single mother of two.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 05:59 PM
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OYS #13: 10/9/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 252 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 225(5 rep max), DL 195, leg press 270 Physical: Got down to 250 on the scale earlier this week, so decent progress there. Diet wise, I let that weight loss go to my head, so I ended up eating poorly over the weekend. I'm pretty sure I lack self control on the weekends when I fast all week long. I either need to add back lunch on Tues/Thurs or just practice a little more discipline on the weekends. Abs…
/r/RPChristians09/10/19 05:48 PM
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Lol, I guess I wouldn’t expect it. Growing up, my mom was always the one that handled the money. She always worked at banks, so it made sense. There was never any mistake, though: my dad was head of the household. He just delegated the responsibility of money management to my mom. I don’t see see it as necessarily bad. I will eventually have to take control over my family’s finances, though. My wife grew up wealthy, so she’s more likely to spend on extravagance. We still haven’t combined our fin…
/r/RPChristians08/10/19 04:51 PM
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I don't know what everyone else thinks on this, but I think that it really depends on how you frame her doing the finances. If it's framed as "she controls the money", then obviously you need to step in and take charge. If it's framed as "I've delegated the responsibility of finance management to my first officer", then it's fine. If your wife was an accountant or budget analyst when she was working, it wouldn't make sense for you to take control of the money. You make the decisions, but let her…
/r/RPChristians08/10/19 03:39 PM
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I have read sex god method. It was enlightening, but I feel like you’ve got to still have to have a basic level of attraction there for it to really work and I don’t know that it’s there. I have started to force her to mute or turn on the tv when we do have sex. I know it’s immersion breaking for me, so it has to be for her. I’m not planning on stopping sex altogether, just taking some time to focus on myself and hopefully inspire some dread in her. Based on tonight, it seems to be working. I ca…
/r/RPChristians03/10/19 02:12 AM
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OYS #12: 10/2/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 252 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 225(4 rep max), DL 195, leg press 270 Physical: Weight is almost dipping into the 240s! Seeing some movement on the scale again, so I'm excited to see it. I've been pretty lax on the keto part of my diet on the weekends lately, so I've been making up for it with more fasting. Weightlifting is still progressing well. I've been tracking more exercises than what I list here, and all of them are slowly in…
/r/RPChristians02/10/19 06:52 PM
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This is fine, as long as RP content itself isn't censored or tailored to fit Reddit's BP ideology. I suspect they would rather keep TRP around, and just cut out the things they find unsavory.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/19 08:50 PM
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If socializing isn’t comfortable for you, then that’s what you need to work on. Go out to a bar and just strike up casual conversations with men and women alike. It doesn’t matter what you talk about, just the act of socializing will help. Take real, concrete steps to change your life. Post in the weekly OYS to track your progress. It goes up every Wednesday. Make a conscious effort to improve your life.
/r/askRPC01/10/19 11:49 AM
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Just don’t discount the advice others have given about losing the weight. Right now, I’m 10 pounds heavier than you are and I’m 7 inches taller. I know that I still have a ton of weight to lose. If you’ve been on RP forums, you’ve probably heard this quote from Socrates: “It is a tragedy for a man to grow old and never learn what his body is truly capable of.” Or something to that effect. That quote really struck me because I’ve been the fat guy for essentially my entire life. I’ve never known a…
/r/RPChristians01/10/19 02:25 AM
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We were in the pharmacy drive through when I responded to her. My response was similar to what deep_strength said. I basically let her know that I wasn’t going to let her talk to me disrespectfully like that and that it didn’t matter if she “meant it” or not.
/r/askRPC01/10/19 02:12 AM
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That was similar to my response. I think she realized she went too far and tried to to play it off as an unintentional thing. I made sure that she knew I held her responsible for her words, intentional or not.
/r/askRPC01/10/19 02:10 AM
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You know what Oneitus is, right? You seem to have a pretty bad case of it. Forget about this one girl. There are a lot of women in the world, some better, some worse. There’s not a tool in the world that can help you get this “one girl.” You can become more attractive, and she might even become attracted to you by that, but it isn’t guaranteed. She already sniffed you out as a beta, so maybe that memory sticks? Maybe it doesn’t. But if she feels that she has power over you through your own obses…
/r/RPChristians30/09/19 11:07 PM
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This is Married RP. Questions like this are better asked to askTRP. As far as online dating and marriage goes, online dating, especially at your age, is going to be saturated with women looking to get married. Their accusing you of just looking to get in their pants is just a classic shit test. They want to see how you respond to it. I’m going to guess that you probably DEER out of control. As far as online dating is concerned, your number one priority should be moving the conversation from the …
/r/askMRP30/09/19 10:46 PM
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What’s your life like outside of these other thing? Do you have a job? What is your mission in life? It’s hard to maintain an addiction to porn when you have other things occupying your thoughts and your energies. I have my own porn addiction, and while it’s still not resolved (I caved this past weekend, in fact), it’s draw is very much diminished, largely as a result of this community. I used to look at some form of porn at least 2 or 3 times a day, usually more. Since committing myself to gett…
/r/askRPC30/09/19 10:35 PM
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My wife’s mother is crazy in a very literal way. That whole family walks on eggshells around her and her father is basically a doormat when it comes to the mother. My wife was also raised as the spoiled youngest child, as her only brother is over a decade older than her. So I suspect that there’s a little bit of her that has some entitlement issues, but I do see what you are saying. Long term, I have to be the kind of man that is respectable and this kind of behavior will go away. Short term, th…
/r/askRPC30/09/19 09:07 PM
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Look at the keto subreddit for good tips and support. I've had a lot of success with doing keto + Intermittent fasting. 65 pounds down so far. The key is to pick a diet and stick with it long term. Not just 2 weeks, for several months. Ultimately though, every diet falls under a single rule: calories in, calories out (CICO). You have to eat less than you burn. Do this, and you WILL lose weight. If you do keto but still eat more than you burn, you will gain weight. There's no magic diet that can …
/r/askMRP30/09/19 06:46 PM
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Abundance mentality, you need it. Red pill is less about helping you get "the" girl and more about helping you get "a" girl. This girl turned you down because you lack abundance. Women want to have the guy that other girls want. If you act like you can't get any other girl, then she picks up on that and sees you as less valuable. Also, you need to lose weight. At my heaviest, I was 315 pounds at 6'3". You can have the best at game on Earth, but that weight is going to sabotage every bit of it. I…
/r/RPChristians30/09/19 02:10 PM
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Abundance mentality, you need it. Red pill is less about helping you get "the" girl and more about helping you get "a" girl. This girl turned you down because you lack abundance. Women want to have the guy that other girls want. If you act like you can't get any other girl, then she picks up on that and sees you as less valuable. Also, you need to lose weight. At my heaviest, I was 315 pounds at 6'3". You can have the best at game on Earth, but that weight is going to sabotage every bit of it. I…
/r/RPChristians30/09/19 02:10 PM
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Yeah, the husky is pretty well trained. When we’re home, he is probably the most obedient dog I’ve ever owned. The problem is that when we’re not home, he loves to dig holes in the backyard. Chewing used to be an issue, but it doesn’t seem he does that any more. I can definitely try earlier in the morning and see how it goes. I’ve never really been much of a morning guy, but maybe that would encourage me to become one, lol.
/r/RPChristians29/09/19 12:22 AM
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OYS #11: 9/25/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 256 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 225(3 rep max), DL 195, leg press 230 Physical: Doing well in the gym. Reached a new milestone on my BP. I do think that I'm overestimating the actual weight of the bar, though, so that 225 is probably a little high, compared to an actual olympic barbell. I'm moving closer to my goal of doing unassisted pullups/dips. Right now, I'm down to only getting 85 pounds of assistance from the original 175 pou…
/r/RPChristians25/09/19 05:23 PM
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I also see “turn the other cheek” as a way of showing them that their attacks have no effect on you or your frame. Who is considered the tougher guy: the one that takes a punch and flies into a rage, or the one that takes the punch, turns and calmly looks at the person like it never even happened? When the thief steals from you, give him your jacket as well. Let the world see how unaffected you are by it, that you know you have strength in Christ.
/r/askRPC25/09/19 02:04 PM
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I’m doing 225 BP using the smith machine. It’s doable. But like the other guy said, if you have a better gym option, use it. And if you are still worried about BP on a smith machine, then use dumbbells.
/r/RPChristians25/09/19 11:37 AM
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Most advise letting your girl say it first. If you say it first, then it lets her know that you are more invested than she is, which gives her power over you.
/r/askMRP24/09/19 08:26 PM
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I don't really resent my father for it, especially since he always made it a point to ensure that I understood exactly what I did wrong and why it was wrong. By the time I was a teenager, I really never needed discipline. Obviously, some teens are more rebellious than others, but I never felt the need to rebel. I already knew right and wrong at that point and generally made smart decisions. But ultimately, I think that sons do need to fear their fathers to a degree. It's what teaches them respec…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 04:56 PM
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It sounds like your wife is starting to come around more. Is she still going to therapy?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 02:28 PM
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Why not tell your wife to use you to discipline the kids? When I grew up, my parents used a carrot and stick approach. My mom was the nice one, but when I or my brother acted up, she would use fear of my father to get us back in line. "If you don't stop it, I'm going to go get your father", etc. It worked pretty well. The father is supposed to be the disciplinarian, where the mother is the caregiver. Your wife should feel empowered to turn to you as the one that can "put the fear of God" in your…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/19 02:22 PM
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Just be direct with them. Ask them why they think you are abusive. It’s hard to give very specific advice since we don’t know the background to any of this, so the best advice I can think of is just be direct. No need to be passive aggressive or play stupid games, just get to the point and figure out what their issue is. Maybe they have a legitimate concern about how you treat their daughter that you yourself haven’t perceived yet. Or maybe they they simply don’t like you. Either way, beating ar…
/r/askRPC23/09/19 07:54 PM
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If the captain delegates cooking to the FO, it’s not a shit test when she asks him if he can chop some onions while she does XXXX.
/r/askMRP23/09/19 05:09 PM
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Exaxtly this. Set the expectation, then enforce it. If no expectation was ever set, then how can you be upset about her not doing it?
/r/askMRP23/09/19 05:06 PM
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You’re confusing frame with being an ass. Did your wife intentionally mess up your laundry? Probably not. You, on the other hand, decided to be petty over what was probably a legitimate mistake. And who cares if she’s in the same bed as her sister? Women do that.
/r/askMRP23/09/19 03:43 PM
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Stats, brother. And be honest.
/r/askRPC22/09/19 03:26 AM
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Wow, that subredditdrama post is really messed up. Someone really went through my post history and said that I’m “raping my wife” because she feels discomfort during sex. These people can’t take the 5 minutes it takes to figure out what we’re actually doing here and what we actually believe.
/r/askRPC21/09/19 04:54 AM
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And not every person is inclined towards apologetics or the more intellectual theological pursuits, and nor should every person. But I think a lot of young, highly intellectual Christian children don’t get their innate need for knowledge satisfied by most churches, so they seek out secular places that do. Churches historically were the primary place of intellectual pursuits and scientific inquiry in general, but they surrendered intellectual, rational thought over to secular, worldly forces. We …
/r/RPChristians20/09/19 07:55 PM
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This guy is definitely NOT a credible source of information. He’s a journalist, not a historian, but the theories he was talking about definitely fit the possibility of the Biblical narrative of the flood fairly well. It was an interesting listen, even if some of his ideas seemed pretty ludicrous.
/r/RPChristians20/09/19 05:43 PM
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There was a pop-historian type on Joe Rogan a month of two ago that had some interesting theories on the flood. They are finding evidence in Greenland that a meteor or asteroid struck the Earth thousands of years ago and very possibly flooded the Earth and that there was a seafaring civilization that may have been wiped out. Now, it’s clear that the guy was speculating and playing it up heavily, but the implication is pretty cool to think about.
/r/RPChristians20/09/19 05:16 PM
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That’s a question I want to talk to a practiced theologian about. Why do we treat Paul’s letters as being the equal of the Gospel? Paul may have been a prolific apostle, but he was still a fallen man. I’m not Catholic or Orthodox, but the idea of “solo scriptura” does bother me, simply because the canonical Bible was in fact created and influenced by a council hundreds of years after Christ’s resurrection. Why do we give so much credence to books written and approved by men? The only reason I ca…
/r/RPChristians20/09/19 05:11 PM
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A ton of young Christians end up discovering these things on their own from non-Christian sources, then use that to believe that the church is “hiding” these truths from them. It’s a mistake of the modern church that it does not treat young Christians with the respect they are owed. Apologetics should be introduced to inquisitive young Christians early on, so they understand the arguments that are made against Christianity and how they are flawed. The same arguments against Christianity have bee…
/r/RPChristians20/09/19 05:02 PM
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AWALT and hypergamy mean that all women have those impulses, NOT that they will all act on those impulses. Let’s say that you are a fat, lazy slob as many modern men are. And your wife is a paragon of Christian virtue. Because of her belief in biblical morality, she may not leave you or cheat on you, but she will certainly be tempted to. But most women don’t have that kind of self control over the course of years and years of having a bad husband. Eventually, most women will give in to that impu…
/r/askRPC19/09/19 09:30 PM
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Take ownership of yourself. Too many pansies like yourself want to blame their parents or childhood on how “fucked up” they are. Guess what? Real fucked up people don’t know that they are fucked up. That’s how fucked up they are. You know you have a problem, so man up and fix it. Otherwise, one day you’re going to go on Facebook and unironically post joker memes about how psycho you are and no one will ever take you seriously. You’re 18 years old, not 8. Get a hold of yourself and act like a man…
/r/askTRP19/09/19 08:43 PM
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I did get down to 254 before the vacation, but didn’t list it since when I got back, I gained it back. I’ll probably stick to leg press for the foreseeable future, and just add some back exercises to my leg day.
/r/RPChristians19/09/19 06:41 PM
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It’s like a sidebar worthy checklist of things you need to get right.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/19 05:47 PM
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I had surgery in high school to try and fix it, but it didn’t take. I really just need to buy some specialty shoes that lift my short leg.
/r/RPChristians19/09/19 12:04 AM
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It’s definitely my back. I’ve got one leg longer than the other, so the movement already puts unintended strain on my back. I will put a weight under one foot, but it’s hard to accurately place it for my foot with how the smith machine restricts the motion. The leg press basically removes this issue for me. But you are right about my back. I need to do some work on it.
/r/RPChristians18/09/19 10:23 PM
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OYS #10: 9/18/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 257 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 205(5 rep max), DL 195, squat 135 Physical: Back to lifting again. I was able to get 5 reps on Monday BP 205, so today I plan to try to get at least 8 reps. Then I'll move up to my first milestone of 225. I'm enjoying the doing the lifts for "vanity muscles" the most (bench press, pullups, dips, inclined BP, etc.) I'm still struggling with lower body work. Because of my leg length discrepancy, squats …
/r/RPChristians18/09/19 06:25 PM
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Read the sidebar. You are mate guarding, which is unattractive behavior in a man. When a man acts like he is afraid a woman might cheat, that woman takes that as a reason she should be cheating. Set clear boundaries for what is acceptable behavior for your girlfriend, then enforce those boundaries. Mate guarding comes from a scarcity mindset, not abundance.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/19 03:09 AM
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Exactly what Chad said. She wants you to lead HER into being a better Christian by being one yourself.
/r/askMRP18/09/19 03:04 AM
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Unless you are in a third world country that allows dating teenagers, it’s going to be extremely difficult for you to find your virgin. Even at 18, most girls have had at least one sexual experience, Christian and non-Christian alike. Even religious people sin, OP. So if you want to meet a religious woman, go to church and meet her. Just understand that she isn’t the idealized vision of a woman that you have built up in your head. She has more than likely been with another man in some sort of ca…
/r/RPChristians17/09/19 03:55 PM
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Only you can decide if her behavior was rational or not. There’s a lot of details in this and I’m sure a lot of backstory that we don’t know, but you do. Ask yourself, were her requests reasonable? If not, tell her no and maintain that frame. Don’t let her try and argue about it either. If they were reasonable, then did she ask them of you in a respectful way, that a wife should speak to her husband? If not, tell her to ask you again in a more respectful tone. Basically what I’m saying is that o…
/r/RPChristians17/09/19 01:57 PM
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Join us at RPChristians
/r/askTRP17/09/19 01:46 PM
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It’s not a shit test, bud. A shit test is testing how alpha you are. This isn’t that. She’s trying to kill the marriage because her whore sister convinced her that she would have more fun as a single woman. You don’t have kids and given that you were in a small, shitty apartment, not too many resources that would have to be split. Talk to a lawyer and get out. Have the pride in yourself not to tolerate a woman that is clearly either cheating, or attempting to cheat. If you want to know something…
/r/askMRP17/09/19 01:43 PM
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Yeah, I think strategically, it was a risk to discuss it overtly like that, but in the moment, it felt like the only reasonable response. She hasn’t brought it up since and she’s been in a pretty good mood since we got back. The one thing I’m noticing when I read RP stuff is that I’ve never really had issues with frame. I’m not really the “go along to get along” type and I tend to do whatever I feel like, regardless of other people trying to pressure me. I’m finding that a lot of the “techniques…
/r/RPChristians16/09/19 08:53 PM
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Yeah, I think strategically, it was a risk to discuss it overtly like that, but in the moment, it felt like the only reasonable response. She hasn’t brought it up since and she’s been in a pretty good mood since we got back. The one thing I’m noticing when I read RP stuff is that I’ve never really had issues with frame. I’m not really the “go along to get along” type and I tend to do whatever I feel like, regardless of other people trying to pressure me. I’m finding that a lot of the “techniques…
/r/RPChristians16/09/19 08:52 PM
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I guess the first question is do you have an actual hygiene problem? Be honest with yourself and if the answer is yes, fix the problem.
/r/askMRP15/09/19 12:11 AM
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Yes, don’t move out. Moving out is seen as you surrendering the house to her in the court system. Lawyer up and get it over with. Your marriage is over, and your wife is screwing another guy.
/r/askMRP15/09/19 12:09 AM
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Happiness doesn’t come from the money, it comes from the achievement. By not allowing yourself to enjoy that achievement, you aren’t allowing yourself the happiness that comes with it. Take the W, enjoy the rewards, then look for a new mountain to climb.
/r/askTRP13/09/19 03:58 PM
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I kick myself because a lot of this stuff are things that I already instinctively knew. My dad has always been a good example of how a man should be. He lead his family and my mom followed. I simply let myself be lazy. I legitimately told myself that once my wife tells me she’s pregnant, I will have a 9 month timer to get my self together (i.e. OYS). I KNEW that I wasn’t living as I should be, yet my laziness won out. It took months of low interest from my wife to wake me up. If I want a fruitfu…
/r/askRPC12/09/19 07:42 PM
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OYS #9: 9/12/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 257 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 205(3 rep max), DL 195, squat 135 Physical: Took vacation this week, so no lifting until today. I made sure to do a long workout the day before we left (got to have a good pump for the beach!). Diet was pretty awful. A lot of sugary drinks and higher carbs than normal. Nowhere near as bad as how my normal diet used to be, but I expect the scale to be a little higher than it was when i left (254 pounds)…
/r/RPChristians12/09/19 07:03 PM
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I think you and I are in similar boats. Mods can let me know if my thoughts are wrong on this. I think that my problem is that I treat a “soft no” and a “hard no” the exact same way. I’m learning that when my wife gives a soft no, I can push through it pretty easily if I want to. That’s what your wife’s request for a butt massage sounded like to me. Your wife isn’t stupid, she knew exactly what she was doing when she asked you (her husband!) to massage her butt. She was probably horny and wanted…
/r/askRPC12/09/19 05:02 PM
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Become a funny guy. Watch stand up specials and learn some comedic timing and hone your sense of humor. Me, I like making dumb jokes that make people groan. But after the groan, they are always grinning, ear to ear. I’m always making bad puns and bad innuendo, and I always have a great time doing it. For me, that mindset of always looking for the humor in every sentence, every word, actually helps me to see the legitimately funny jokes in what people say. I’ve had several friends say I should do…
/r/askRPC12/09/19 04:53 PM
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Depending on how old you are, the loose skin will eventually tighten up. And if it doesn’t, save up for a cosmetic surgery to remove the excess skin. Ideally, though, the skin will tighten up on its own. I’ve lost roughly 55 pounds myself and I’m showing some loose skin. Believe me, the loose skin looks better than outright fat to most people. Keep lifting weights and your muscles should compensate a little.
/r/askRPC12/09/19 04:33 PM
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A lot of football players die young because of traumatic brain injuries over a career of playing. Bodybuilders can die young because of overuse of steroids and simply tinkering with their bodies too much. Strength training is fine.
/r/askRPC12/09/19 04:29 PM
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I guess I’m more on the “extreme ownership” side of things. I know that objectively, I am not responsible for my wife’s behavior, nor do I have any real control over it. However, if I do look at my approach to her as if I do have some control through my own actions and approach towards her, then I can make improvements towards that end. Obviously, you eventually reach a point where you have done everything in your power to influence her to the behavior you are seeking and you still may not get i…
/r/RPChristians12/09/19 03:56 PM
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If you do love this girl, then simply assert to her that this behavior is unacceptable and that she either let you know what’s really going down or end things. I’ve got a hunch that she will break down and let you know and it will be less serious than she led you to believe. This is classic attention seeking. It’s like the women on Facebook that post cryptic posts like “prayers really needed right now, going through some difficult times”. They don’t want to tell anyone anything specific, they ju…
/r/RPChristians12/09/19 03:28 AM
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OP, you do not want a girl that is willing to create unnecessary drama like that. If she didn’t want you to know at all, she wouldn’t have mentioned it at all. Im not you, so I don’t know what your tolerance for attention seeking behavior like that is, but I wouldn’t put up with it. This is a situation where I would tell her that she can either tell me what in the world she’s talking about, or we’re through. She knows EXACTLY what your mind is going to jump to when she talks like that, yet she s…
/r/RPChristians11/09/19 11:09 PM
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But it’s a lot easier to submit to a worthy man rather than an unworthy one, no? Likewise, it’s a lot easier for a man to remain faithful to a hot, horny, submissive wife than to a fat, ugly, sexless harpy. So while we aren’t responsible for our spouse’s sin of disobedience, we can certainly make it easier or harder for them by our own actions.
/r/RPChristians11/09/19 09:26 PM
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Can you make someone else obey God, though? If so, there’s a planet of sinners that need your help.
/r/RPChristians11/09/19 01:10 AM
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The problem is that not every man is worth submitting to, and many of us here don’t start out that way. The self improvement aspect of all of this is simply us recognizing that we need to fix the things that we have the ability to fix: ourselves. We can’t fix our wives. That is their decision. We simply make ourselves into men worth following and hope our wives do so.
/r/RPChristians10/09/19 11:03 PM
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Sure, in a perfect world, populated with perfect people, this wouldn’t be an issue at all. However, this world ISNT perfect, it is very much in a fallen state. All of the self improvement stuff is specifically meant to make it easier for a woman to make the rightful choice to follow her husband’s lead and find him attractive sexually. However, there’s no guarantee that it will fix anything. Like your Steph Curry example, you can be an Adonis among men with perfect frame and leadership, and some …
/r/RPChristians10/09/19 09:58 PM
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The post was asking for a religious perspective and I gave it. I don’t preach to those that aren’t actively looking for it. If the guy was just asking how to score at a club, I probably wouldn’t respond at all.
/r/askTRP09/09/19 04:21 AM
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I have never heard that before and I’m stealing it.
/r/askMRP06/09/19 02:56 PM
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Why wait the two years? Dump her now and let her figure her own stuff out. And why are YOU in the guest bedroom? Sleep in your own bed like a man. If she wants this divorce, then she has to be the one to sacrifice for it. Don’t let her just continue on using your resources for her own gain. Man up and dump her.
/r/askMRP06/09/19 02:53 PM
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Join us at RPChristians. As far as objectifying women, that is male biology. It isn’t simply porn use that does that, though you should stop using porn. There’s nothing wrong with seeing your wife as an outlet for your sexuality. That’s part of what she’s there for. And guess what? You should see your wife as subordinate to yourself. A marriage between man and wife is meant to mirror the marriage between Christ and His church. We are subordinate to Christ and should be submissive to him, just as…
/r/askTRP06/09/19 01:44 PM
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Well, I do believe that “isolate” is part of the process here. Hard to do in school, I’m sure, but maybe ask one of the girls to hang out on a weekend. If your friends give you shit for it, give it right back. Men give each other shit all the time for good things and bad. In reality, your friends are happy for you, and probably a little jealous. If you’re getting girls and they aren’t, you’re the winner.
/r/askTRP06/09/19 01:34 PM
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Get ripped. How do you not care about what those guys think? Become the alpha male of your group. Be the strongest, smartest, most sociable guy and they will fall in line. It sounds like they are beta orbiters anyway, so because of that, they will defer to a better man than themselves. Be that better man.
/r/askTRP06/09/19 01:24 PM
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Idk, I would think that you shouldn’t tell her you are changing, you should simply show her. The fact that you tell her you are changing puts it in her mind that you are making a conscious effort to do things differently rather than simply believing that you are now different. It’s the difference between the dancing monkey and the actual alpha in her eyes. She doesn’t want to know that the captain is on a self improvement plan, studying to become a better captain. She just wants to see a badass …
/r/askMRP06/09/19 01:21 PM
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Isn’t the same word for “desire” used for both Eve and for sin? That’s telling, to me. Sin seeks to rule us, but we must strive to overcome it. Likewise, women wish to do the same.
/r/RPChristians06/09/19 10:36 AM
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He doesn’t have to be overt about it. Unless he’s a cop and she’s his partner, he can probably find ways to avoid being alone with her.
/r/askRPC04/09/19 09:23 PM
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Enact the Pence rule. Don’t let yourself be alone with a woman that is not your wife.
/r/askRPC04/09/19 07:54 PM
1

By the way, there’s nothing wrong with drinking, just don’t drink until you lose control of yourself. I believe it’s only a sin once you lose control of your actions. Christ turned water into wine. He wouldn’t have done that if drinking was sinful.
/r/RPChristians04/09/19 06:57 PM
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You and I are in a similar boat, weight wise. While you recover from your injury, why not try to take a few pounds off by focusing on diet? Diet is 90% of weight loss anyways. As far as churches are concerned, if the megachurch is Biblical, then it’s fine. If it’s not Biblical, then don’t go. Reading the Bible is your first step towards salvation. There are 3 aspects of faith: knowledge of Christ/God as concepts, affirmation that they exist and are supreme, and love of Christ and God. Reading th…
/r/RPChristians04/09/19 06:55 PM
1

Exactly. They are simply trying to pad out the degree to make it 4 years worth of tuition. They want to milk every last cent out of every student. What’s even worse is that those cents are generally money that the students don’t have, so they have to borrow.
/r/RPChristians04/09/19 06:34 PM
1

The only real run-in I had with anti-Christian sentiment was in a sociology class, ironically called “Marriage and Family.” The class didn’t seem like it was trying to explore family, so much as it was trying to recommend some leftwing idealized model. There were several times in homework and tests where I had to bite my tongue and select the answer that the professor believed was correct, but I knew to be wrong. Not my favorite tactic, but for someone getting a STEM degree, I wasn’t sticking my…
/r/RPChristians04/09/19 06:16 PM
1

OYS #8: 9/4/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 257 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 185(7 rep max), DL 195, shoulder press 115, squat 135 Physical: Starting to see some small improvement on the scale again. Thanks to rocknrollchuck, I know now that I was definitely underestimating how many calories I was eating. My typical order at wingstop (15 classic wings with 2 dips) is 1500 calories total. That's fine on my fasting days, but I need to be more mindful of calories going forward. Sta…
/r/RPChristians04/09/19 06:02 PM
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Gynocentrism?
/r/askMRP04/09/19 02:55 PM
1

There’s plenty of material on this in the sidebars of all the RP subs.
/r/askRPC04/09/19 01:35 AM
1

Tbh, it feels like you might have a bit of one-itus. She’s 27. That means that she’s that much closer to “the wall”. With how young you are, you can and should be pickier. There are many women out there that can offer more value. That’s not to say that she’s not the woman God wants you to be with, just that you could probably do better with a little more alpha behavior.
/r/askRPC04/09/19 01:17 AM
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That’s something that I think people miss with AWALT. All women may have those same desires, but not all women act on their desires. All men seek to spread their seed far and wide, it doesn’t mean we act on it.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/19 08:26 PM
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Lol, my pastor is doing a series right now on how a Christian should conduct themselves in a culture that is hostile to Christian morality and he had a pretty good line in there: “we can’t let ourselves make sin out of things that God never called sin.” Drinking, dancing, etc. were never called out as sin and we can’t assert some personal morality as being the same level as God’s morality.
/r/askRPC03/09/19 09:48 AM
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Silence that inner voice that spreads doubt and just act. Even as the words leave your mouth, you’ll feel like a fool, but push through and pretend that what you are saying is the most natural thing in the world to say. While you may be twisted up inside over it, you don’t let it show on the outside. That’s faking frame. Do this a few times and the discomfort goes away. Eventually, you aren’t pretending anymore, it really IS the most natural thing for you to do. Doing this, putting yourself in n…
/r/askTRP03/09/19 02:30 AM
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It may be controversial, but I don’t believing drinking is sinful. It’s drinking to excess that is sinful. Once you no longer are in control of your actions, then it’s sin. Drinking until you have a buzz doesn’t feel sinful to me.
/r/askRPC31/08/19 07:51 PM
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You had me until you said “nods in agreement”. If you don’t actually agree, then by definition, you nodding in agreement is surrendering to someone else’s frame. You are letting someone else define what is right and wrong and not asserting your own definitions.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/19 09:38 PM
3

LTR, by necessity, have to be a mix of alpha and beta behavior. Up the alpha to encourage dread, up the beta to bring her back to comfort. If a woman is too comfortable, she stops trying and stops respecting you as a strong man. If she experiences too much dread, the constant anxiety and misery from that leads her to think the payoff (you) isn’t worth the struggle.
/r/askTRP29/08/19 09:19 PM
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If you love her, then say it. Nothing wrong with loving a woman. The only issue is when you express it in feminine, BP ways. Once you’re confident that it’s going to be a LTR, head over to MRP and start on hardmode.
/r/askTRP29/08/19 09:06 PM
1

SMV for men can even increase as we age. We get wealthier, more experienced, more confident, etc. Bodily health becomes harder to maintain, but if you manage that, then your SMV can really only improve.
/r/askTRP29/08/19 03:55 PM
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Let the BP people of the world wallow in their mud and misery. It’s the strong that conquer the weak, after all, not the other way around. A lot of people on here and in other places keep bemoaning the fall of western civilization, but why cry about that? You’re still alive, right? You believe that RP values are correct and lead to the best outcome, right? Then practice it and beat all of the BP sissies around you. Watch everyone else decline while you rise. No need to proselytize RP to anyone. …
/r/askTRP29/08/19 03:51 PM
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The transaction doesn’t have to be money or resources. It could simply be feelz. Man wants sex, woman wants something else in return. Man offers money, security, validation, attention, etc. It all depends on the woman and what she lacks. If she’s insecure, she may just use you to feel validated. If she’s broke, she might just want your resources. If she’s bored, she just might like the excitement you provide for her. If her biological clock is ticking, she just might want a baby. It’s a transact…
/r/askTRP29/08/19 03:46 PM
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Crying isn’t bad if it’s something warranted. Just own your emotions completely and don’t be ashamed of them. Which one looks more shameful: the guy that owns his anger and sadness openly and proud, or the one that tries to stifle them and fails? I like to imagine the idea of a warrior king type that laments the loss of his child. He openly wails and tears his shirt in anger, sadness, and pain and fully embraces all of those emotions and shows no shame for having them. Then I imagine the same ma…
/r/askTRP29/08/19 03:43 PM
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AA. Just throw another Indian stereotype back at him. “Yeah, I danced like that, started my shift as a cab driver, then bought a gas station on the way home.” Or something to that effect. Men like to push each other’s buttons. It’s camaraderie. Chances are, the guy actually likes you and wants you to banter back.
/r/askTRP29/08/19 11:58 AM
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I don’t see mixing the sexes as degeneracy. There’s nothing to suggest that it is.
/r/askRPC28/08/19 09:15 PM
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I believe the onus is on you to prove that this is somehow wrong. I’ve seen nothing to suggest that it is and like I said, Christ Himself never bothered with the idea, so why should we?
/r/askRPC28/08/19 08:58 PM
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That’s one way to do it, sure. But biblically, I don’t know of any scripture hat would point to it being sinful. Did Christ start any of His sermons off by telling everyone to split off into the separate sexes? Of course not. Don’t confuse personal preference with divine mandate.
/r/askRPC28/08/19 08:32 PM
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OYS #7: 8/28/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 262 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 185(3 rep max), DL 195, shoulder press 115, squat 135 Physical: Behaving well diet-wise, but progress has stalled pretty greatly on the scale. I keep swinging between 257 and 262, even at the same time on different days, tending towards 262. Part of that I attribute to eating poorly a couple of weekends ago. I think my body is just holding on. Also, I'm lifting at least 3 times a week, if not more, so …
/r/RPChristians28/08/19 06:02 PM
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It depends on what you want. If you stay at home, you can save up some money, but you will also tarnish some of your SMV by appearing dependent. It makes a lot more fiscal sense to stay at home and work to build up some savings, but fiscal concerns aren’t all that’s there.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 04:57 PM
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Have you ever just sat down and just read the Bible like it was any other book? Starting from page one and just keep going? I was never a big church goer when I was a kid. My family was nominally Christian, but we never went to church, never really discussed the faith much. I always believed in God, but it was just a background thing for me. One day, I just decided to start reading the Bible. I had run out of other books to read, and the Bible was literally the only book I had lying around. I st…
/r/askRPC28/08/19 01:53 PM
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Squats for me are absolute hell. I’ve got one leg longer than the other, so I’ve got to just put a weight under one heel and leave the other. It makes it better, but it’s definitely a more awkward motion.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/19 11:49 AM
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I don’t know if there’s any value in it. You’ll just hurt her and set back your marriage. Obviously, if she ever asks about it, don’t lie and just tell the truth, but I don’t see any reason to simply volunteer your mistakes to her. It places you at her mercy, which puts your marriage back to square one.
/r/askRPC27/08/19 11:56 AM
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Yeah, I would just point to door and tell her she’s free to leave if she likes. No anger, no emotion, just let her know that if she has nothing helpful to add (value), then you don’t need her.
/r/askMRP26/08/19 10:18 PM
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Action is only greater than inaction if you put the time in to consider what actions you’ll take, though. That’s personally what I use my OYS for. It’s a way to mark milestones, check progress, and set goals once per week, then the rest of the week, you act on them. Maybe I’m just not getting the point of this post, but I see more than enough posts about how people should be taking it slow, don’t go Rambo, etc. and here this post seems to be saying “don’t overthink it, just do it.” Not a bad sen…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/19 03:53 PM
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As a Christian, the only way to be with a woman and not be living in sin is marriage. If you want to go MGTOW, there’s nothing wrong with that, but if you do, it’s a life of abstinence. Which, Biblically, is the way one should live if they have the willpower to resist sexual temptation. Most of us here, myself included, lack that sort of willpower. I couldn’t even wait until marriage. However, I think there is room to talk about religious marriage vs civil marriage. It’s entirely possible that y…
/r/RPChristians26/08/19 03:38 PM
1

Don’t worry about what the left does or says. Do what you know to be right. They are going to hate you regardless of what you do because you are not left.
/r/RPChristians26/08/19 02:10 PM
1

I was part of probably the least popular frat with a house on campus. Believe me, we still had plenty of hot girls around. Admittedly less than the bigger frats, but it was still more than enough.
/r/askTRP26/08/19 11:24 AM
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Eh, your focus on race and culture seems to suggest otherwise, but I’ll let you define yourself however you please.
/r/RPChristians26/08/19 11:23 AM
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Sure, on day one. Then they get to know you, then you’re just a regular.
/r/RPChristians26/08/19 11:22 AM
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Depends on the frat tbh. Some are really bad to their pledges and honestly aren’t worth the hassle. Others are great and you’ll make friends for a lifetime. I wouldn’t join just to meet girls, though. You can do that without frats. It’s mostly just a way to have a place to party and people to hang out with.
/r/askTRP26/08/19 02:28 AM
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Maybe I simply don’t face the problem that you are talking about. My church is pretty patriarchal. Our pastor is pretty much always concealed carrying and only men are allowed in leadership roles. But like I said in my other comment, most of “Christianity” is not Christian. It does not follow the teachings of the Bible and leads many astray. Many seek what makes them “feel good” over what is Biblical. And that will cause them to fall. There are very few true Christians and there are a lot of fal…
/r/RPChristians26/08/19 02:25 AM
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Of course I wouldn’t simply submit to it if it came to that, but that’s not what’s happening here. What do you think happened to the 12 apostles? All but one died violent deaths at the hands of the people they were trying to save. Every bit of what you are saying is speculation. As a Christian, I believe in the power of God and Christ to triumph over our enemies. We have no need to preemptively kill the enemy. And after all, we can’t well save their souls if they’re dead, can we? But to answer y…
/r/RPChristians26/08/19 02:14 AM
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Why should I care about my race? And who cares about culture in the context of Christ? God will not allow His word to be wiped from the Earth. And yes, not one of those things you listed matter in the context of eternity. Christians shouldn’t seek out oppression, but neither should we fear it. The Bible tells us that in the end of days, we will face horrible things and the world will be a horrible place. I fully expect things to get much worse than they are now. I’m not afraid of it. It will com…
/r/RPChristians26/08/19 02:01 AM
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But they will be cast into the fire with all the rest, as will you without Christ. Right now, you are not saved. That is clear in all of your responses. You care about the state of things on Earth, not the state of things in Heaven. You want us to win some great battle on Earth to fight for territory. We don’t fight for something as paltry and temporary as lands, titles, nations, etc. We fight for people’s souls. I’m not saying that we need to be pacifists at all times. After all, God has comman…
/r/RPChristians26/08/19 01:26 AM
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You can’t convert from a religion you already don’t follow. Your last sentence is proof that you do not know Christ.
/r/RPChristians25/08/19 11:32 PM
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Lift weights. Do things that boost testosterone levels and keep you physically active. Anxiety could be counteracted by the increased T in your system and give you more confidence.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/19 04:51 PM
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Are Muslims winning? Being condemned to hell for all eternity sure sounds like losing to me. You don’t seem very Christian to me, you seem like you want to get violent and are likely a troll. Being a Christian doesn’t mean being a eunuch, but neither does it mean being a warmongering psycho. If worshiping Christ means going to our deaths, then so be it. You seem concerned with storing treasures and land on Earth, not in heaven. You don’t bring someone to Christ at gunpoint. That’s how we got her…
/r/RPChristians25/08/19 01:22 PM
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So your three questions you’ve posted recently are all pointing to a single flaw: cultural Christianity. Christ Himself said that the door into Heaven is narrow, only a few will pass through. But that doesn’t really jive with the statistics that say that say that Christianity is so prevalent, does it? So either the statistics are wrong, or our Lord is wrong, and I know which one of those I trust more. The vast majority of people that call themselves Christian do not know Christ. They essentially…
/r/RPChristians25/08/19 02:41 AM
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Could be that her friend needed a date, and you were just a guy she thought she could set her friend up with.
/r/askTRP24/08/19 02:33 AM
1

Agreed. Insert your dominance OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/19 02:30 AM
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I don’t know what country you are in, but in the US, you see your in laws a lot less than you would think. Even less so the extended family. Just deal with it. Also, this belongs in askMRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/19 02:29 AM
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Dude, sidebar
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/19 09:26 PM
3

Scarcity mindset for sure. Personally, I wouldn’t put up with something like that even if you were my best friend, but this guy does put up with it. He will probably benefit greatly from some SMV increasing, masculine activities. Stuff that will help him catch other women’s eyes. Maybe do a marital art together or something.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 09:21 PM
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Sure, if the mistake calls for it. The mistake a lot of parents seem to make is spankings without the proper discussion to put the punishment in context. You’ve got to sit the child down after and tell them their mistake, why it was a mistake, what they should have done, and why it is that you punished them. Edit: like others said, this is a low effort post, and belongs in askMRP or the redpillfatherhood subreddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/19 09:17 PM
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I would definitely not talk to your friend about it. I suspect that everything you’ve written about, he’s already thought about. No man is completely oblivious. He’s either accepted it as something that he cannot change, or he simply doesn’t care. If you want to help your friend, you can covertly encourage him to do things that can increase his SMV. Invite him to the gym, joke about him putting on too much weight or dressing poorly, etc. Or, let him figure it out as a problem himself when and if…
/r/askTRP23/08/19 09:07 PM
1

The whole incel thing is so strange to me. These nerds would rather wallow in self-pity and victimhood than do something to improve their situations. That alone isn’t the strange thing to me, because victimhood mentality is extremely prevalent today. What’s strange is that these same incels are somewhat RP-aware, can condemn feminism’s complaining about “societal oppression of women” and then turn around and do nothing but complain about how society oppressed themselves. Complaining about a prob…
/r/TheRedPill23/08/19 09:00 PM
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But it is what he wants, and what she wants. If she’s feeling you up right in front of him and he doesn’t see a problem with it, then that’s his prerogative. To me, that’s more of a sign of his trust in you than anything. Do you think he would do anything different if it was a stranger?
/r/askTRP23/08/19 08:48 PM
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Every girl is with a guy because she doesn’t have a better option. If she had a better option, she would choose that option. That’s what hypergamy means.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 04:53 PM
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If your mother became a serial killer, murdering countless innocents, started dealing drugs, committed a genocide or 2, then stabbed your newborn baby to death, would you still love her? Probably not. Women and men both love, we simply love each other for different things. There’s nothing wrong with the things women love about their men: strength, ability to provide, confidence, etc. Losing those things would essentially be a failure of character in their eyes. Likewise, a man isn’t going to lov…
/r/askTRP22/08/19 10:15 PM
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Winning a fight in front of the entire school as a freshman. Everyone hated the other guy’s guts, so I had people cheering me on. I even had teachers telling me that I was right for doing it.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 09:30 PM
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He could just love her. Do you love and care for anyone but yourself? Of course not, there’s other people you care about what happens to them. TRP doesn’t have to mean that you stop caring about women you date or even marry. It simply means that you understand the mechanisms of attraction and can use them to full benefit.
/r/askTRP22/08/19 09:27 PM
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Most women that are single post wall are low value enough that they didn’t get married pre-wall. Most women stop riding the CC before they actually hit the wall and settle down.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/19 09:15 PM
1

Guys trying to talk about his relationship to his parents on a sexual strategy sub... OP, are you trying to screw your parents?
/r/askTRP22/08/19 03:56 PM
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No, the pain has been there since the beginning. About a year after we started dating, she got some sort of hormonal birth control implant in her arm. I didn’t realize it at the time, but thinking back, that’s when things really got worse. She stopped showing as much interest in sex, she was less adventurous. I read recently about certain birth controls killing all sex drive. My wife doesn’t even masturbate anymore, at least to my knowledge. There’s no doubt that I’m not attractive at this weigh…
/r/RPChristians21/08/19 09:06 PM
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Wait until you’re a high school senior and talk to freshmen girls. At that age, even a difference like that is significant to them. The value you can have at your age is basically physical looks, game, and relative status.
/r/askTRP21/08/19 08:46 PM
1

I’ve lost 50 pounds and am starting to see results. I’ve been fat pretty much my entire life, so it’s interesting to see the changes. People just look at you different and treat you different. They actually want to look at you and see you as more of an equal. I think it’s completely worth it.
/r/askTRP21/08/19 08:42 PM
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Honestly, I hope it’s that “I don’t do the job.” That’s something that I can fix and work on. The other stuff depends on other people to fix. I think that I will start making an attempt to initiate sex every day, though. For a while, I’ve basically let initiating slide because I was tired of rejection. Usually, the rejection was about how it would take an hour for the pill to work and by that time, it would be too late, yada yada. I need to push through that and become OI.
/r/RPChristians21/08/19 07:00 PM
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So now for the self-analysis part of that victim puke: I know that I'm using her for a form of self validation when it comes to sex. The part of me that wants her screaming my name in ecstasy while I dominate her during sex wants it because I want to feel in control. I want to feel validated by her submission to and enjoyment of me. That desire comes from a place of wanting to feel like a man and feel validated. I don't know how I can get rid of this desire besides acknowledging it and suppressi…
/r/RPChristians21/08/19 05:44 PM
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OYS #6: 8/21/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 257 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 185(3 rep max), DL 195, shoulder press 115, squat 135 Physical: Diet-wise, I wasn't as good as I usually am over the weekend. I didn't go too overboard, but I did have a few carbs at dinner Saturday. We went out to drinks with another couple after and I had a drink that I'm sure was full of sugar. I'll be more careful of that in the future. Still lifting regularly, but progress has stalled somewhat. I …
/r/RPChristians21/08/19 05:44 PM
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I’m a Christian, so obviously, I’m biased here. But what about the cultural Darwinist angle? The idea is that the ideas that lead to the most successful and prosperous societies are the ones that get passed down over time. The most successful and prosperous societies, by nearly every metric, are Christian societies. So even if you don’t believe in God or Christ, the ideas behind the religion are useful in constructing a society and keeping it alive. It would, through trial and error, prove to be…
/r/TheRedPill20/08/19 08:27 PM
1

The Bible also tells us that we should love our wives and not to be too harsh with them. The attitude that you are taking here is completely contradictory to the point of marriage. Biblically, marriage is meant to mirror the relationship between mankind and God. This comparison is made numerous times in the Bible. A woman is subservient to man like man is subservient to God. And like mankind has done to God, so shall woman do to man. We rebel against God in sin, women rebel against us. But looki…
/r/TheRedPill20/08/19 08:23 PM
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Buddy, she just moved away to go to college instead of staying near you. She might keep you hooked to the line, but she’s looking for new fish.
/r/askTRP20/08/19 07:04 PM
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I know this is hard and that it’s easier to look away, but your wife is sick and desperately needs help. Watch what she does, and not what she says. She’s acting out in desperation, hoping that someone will come along and save her. That’s you.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 03:54 PM
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I’ve been reading some more of your responses and I think you need to really consider the health of your FO. The red flags for suicide are all there. Most suicide victims show plenty of warning signs beforehand, hoping that someone, anyone might stop them and help them. It sounds like your wife is in that place for sure. In her current mental state, she cannot act to save herself. You have to be the one the act. At this current juncture, I think applying dread and other MRP staples are only goin…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 03:22 PM
1

There will be a dumbass that marries a stripper somewhere in your unit and they will divorce a month or so later. He is the smartest man amongst the idiots. The rest of the unit will marry fat dependents that cheat on them the instant they deploy. They will be fathers to the child that is conceived, even though it isn’t theirs. They will buy sports cars they never get to drive for interest rates that blow their finances out of the water. They will be divorced within 5 years of marriage and pay a…
/r/askTRP20/08/19 02:53 PM
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I’m still fairly new to RP in general, so take everything I have with a truckload of salt. But it seems to me that if the FO is afflicted with something, it is on the captain to get them the cure. With depression, it can actively stop someone from seeking help on their own. It might be time to force her into therapy. It’s obvious from your OYS that you are at the very least contemplating divorce. Wouldn’t it be better to take a stand and lead her into therapy rather than letting the condition wo…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:38 PM
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I guess keep trying to get her to seek some help. From here, it does sound like she does have a problem. Is it affecting how she treats your kids or is mostly in her treatment of you? If it is affecting her in relation to the kids, that’s probably the angle you need to push to convince her to finally get some help.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 02:17 PM
1

Are you sure that your wife isn’t actually clinically depressed? She certainly seems to be showing signs of it, just based on what you’ve said here. She doesn’t want to go out, she doesn’t want to do anything at home, she hates waking up, etc. Maybe you’ve had her checked out for it, but if not, you might should do that. Obviously, you are dissatisfied with your FO, but there could be a problem that could be fixed if it is addressed. All the game and attractiveness in the world won’t help you if…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/19 01:28 PM
1

I do prefer it, but I’m also still attracted to her as she is. Both of us were pretty heavy when we met. I’m actually significantly lighter now than I was then. Tbh, when I was BP, I conditioned myself to like heavy girls. Not 400 pound whales, mind you, but certainly larger than average. I had pretty much given up on the idea of ever losing weight and settled on the idea that I was going to marry a larger woman to compensate, so that was the porn I watched (I know, I’ve stopped watching porn al…
/r/RPChristians16/08/19 08:40 PM
1

My wife has been trying like hell to lose weight, but to no avail. She works out like a woman possessed, but her eating habits are not good. I tell her to come do IF with me, but she just says “my blood sugar will get too low.” To me, I don’t really care if she loses weight or not, but I know she would look and feel better if she did. So my wife is definitely trying to lose weight, she’s just taking terrible advice from a nutritionist that has her believing that too much of a deficit is a bad th…
/r/RPChristians16/08/19 08:26 PM
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Like the other guy said, if you are having sex with a woman out of wedlock, you are still leading her to sin, which is a sin in and of itself.
/r/RPChristians16/08/19 02:27 AM
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Lol, there’s no point to asking her about it. My wife used to say we were going to have sex every day, and that was nowhere near the truth. We’re lucky if it happens once per week right now.
/r/RPChristians15/08/19 08:39 PM
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Well, maybe you should continue dating her, and eventually ask those question. There are a few things that I feel need to be agreed upon before marriage: religion, politics, and kids. Those things could be a real stumbling block for a marriage if both spouses aren’t on the same page. Some people make it work, but you need to be compatible. I’m assuming that the religion and politics questions are probably going to be similar, but the kids question needs to be discussed. Just remember that this i…
/r/RPChristians15/08/19 08:37 PM
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Kid, you have every option to say no. There will probably be consequences associated with it, but if you can stomach those, then you should. I can tell you that my cousin was in a similar situation. She was dating someone in high school, her mother forced them to get married so that she wouldn’t “have premarital sex”, she went to college, and came back a radical leftwing lesbian feminist type. You are young, so you are still well under your parent’s thumb, but realize that who you marry is ultim…
/r/RPChristians15/08/19 06:20 PM
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OYS #5: 8/14/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 257 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 185(3 rep max), DL 195, Row 135, shoulder press 115, squat 115 Physical: Weight loss is picking up speed, much like it did when I last did keto/IF. Excited to see a lot of forward progress on the scale. Weight lifting has definitely stagnated. I guess I've run out of beginner gains to get, at least for my upper body. I decided to change things up and lift a few extra times this week. We went on Saturda…
/r/RPChristians14/08/19 09:25 PM
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If you’re looking to incorporate TRP into your life, but are still religious, join us at RPChristians.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/19 05:32 PM
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That’s the point I’m clumsily trying to make. We give up short term pleasure for long term pleasure.
/r/RPChristians14/08/19 12:31 PM
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It may not, but it’s the truth. Following Christ is a struggle, and we do indeed give up certain things to do so. I’m sure a lot of people here would love to just spin plates, doing whatever their fleshly desires calls them to do. However, we seek to follow Christ, so we deny those sinful desires and follow Christ’s example. I’m not saying that we make our lives unhappy or that there won’t be happiness in our lives, I’m saying that we set our eyes on heaven first and foremost, and by that, we sa…
/r/RPChristians13/08/19 06:43 PM
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Awesome story! I like the analogy you made, but I think it could be taken further. The Christian is looking to win the whole race, from birth to our ascension to Heaven. The unbeliever is just trying to be the first on day 1 or 2. They don’t have their eyes on heavenly treasure, they only seek pleasure in the moment. And so, of course, that is what they find. They seek a happy life on Earth at the expense of life after death. The Christian seeks a happy afterlife at the expense of a happy life o…
/r/RPChristians13/08/19 06:20 PM
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You’ve been out of a job for a year and a half? Get a job, any job, at this point. No wonder you are having marital issues. You don’t have to wait until you find the “perfect” job. Just get one that you are qualified for, then keep looking for that perfect job until you find one. It’s senseless to not do anything in the meantime. Men are made to work and DO things. We become pretty worthless creatures when we no longer have a job to do. I know people that were millionaires that when they decided…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/19 06:07 PM
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It’s ultimately what you want from her, right? For a Christian, the end goal of dating is not simply sex, it is marriage. So if you find her attractive, start dating her. I know my wife and I pretty much defined ourselves as exclusive at the start of our relationship. I think it helped both of us to verbally define ourselves as gf/bf, with all that that entails. Secular RP is a lot more commitment adverse than we are. I don’t see much of an issue with committing to a girl you like up to exclusiv…
/r/RPChristians13/08/19 01:17 PM
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I’m less concerned about your wife and more about your kids. What were you thinking hashing it out with your wife in front of them like that? Your kids look to you as an example of how to behave. You just gave them a hell of a pattern to follow....
/r/askMRP12/08/19 01:49 PM
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Lol, what makes this post funny to me is that God saw fit to challenge this new mindset about 30 minutes after I posted this. My wife decided to get angry over some small thing, then try and open it up to anything and everything she may have found fault in for the last month. I found myself instinctively yelling back, realizing that that was the wrong way to go about it about 10 seconds in and told her forcefully “I refuse to engage in this with you” and walked off. She went her own way, to go r…
/r/RPChristians12/08/19 02:07 AM
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Exactly! It’s just the more I learn and think about God, the more amazing His creation becomes. It’s a factor that I don’t think that the modern church does enough to show. Or, maybe it does and I’m only just now waking up to that reality after starting regular church attendance, lol. But, getting back to my post, looking at my wife through this “new” lense puts all of the things that may aggravate me about her in perspective. Her flaws in relation to me are a reflection of my own flaws in relat…
/r/RPChristians11/08/19 08:27 PM
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Nice! That’s why I had to qualify my statement at the end. Everyone is different, and the plan that works for one person may not work for another. I do believe that IF is something that everyone can find benefit from, however. It’s too prevalent a concept in the Bible for it not to. Even if it was simply spiritual benefits, I think it’s worth it. Scientifically, they are finding that fasting actually cleanses the body of dead, lingering tissue and other waste. Its also makes the body better over…
/r/RPChristians11/08/19 08:18 PM
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Frame is just the projection of your internal perception of the world into external reality. If you truly believe yourself to be a badass alpha dog, then you impose that perception of yourself onto the world. You actually BEHAVE like you believe it. The problem that most men face is that the world pushes back, trying to break your frame and most men’s frame is too weak for that sort of onslaught. In a marriage, it’s your wife that is pushing back against your frame. Her shit tests are her way of…
/r/askMRP11/08/19 06:33 PM
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I can tell you as someone that has struggled with weight for his whole life, I have found that taking steady, incremental steps towards diet is the best way, at least for me. I started dieting in earnest of January of last year. I had done the research into keto to know what the science is behind it, how to actually count carbs, and then forced myself to stick to it. So this is how I recommend someone start: Start doing keto for month 1. Eat as much fatty food as you want, all you have to do is …
/r/RPChristians11/08/19 06:12 PM
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Just a quick update: I weighed myself again last night and it was 260. My wife then got all upset (I didn’t realize at the time) and started giving me the “silent treatment.” She even decided to go to the pharmacy randomly while I was cooking dinner. She just looked all mad at me and wouldn’t say anything. I ignored her and played with the dogs while the food cooked. One question: I did finally break down and ask her “so are you going to tell me why you’re all pissy or you just going to keep act…
/r/RPChristians08/08/19 09:34 PM
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What does “caveman” mean exactly? I’ve seen it used in a few other posts, but haven’t figured it out.
/r/RPChristians08/08/19 07:29 PM
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Yeah, squats are difficult for me. I have one leg almost an inch longer than the other, so it puts additional lateral stress on my back. I have to stagger my legs slightly to make it work. I’m going pretty low weight right now and building up slowly. I’ve hurt my back in high school doing squats before, so I know how bad it can hurt.
/r/RPChristians08/08/19 02:40 PM
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OYS #4: 8/7/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 260 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 155, DL 195, Row 135, shoulder press 115, squat 115 Physical: Still going steady on weight lifting. I do my lifting 3 times per week, MWF. I think I'm going to start adding some extra cardio on TTh. I'm going to start doing some more isolation exercises to supplement my compound lifts. I'm really ready to start seeing more progress on the scale, but I know I just have to be patient. I know I'm eating at…
/r/RPChristians07/08/19 05:03 PM
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Sons copy their fathers. Internalize RP alpha behavior in yourself and display it to him as well. Be the head of you household and he will follow in kind.
/r/askMRP07/08/19 02:52 PM
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The only prohibition against it is that it’s against the law in the US. Biblically, we are supposed to follow the law of the land, so there’s that hurdle, but maybe the tides will turn eventually. It seems to me that polygamy could solve a lot of the strange social issues that have been afflicting us.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/19 05:41 PM
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This might be a good place to talk about something I’ve been thinking about. I’m a pretty devout Christian, but I mostly grew up away from the church and it’s faux-morality that tries to turn boys into betas. I always wondered why polygamy is considered wrong now, when the patriarchs were not only allowed to take on multiple wives, but actively ENCOURAGED by God to do so. I’m quickly coming to the conclusion that polygamy is designed to keep the woman competing for her man’s attention. If he neg…
/r/TheRedPill06/08/19 05:26 PM
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I lost 50 pounds over the course of the last year and I’m definitely noticing differences. You tend to just get noticed more when you aren’t a steaming pile of lard. People tend to ignore you when you aren’t pleasing to look at. That goes for everyone, men and women. There’s a very clear difference in the amount of deference and respect you get when you get more fit. Sure, I could get all butthurt about it, but guess what? Fat people don’t like looking at other fat people either!
/r/TheRedPill05/08/19 12:40 AM
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I want to reiterate what you said about the squats. Your leg muscles are the biggest in your body and getting them bigger will help you lose more weight than any other muscle group. Squats and deadlifts are the best lifts for weight loss for this reason and can’t be ignored.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/19 12:35 AM
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You might look good, but if you aren’t fun, then it doesn’t matter. If you don’t like the way you look, then it’s going to show through when you approach women. You seem to lack confidence in your post, so I’m assuming that same insecurity seeps into your dating life as well. If you don’t like your body size, then cut back down to a comfortable level that you feel proud of. Be the fun guy at the party that talks to everyone. You’ll be happier for it.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 12:32 AM
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The same underlying issues that caused you to get to where you are now will simply undermine you when you attempt a relationship with someone else. The problems aren’t with her, they are with you. You can cut her out and go look for another woman, but those same issues you have now will still be there and you’ll be right back to where you are now. Focus on fixing yourself before you focus on her. Learn to man up and say no. All women want leadership and it’s your job to provide it for your wife.
/r/askMRP03/08/19 05:07 PM
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If at all possible, you should change to doing compound lifts with a bar instead of machine lifts. If not possible, just keep upping your weight with what you are doing. Focus on these lifts: bench press, military press, squats, deadlifts, upright row, chin-ups, and dips. Make those the core of your workout and progressively increase the amount as you go. At least, that’s what I’m doing. (I’m still fairly new myself)
/r/TheRedPill03/08/19 01:33 AM
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Yeah, it was definitely butthurt and I had to deal with the fallout from the mistake in whatever way I could. It turned out fine this time, but I’ll have to be more tactful and learn not to get butthurt over it in the future. As far as the being alone part, I’ve been surprised how miserable I’ve been while sitting at home alone while she’s out working at night. It’s eye-opening for sure. I think it’s a sign that I’ve allowed my own personal vision for life become focused on her. Because once she…
/r/RPChristians02/08/19 08:46 PM
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Mark 7
/r/RPChristians02/08/19 07:31 PM
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Tell her that. You’re the captain and it is your job to look after the well being of your crew. Talk to her and let her know that her lifestyle isn’t mentally healthy for her, and because she will want outright guidance, tell her how she should change.
/r/askMRP02/08/19 07:01 PM
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I was just considering something close to this topic about an hour ago. I was reading Ruth and came upon the phrase “the error of Balaal.” I started researching it and it all had to do with obedience, or, rather, the lack thereof. Balaal’s error was that he tried to ignore God’s initial instruction by using God’s later instructions. So applying this concept to the modern church, the error of Balaal is the idea that somehow the New Testament overrides the Old Testament and that the old laws no lo…
/r/RPChristians02/08/19 06:26 PM
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I think there’s some real benefit to not masturbating a ton. I heard on a podcast that not jerking off for 7 days results in a major spike in testosterone. I can’t speak to the validity of the claim, only that I feel much more vigorous and confident when I don’t. As far as No fap itself is concerned, I think there’s some diminishing returns. I don’t think there’s any major difference between not falling for 1 year and 7 days when it comes to testosterone. So, don’t jerk it every day and stop wat…
/r/askTRP01/08/19 10:00 PM
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Could just be a shit test. Slap her ass, grin, and say “aww, sorry you feel left out. I’ll control you too!”
/r/askTRP01/08/19 07:47 PM
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I guess I was thinking of the main event as simply the turning point, rather than the cliff the marriage is about to fall off of.
/r/RPChristians01/08/19 07:26 PM
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I guess so. I guess my thought is that if you are doing everything right, it won’t get to that point.
/r/RPChristians01/08/19 07:12 PM
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Maybe I’m having a misunderstanding of what exactly a “main event” is, but does it necessarily have to be a conversation about cheating or divorce? Could it not be a very frank conversation that addresses these covert contracts that you’ve built for yourself? I believe that you can very pointedly tell her what it is that you want from her, and what is going to happen if she does not provide it. It doesn’t have to be divorce. It could be something as simple as withdrawing her access to your paych…
/r/RPChristians01/08/19 07:05 PM
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Eh, nothing wrong with a few drinks. Even Christ drank wine. I think there’s a difference between drunkenness and having a few drinks. Drunkenness is when you are no longer in control of your actions.
/r/RPChristians01/08/19 04:35 PM
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He’s just insecure about his own appearance. It’s commonly known that women want a muscular, strong man. Culture tries to blur this and obfuscate it, but we all instinctively know this, even as children. Your friend knows that women want a guy with a six pack, and is feeling intimidated by your progress. Pay it no mind and when you start picking up girls and he doesn’t, maybe he’ll reevaluate his idea.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 03:21 PM
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Reading your story about wingman-influence for your friends makes me cringe. I used to be those guys until I met my wife. I couldn’t even talk to a woman without feeling intense pressure. It’s like once you have that first really solid relationship, that anxiety mostly dissipates.
/r/RPChristians01/08/19 03:05 PM
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If you are asking if they are too whiny, then it probably means that you think they are too whiny, so it doesn’t really matter what we think. If you think they are too whiny, then they are. If you think that they are not, then they aren’t. Don’t tailor this towards us, write what you want to write down. This is OYS, not “let RPChristian own you.” A large part of this is dealing with your own underlying insecurities and becoming confident in your own vision/frame. As far as your outlook being neg…
/r/RPChristians01/08/19 03:00 PM
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Or, just have the government stop providing student loans and subsidizing universities. If the government offers functionally infinite money for a college loan, universities are going to raise their rates accordingly. Basically, you are creating artificial demand for education by providing these government loans. Universities hope to capture that revenue, so they increase their tuition rates. Dumb students decide to take the loans and get worthless degrees and end up paying that debt for the res…
/r/TheRedPill31/07/19 06:23 PM
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OYS #3: 7/31/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 266 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 155, DL 155, Row 135, shoulder press 115, squat 135 Physical: Still holding steady weight-wise, but am putting on a lot of beginner muscle. My chest and arms are certainly getting bigger and stronger. I do think that fat-wise, I'm slimming up some. Still doing well with my diet and I'm starting to get back to having a lesser appetite. I realized that I went up on my shoulder press too quickly as well a…
/r/RPChristians31/07/19 05:13 PM
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Thanks! I appreciate the advice! I just started out about a month ago and am already seeing some very nice beginner gains. It’s definitely encouraging to see progress as the weight goes up and my muscle is starting to develop.
/r/TheRedPill30/07/19 05:55 PM
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Do you typically do your volume work on the same day as your compound lifts or do you do compound lifts one day and focus on volume on another? I get confused when I see people say they lift 5 or more times in a week because I figure that you would need a recovery period.
/r/TheRedPill30/07/19 05:38 PM
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I can't for the life of me figure out the difference in routines between "lifting for strength" and "lifting for muscle mass". Aren't you still progressively increasing the weight on your lifts? (I'm still very new to lifting)
/r/TheRedPill30/07/19 04:26 PM
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I listened to it and it was a lot of blabbing. The guy talked about how he fixed his marriage by realizing that there was nothing wrong with Lauren, he just needed to “fix himself”. He didn’t really go into specifics, though. Lauren, for her part, talked about how she didn’t realize that she would still desire other men when married and that Christian women have to learn to deal with those desires. Then there was some talk about how she viewed submission and her role in the marriage, which to be…
/r/RPChristians29/07/19 05:14 PM
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The correct is not “I’m cutting you off”, it’s “I’m taking control.” And maybe you aren’t ready yet to do that, maybe you are. You need to be dependable with the finances. And you have to make sure that she knows that she will be happy and secure with you controlling it. You don’t even have to make it implicitly clear that you are taking control, just slowly insert yourself into that role, little by little. There’s a lot of anger in your post, and I feel that you are about to make an unwise and …
/r/RPChristians28/07/19 10:31 PM
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I’m always very skeptical of “Christians” that try to monetize their faith. It doesn’t mean that all Christian writers are frauds, it just means that there’s a higher than average likelihood that they are and should be met with skepticism.
/r/RPChristians27/07/19 12:58 AM
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I’m fairly certain that you and I have completely different perceptions on dread. I’m talking from the married perspective. If you’re in a sexless, boring marriage, dread is meant to inspire your wife to fall in line behind you as a result of your higher SMV. Why sit in a sexless marriage if your goal is branch swing? Just divorce the woman and move on if that’s what you want. There’s no need to make her dread you leaving in that case, lol. Just do it.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/19 08:20 PM
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If your SMV is high enough, you can make her chase after you. That’s the entirely underlying philosophy behind dread game. You have to have her value you enough that you can mold her into what you want. There’s a limit to how much you can, which is why vetting isn’t necessarily a bad way to start.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/19 08:08 PM
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That day is approaching for me. My wife and I don't have kids yet, so we haven't felt the need to get a joint bank account yet. But once we do, I will want us to have a single checking account. I do worry about my wife's spending habits, since she grew up in a upper class household, but it's nothing I can't handle. I find that my wife defers to me relatively easily, but thats because I took charge from the beginning. My biggest RP weakness right now is my low SMV, but I'm working on it. Good luc…
/r/RPChristians25/07/19 07:00 PM
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You simply walk away. Once you are in a LTR, you have to switch to dread game. She has to feel that you still have options and that pleasing you is still necessary. Obviously, she isn't going to obey you if you aren't worth obeying, so it's understood that you have to increase your own value.
/r/TheRedPill25/07/19 06:16 PM
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I don't think vetting is necessarily a bad strategy. A man has an image of what he wants in his mind and he finds a woman that's close to that image. Sure, she will never be entirely there, but that's your job as a man: to direct her to be the woman you want her to be. Vetting is simply finding who would be easiest to mold into what you want. It's a lot easier to mold a woman into your tradcon wet dream if she is already traditional than to mold a leftwing free love hippie type. Vetting has its …
/r/TheRedPill25/07/19 05:24 PM
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Check of r/RPChristians for sure. I don't know what your physical stats are, but if you are out of shape, get in shape. That's the first component you need for desire. Your wife clearly feels no desire towards you and is bored of you. Read the sidebar, come up with a plan for improvement and start posting to one of the weekly "Own Yourself" threads to keep track of progress. It's helpful each week for you to stop and reflect on how much or how little progress you've made towards your goals.
/r/askMRP25/07/19 03:01 PM
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Thanks for the advice! That's not a bad idea, talking about getting her to wear a sexy outfit. Lol, I'll be carrying my own golf bag, while she has her own, so there shouldn't be any worry about her trying to make me caddy.
/r/RPChristians24/07/19 07:00 PM
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I would post this is r/RPChristians as well. And yes, I think that in the leadup to the wedding, you SHOULD be setting expectations for the marriage. For me, that was a lot of the purpose of dating, and even moreso for the engagement period. You have to set your expectations early and make them clear. She'll try to test you, of course, and will probably put up some resistance, but maintain frame and she will fall in line.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 06:03 PM
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OYS #2: 7/24/2019 Background/Stats: 25, 6’3”, 266 pounds, married a year and a half now. Bench 135, DL 155, Row 135, shoulder press 115, squat 115 Physical: Currently stagnating when it comes to actual weight loss, but I'm more than making up for it in muscle gain. I need to get a scale that measures fat percentages to get actual number for progress, but needless to say, I'm gaining muscle and losing fat. I'm currently doing keto and intermittent fasting (OMAD) to lose weight. So on workout days…
/r/RPChristians24/07/19 04:04 PM
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It does. I would continue that. Let her come to you. She wants you to break frame and make her your mission. It's in her nature to try and get you to submit. It's your ability to dominate her that actually attracts her.
/r/RPChristians23/07/19 03:19 PM
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I’m still pretty new at this, so take the advice with a grain of salt. But it seems to me that you are letting her put you on the defensive. She storms out and leaves you, with full knowledge that you are going to chase after her and therefore submit yourself to her. She is basically using dread on YOU. The people telling you to “chase after her” are completely wrong. Have you ever owned a dog that likes to be chased? You can run after them as hard and as long as you want, but you probably won’t…
/r/RPChristians23/07/19 01:41 PM
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I’m kind of the same way, personally. I generally don’t have a preference on what we eat or what we do. I’m usually content with whatever. But, that personality trait is not a good one, relationship wise. Women aren’t attracted to content men, they are attracted to ambitious men. Men that know what they want and aren’t afraid to get it. So, I’ve been training myself to start being decisive about these little things that don’t really matter to me much. It may seem like petty stuff, but a woman wa…
/r/RPChristians20/07/19 01:13 AM
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I personally don’t see much point in focusing on the things you can’t change. It’s counterproductive and takes away effort you could be using to overcome those obstacles that you cannot remove. These “positivity gurus” have it right. Sure, there are things about the world that you cannot change, but there are things about yourself that you can change to make getting over the world easier. So it is better to blame yourself for your failings, even if they are not necessarily your fault but rather …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/19 01:07 AM
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Agreed. With women, it's a team sport. The girl you're interested in might leave the room, but know that she's still got eyes on you through her friends. Listening to my wife talk with her single friends about guys they are seeing is eye opening.
/r/askTRP19/07/19 05:42 PM
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Stop sucking. That, or electroshock therapy.
/r/askTRP19/07/19 02:01 AM
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Idk, sounds like typical child behavior in general. I've heard little boys do the same stuff.
/r/askTRP18/07/19 09:30 PM
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Depends on your diet and how fast you want to lose weight. Also, if you actually can do it without sacrificing progress. If you can eat what you want one day a week and not lose progress, go for it. If not, don’t. I myself know that I need to be strict, otherwise I will go overboard.
/r/askTRP18/07/19 03:22 PM
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I’ve never had a problem telling her no when I don’t want to do something or think her request is unreasonable. For the most part of our relationship, I’ve been pretty good about maintaining frame, even before I even knew what frame was. I think that my biggest issues stem less from my relationship to her, and more from my own aimless and meaningless existence. So while I usually don’t allow her to override my frame, my frame is just miserably put together. It’s a boring and tedious existence th…
/r/RPChristians17/07/19 09:18 PM
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Agree with the other comments, you need to do your research on the sidebar of r/marriedredpill. You will start to see what the problem is and what the solution is. To give you a little sneak peak of what you'll figure out: you currently aren't a man and need to become one.
/r/askMRP17/07/19 05:28 PM
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I believe thats the issue the therapist is working on. My wife told me the therapist said she has some kind of muscular imbalance that leads her to not be able to relax some muscles. She gave her some sex positions that would be a lot less painful. They definitely have worked, but I do want to mix it up eventually. But, I'll be patient and wait for her therapy to work in the meantime. I'll have to look into what an "Elvie" is. Something else that I think is probably contributing to the problem i…
/r/RPChristians17/07/19 05:25 PM
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It's less about looks and more about achievement. Also, testosterone. Lifting builds muscle, which makes you feel powerful. It also boosts testosterone for the same effect. If you feel powerful, you will act powerful. Women like that attitude. They want a man that is confident and powerful. RP isn't about faking confidence, it's about becoming confident. For most men, getting jacked will swell their ego, and fix most of their female related trouble. For those that still have issues with confiden…
/r/askTRP17/07/19 05:15 PM
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Here’s my first real OYS that I’ve done. I’m 25, 6’3”, 268 pounds, married a year and a half now. Physical: Over the last year, I’ve lost 50 pounds doing a combination of keto and IF. At Christmas time, I let myself slack off and have been basically maintaining weight up until about two months ago, where I really started back in earnest. About 3 or 4 weeks ago, I started lifting at Planet Fitness. I’m finding that I really need a better gym that’s more suited towards actual progress, but it will…
/r/RPChristians17/07/19 04:32 PM
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Being patient and giving her time simply means that you are allowing her to become accustomed to how things are. You have to assert yourself early and create a status quo that you are happy with.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/19 03:11 PM
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Buddy, the fact that you are here is evidence that you know that the situation isn’t right. It isn’t normal for a married couple not to have sex, western or not. Especially with this being an arranged marriage, this is the time that you need to be setting expectations for how the marriage will be going forward. Two months from now, she will have grown accustomed to the status quo and it will be harder to change it. With how recent your marriage has been, you need to set the expectations you have…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 09:20 PM
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Your WIFE is still a virgin? How in the world did that happen? That’s a wedding night MUST. At least in the history of the western world, if you haven’t had sex, you technically aren’t married yet. Man up and tell her that you want sex. I’m honestly thinking this is a troll, but if not, you need to step up and take command. I don’t think I’ve ever read something this pathetic. I feel like even a fat slob with no game at all can get his wife to give him one little session of pity sex on their wed…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/19 08:33 PM
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I would suggest also posting this to r/RPChristian if you haven’t already. As far as how to deal with this, you said that you are the laid back type, while she is more commanding? That’s a recipe for disaster. You’ve got to be the leader of your house. I had a similar situation, but fortunately I was able to nip that issue in the bud early. My wife is a nurse from a semi-wealthy family background, so she is used to being treated like a princess while also barking orders at patients everyday. So …
/r/askMRP16/07/19 03:30 AM
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The “me” and “we” things you are talking about are just alpha and beta tendencies. A single guy should strive towards alpha tendencies every time. When you get married and have kids, then you have to show some beta tendencies to keep her feeling secure. That’s why MRP is called RP on hard mode. It’s more of a balancing act between being alpha enough to keep her attracted sexually while showing enough beta that she feels that you won’t leave her and the kids.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/19 09:35 PM
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People absolutely have the ability to go against their biology. It's just a really stupid and irrational thing to do, most of the time. Yeah, a woman can fight her hypergamist biology, but what does she win? A fat slob with no future... yay, she wins.... I'm still fairly new to TRP, but something that I've noticed is that the vast majority of RP concepts are simply abstractions of things that should be painfully obvious. The abstration just packages these things in a way that allows a man to und…
/r/askTRP15/07/19 09:10 PM
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Sure, but that doesn't imply subordination. Woman was created as a companion to man. A companion doesn't mean that they are beneath the man. That came after the fall. Otherwise, why would God simply re-iterate an already existing condition when He was telling Adam and Eve their respective punishments? I believe that with those punishments, God was defining the nature of man and woman that has dominated us both until this day. Man's nature is to work and toil away, trying to create from the Earth…
/r/RPChristians15/07/19 05:21 PM
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The problem, I think, is that people perceive it as being a "fake alpha", which looks weak. The whole point of TRP is to make yourself into a real alpha, no faking at all.
/r/askTRP15/07/19 02:50 PM
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I believe your friend is correct. Prior to the fall of man, Adam and Eve were more like equals. But as punishment for her actions, God created the submissive nature that we find in women today.
/r/RPChristians15/07/19 02:38 PM
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Based on that youtube video, I agree with him, you can't actually train a woman. You are simply changing yourself to a man worthy of submission. Women naturally want to submit to a strong, confident man. There's no training involved there. If women could be trained, you could be a fat and lazy slob with no money and teach her to desire you.
/r/askMRP12/07/19 05:36 PM
1

I've been listening to an audiobook of the Bible and recently finished with Genesis. I didn't even think of this passage in this context. Very well said!
/r/RPChristians12/07/19 04:55 PM
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Do what you want to do. Do you feel like celebrating your marriage to her? Then do so. If you don't want to, then don't do it.
/r/askMRP11/07/19 03:49 PM
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Obviously, you have to use some personal judgement, but I find that erring on the side of personal responsibility leads to more personal growth. She is absolutely responsible for her own actions, but its good practice to see her infidelity as a sign of your own shortcomings.
/r/RPChristians10/07/19 08:23 PM
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Full stop, the cheater is held to account by God. That is their sin that they are guilty of. So no, you aren’t actually responsible in God’s eyes for your spouse cheating. However, you should hold yourself accountable. After all, if she was indeed happy with the relationship, she probably wouldn’t have cheated. So while this doesn’t absolve her of blame or responsibility, it is helpful for your own growth as a man to shoulder some of it personally. If you look at the reasons a woman might cheat …
/r/RPChristians10/07/19 03:40 AM
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When I first met my father in law and brother in law, they took us to a Mexican restaurant. They suggested to me a really spicy dish, I’m sure as a challenge. So because I actually love spicy food, I ordered it, then decided to one-up it by eating a spicy pepper, seeds and all, from my then girlfriend’s plate. They will probably try to mess with you and test you, just take it in good humor and laugh at it. They took us skeet shooting the next day, probably also another test. I shot better than h…
/r/RPChristians09/07/19 04:26 PM
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But putting on a short term show of morality and strength when you don’t practice that in your day to day life is immoral. Acting virtuous in public while being depraved in private is the very definition of hypocrisy, right? I think you and I both agree that he should be a confident guy, I simply don’t think that it would be right for him to simply fake it this once and slide into beta tendencies afterward. Maybe this is the best advice: act confident and successful when you meet a girl’s father…
/r/RPChristians09/07/19 04:20 PM
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That may be, but misrepresenting yourself isn’t morally or ethically right, in my opinion. If you’re a scrawny loser with no future, you aren’t going to be able to BS your way into the father’s good graces anyhow. So you might as well own it. If she is bringing you to meet her parents, it probably means that she isn’t ashamed to do so anyways, so the guy is probably fine just being himself.
/r/RPChristians09/07/19 02:34 PM
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Just be yourself. No father wants his daughter dating a wimp, but neither does he want her to date someone that will break her heart. Show confidence in yourself and love for her and you should be fine.
/r/RPChristians09/07/19 01:19 AM
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There’s no point to talking about it beforehand because she is still “auditioning for the role.” So of course she is going to say that she will always fuck like a pornstar. She will agree to whatever you suggest because she wants the ring. She may even believe herself when she says it at the time.
/r/askMRP08/07/19 07:01 PM
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If you truly believe in Christ, then I say go for it. But don’t go into it thinking that it will suddenly fix all of the problems in life. By the Word itself, Christian life is full of suffering. What Christianity will do is teach you that the suffering in this life doesn’t matter when your eternal life is secure. A Christian, secure in his faith, can whether any storm and bear any pain. So, if you are truly interested in Christ and aren’t under a belief that your problems themselves will disapp…
/r/askMRP08/07/19 05:05 PM
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I find the healthiest way to handle all of this is to simply believe that everything that goes wrong is your fault, like most good leaders do. If a military unit fails to accomplish a mission, the leadership gets the blame, not the subordinates. Could the subordinates have played a role in the failure? Of course they could, and very likely did. But, a failure in leadership set the conditions to where the subordinates could fail. It’s your job as the father to set expectations for how these child…
/r/askMRP08/07/19 04:46 PM
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I’m a Christian and I don’t think you should simply say you are converting. You won’t find what you are seeking by simply calling yourself a Christian for convenience’s sake. You will probably find that RP becomes even harder as a Christian because there is no acceptable way to “next” your wife. As a Christian, I would love for you to truly convert and truly believe in Christ, but I don’t believe you should falsely confess faith to something you don’t even believe in. How could you possibly deve…
/r/askMRP08/07/19 04:38 PM
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That’s something that I am learning. RP is not some route to train your wife to do everything for you so that you can sit on your ass and play video games and watch TV. It’s a way to retrain your own mind to be the kind of man that a woman will respond to. If there’s work that needs to be done, the man should be leading the charge to get it done. The woman should be following him and awaiting instruction. That’s the ideal dynamic. I heard a story just this weekend about a couple that got divorce…
/r/askMRP08/07/19 04:06 PM
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No, it’s never do something that you don’t feel that you feel she should logically be doing for herself. If you are both watching a TV show or otherwise relaxing side by side and she asks you to go get her a drink, that isn’t a logical thing for her to ask when she can do it herself. If she is currently doing the dishes and asks you to take the garbage out, she isn’t shit testing you, she legitimately is asking if you will take the garbage out. I would be fine with that. Ultimately, it falls on …
/r/askMRP08/07/19 03:56 PM
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It’s completely attainable. I don’t know how much RP stuff you have read, but I feel like sometimes people read all of the stuff, and forget that women aren’t automatons led around by their vaginas. They are still thinking, feeling human beings. They simply have preferences that are biologically driven, just as men do. The key to having a loyal partner is being a man that is worth being loyal to. Women want a man that is going to make them feel safe and provided for, along with an attractive bod…
/r/RPChristians02/07/19 11:55 PM
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Some men do indeed choose to live without, but most men can’t do it. Biblically, if you can live without sexual contact, then you are obligated to do so. Most men weren’t given that willpower, so God gave us marriage as a holy way to fulfill those desires. So don’t ever let anyone tell you that MGTOW isn’t possible as a Christian. Just understand that it is extremely difficult if you aren’t in control of your sexual desires. Secular MGTOW will tell you to just occasionally have a hookup or meet …
/r/RPChristians02/07/19 10:37 PM
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As a man, you have to learn to discipline yourself. The desires of the flesh are something that we all have to overcome. Easier said than done, of course. You aren’t in love with her, you are simply attracted to her. Recognize that, process it in your mind, and move on. Nothing wrong with simply being attracted, to her. But I would say that that juice isn’t worth the squeeze. It could and probably would put unnecessary strain on your family. Wisdom would say that she isn’t worth that. A big lie …
/r/RPChristians02/07/19 02:07 PM
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Imagine the most ugly man with the worst game imaginable. Now give him a billion dollars. He can give a woman a lot of fuzzies, but very few tingles, if any. “Fuzzies and Tingles” is just another way of talking about alpha and beta tendencies. The best results come from giving a woman a mixture of the two. You have to be able to help her feel secure, while also exciting her sexually. So, be a provider while also being a sexy Adonis. I’m finding red pill concepts are things that should be obvious…
/r/RPChristians25/06/19 09:58 PM
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I think it’s less that they got it wrong and more that they didn’t pass down the values that they held. I think media has a big part in it. The media shaped the perceptions of kids more than their parents. Now that media is no longer monopolized by the left due to the internet, we are seeing a resurgence of traditional thought to help combat the new age nonsense.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/19 06:04 PM
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It can be nothing but bad. This isn’t going to get women to be better mothers or wives, it will teach them to be whores. When prostitution becomes a legitimate line of work in a society that actively seems to be suppressing marriage and family, women will turn to it to provide, not men. I don’t see this going well at all.
/r/RPChristians11/06/19 12:33 AM
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I believe that you are looking for signs of Heaven on Earth, and I don’t believe that there are any. The life of a Christian is suffering. But we suffer today, so that our life tomorrow will be greater. Christ was God on Earth, yet he lived in squalor. He toiled as a carpenter, he ate bread and drank water, he lived amongst sinners. He could have made Himself a King, but He didn’t. He led a life of work and hardship, He sent Himself to be tortured and die at the hands of the people He sought to …
/r/RPChristians10/06/19 03:20 PM
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I’m talking specifically about living a mission oriented life. Your wife shouldn’t be your goal. If you are constantly trying to worship her, complement her, or otherwise make her your primary goal, you’ll lose her. Better to turn towards other things and have her chase you instead. Obviously, that doesn’t mean simply ignore her, but have her see that you have other goals besides her. I think we are misunderstanding the context that each other are talking about. I’m talking about the context of …
/r/RPChristians10/06/19 01:27 PM
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Pursuing and following are the same thing....
/r/RPChristians10/06/19 11:43 AM
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That’s more of the secular approach to redpill marriage. I believe that Christians can do something similar, though. You can create some passive dread simply by turning your interests to other things. Sure, she might not feel worried that you are cheating on her, but she might feel that you are losing interest. You want her to pursue you, not the other way around. We all love our wives and want a good relationship with them. But sometimes the best way to pursue your wife and love her is to not a…
/r/RPChristians10/06/19 02:59 AM
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Yeah, this reads like a feminist trying to rationalize her preference for missionary position with her feminist beliefs against submission. It’s overthinking things. Women do like dominant men. So of course they like the positions that make them feel dominated.
/r/RPChristians07/06/19 07:46 PM
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Sure, if you can go your entire life abstaining from sexual contact, then you should, and are even obligated as a Christian to do so. However, even by the word of the Bible, most men do not have that unique ability. So God gives us women to help us to deal with our lust in a non-sinful way. A lot of MGTOW like to talk about using prostitutes and/or one night stands to satisfy their needs. That’s a sinful, selfish life to live. You can either live a life of chastity or find a woman and get marrie…
/r/RPChristians03/06/19 11:29 AM
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It’s hard to tell why she is withholding the name of the person. If she’s the drama-loving type, she’s probably doing it to create drama. If she’s normally a very caring and forgiving person, she probably doesn’t want to tell people the name of her rapist, because she doesn’t want to taint their name. If you guys break up, then you might tell someone else about it, or otherwise treat this person differently if you met them. She may want to forgive and forget, and part of that is not punishing th…
/r/RPChristians31/05/19 05:55 PM
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I think the appeal of the Orthodox Church is that it incorporates the de-centralized structure of Protestantism with the ritual and tradition of the Catholics. There’s definitely an appeal there.
/r/RPChristians27/05/19 03:29 AM
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I definitely want to discuss my second point. I 100% believe that the health of the marriage does in fact belong with the man. Being some ill defined state of “Godly” has nothing to do with the health of your marriage. Your marriage requires you to be a leader. If your wife isn’t responding to your advances and isn’t feeling romance towards you, there’s a reason for it. It is on you as the leader to find out why and address it. Maybe it’s talking to her and finding it out directly. For some wome…
/r/RPChristians23/05/19 06:59 PM
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I guess I didn’t make my point very clear. I’m saying that God isn’t just telling the woman to submit to the man by appointing him the head of the household, He is telling the man that he MUST lead. It’s like in the example above, the guy may have been appointed the supervisor, but he is very clearly not leading his team, rather just relying on his title to grant him authority. Authority does not sprig from titles, it springs from action. God isn’t just telling the woman to obey, he is telling m…
/r/RPChristians23/05/19 05:47 PM
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It’s a good lesson in leadership. A leader cannot blame their subordinates for failure, they can only blame themselves. The leader is in charge of accomplishing the mission, whatever it is. And that leader has to then use his subordinates to make it happen. If there’s a problem, it’s on the leader to fix it. If we want to apply this to a marriage, a man must act as leader of his household rather than relying on the biblical tradition of the man being the head of the household.
/r/RPChristians23/05/19 03:21 PM
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I do agree, I think polygamy can lead to some pretty severe problems, both on an individual level and a societal level. I’m just saying that it isn’t explicitly forbidden and that there were some cases where it was encouraged. The problem with David and Solomon was that they just married every woman they had an attraction to. They allowed their lust to override their judgment. Even then, it wasn’t explicitly sin, but their wives, in particular Solomon’s, had an inordinate influence on them and c…
/r/RPChristians22/05/19 02:53 PM
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It’s controversial to talk about, but God never explicitly condemns polygamy, as far as I’m aware. In fact, there are a few instances where he encouraged it. But if you pay attention to all of the cases of polygamy in the Bible, every one of those men were well off, and could take care of their wives and the many children they bore. So, based purely off the Bible, it is permissible to take multiple wives if you can support and feed them. However, if you are living in a nation that outlaws polyga…
/r/RPChristians22/05/19 02:06 PM
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I live in the Bible Belt, where churches are everywhere and they rarely have any interaction with one another, even in the same denomination. Even still, evangelical churches’ own doctrine would inhibit this shunning effect. By their own doctrine, attending church is not part of our salvation. A woman may lose out on her friend group, but she can always go elsewhere. I don’t think the church has the teeth to make a divorce sting. The Catholics may have a little more pull, but ultimately, I think…
/r/RPChristians21/05/19 07:10 PM
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I’m only talking about marriage as it relates to Christians. As for non-Christian and secular types, what use have they of marriage? It makes more logical sense, ethics aside, to just stay single and never have kids. For a Christian, that is not an option. So, we have to make do with what we have. And we are not going to be able to reliably make any societal/institutional level change to address the problems that face Christian marriage. We can, however, make changes on the individual level to s…
/r/RPChristians21/05/19 06:12 PM
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I wish I knew the solution, but I don’t. I think we definitely need to do something, though. I don’t think that the shunning approach would work. It may work on a really small scale, but not on a wider scale. I think that we need to consider what each spouse brings to the table, so to speak, in a marriage. In the old way, the man brings protection and provision, the woman brings sex, companionship, and children. The partnership between the two made perfect sense then. Over time, as houses began …
/r/RPChristians21/05/19 05:11 PM
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**** Word of warning, I basically just started typing a stream of consciousness down below and got a few paragraphs deep and realized how rambling and probably incoherent it got, so feel free to ignore, lol. I’m just posting it to save for later now. I don’t even know if I really even made a single coherent point, lol. Exactly. I think we have a tendency to idolize democracy and freedom, but we have to remember that we are not truly free. We are owned in totality by God. Freedom from the tyranny…
/r/RPChristians01/05/19 03:47 PM
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It’s a natural consequence of a democracy in general. Humanity is in a fallen state. We are giving votes to greedy, selfish fallen humans. Of course things are eventually going to devolve over time. That’s not to say that democracy is inherently bad, just that it is to be expected that eventually even the most well crafted democracy will deteriorate into a less moral society. Remember that the vast majority of people are not Christians, even if they are attending church every Sunday.
/r/RPChristians01/05/19 12:18 PM
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“Have sex with me because you’re supposed to.” That might work, but it doesn’t fix the underlying issue that causes her to be disinterested.
/r/RPChristians15/03/19 02:44 PM
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You could probably have your pick of single Christian girls in the congregation, to be honest. You hold a clear and visible position of power and authority in the congregation as the pastor. However, some might view it as exploitative if you try dating within your congregation. It would also complicate your position as pastor, which should naturally come first in your list of priorities. Honestly, I would suggest looking outside of your own congregation for a wife.
/r/RPChristians14/03/19 03:40 PM
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I think it’s cowardly. Just tell the person you don’t want to see them anymore and be done with it. That’s a lot less cruel and wastes a lot of of their time and yours.
/r/RPChristians28/02/19 02:30 PM
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The only danger I see in doing that is that it has the possibility of turning into a chore.
/r/RPChristians24/02/19 10:38 PM
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I try to pray every night before I go to bed and periodically throughout the day, whenever I feel it is appropriate. I like praying before bed because it helps put your life into perspective and keeps your mind focused on heavenly things.
/r/RPChristians23/02/19 04:55 PM
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He's okay. He's not very well spoken from what I've seen, but his message seems to be on point.
/r/RPChristians21/02/19 03:48 PM
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I would say that all pride is arrogance in God’s eyes, because those accomplishments belong to the Lord, not to you. Your abilities are gifts that God gave to you. You did not do anything to earn or deserve it any more than the next guy did.
/r/RPChristians11/02/19 02:21 PM
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That’s why pride is tricky. I feel your explanation is an attempt to justify pride. Sure, don’t lie if someone asks if you performed an action, but be humble and give credit to God.
/r/RPChristians09/02/19 09:19 PM
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I’ve always felt like pride is tricky. The key is to realize that your achievements are not your own. You are everything that you are, because of God. Perhaps he could have placed you in a family that didn’t understand proper nutrition and the importance of excercise, so you start at a disadvantage in that area. Perhaps you were given a great metabolism and physique that allows you to put on muscle mass and look like an Adonis where someone else has to struggle just to prevent themselves from ga…
/r/RPChristians07/02/19 07:09 PM
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I think it's arrogant to think that you could never be tempted away from Christ. The devil is wily and temptation is everywhere. We should always be on guard for things that could lead our hearts away from Christ.
/r/RPChristians06/02/19 05:28 PM
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The Bible says not to marry a non-believer. They could easily tempt you away from Christ. While you may feel secure in your belief now, realize that even Solomon couldn't do it. His wives led him away from God, and he was the wisest man that ever lived. It would be arrogant indeed to think that we could do better.
/r/RPChristians06/02/19 02:10 PM
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Don’t forget that the Bible tells us to honor our parents. Your mother does sound unreasonable, but it is her house, not yours. She has a right to have things done her way. The red pill ideology is for your father to utilize with her, not you. You are not meant to be the head of that household, it’s your father. If he abdicated that position, then it’s up to your mother. For the cooking issue, maybe you should buy your own cookware, if they are worried about doing damage to it. It sounds like yo…
/r/RPChristians30/12/18 05:56 PM
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A boastful guy can make himself seem more valuable than he is. He doesn’t actually have to perform those actions, he just has to make a woman think that he did. It’s like how some males in the animal kingdom do certain poses to look bigger and tougher to the females.
/r/RPChristians20/12/18 01:31 PM
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This story is to teach us to think in the long term rather than the short term. Esau only thought of his hunger in that short instant and sold his long term success for a short term gain. This is an analogue to our relationship with God and with sin. Sin is the stew. In the short term, it is so easy and pleasurable to sin. There aren’t many sins that aren’t pleasurable. If they weren’t, then people wouldn’t do them. But, they trade their inheritance in the Kingdom of God for that short term plea…
/r/RPChristians29/10/18 09:33 PM
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I think it’s desirable for your wife to have never had another man, but it’s not the end-all. The central premise behind Christ is of the forgiveness of sins. How could you be Christian and not even forgive the woman you love for such a thing? Now obviously, part of forgiveness is repentance. If your woman doesn’t repent, then how can you forgive her? So sure, if she had sex with a Muslim before she met me, I could forgive her for it.
/r/RPChristians22/10/18 03:49 PM
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But the first step is to come to know Jesus. I can go dunk any fool into a river and say a prayer over him. That won’t save his soul. There is certainly value in baptism. I’m just saying it isn’t priority number one.
/r/RPChristians19/10/18 04:44 AM
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But doesn’t it say to go forth and TEACH all the nations first? Someone has to come to know Christ to be baptized. It would be foolish to think you could just baptize someone and consider them saved. There are many people that are baptized that certainly aren’t.
/r/RPChristians17/10/18 09:17 PM
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There is no chapter 29 Edit: I’m guessing you meant chapter 28.
/r/RPChristians17/10/18 09:00 PM
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This is not true. Baptism is a symbolic action meant to represent your rebirth as a follower of Christ. It is not in and of itself the goal. The first step is to be saved by coming to know Christ. That is where you are saved from the fire, not baptism. I still recommend finding a church and getting baptized, but we need to ensure that OP understands that it is through Christ and Christ alone that he may be saved.
/r/RPChristians17/10/18 08:49 PM
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Thanks brother!
/r/RPChristians10/10/18 07:21 PM
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I need to get my house in order. The last several months, I've let myself slide into laziness and apathy and I believe that my relationship with my wife has suffered as a result. She gave me a wakeup call the other day. The first concrete thing that I'm going to do to improve is to come home after work and finish the yard work. I cut all the grass this weekend, but I haven't edged or done the weed-eating. Likewise, our room is messy. My wife has been struggling to keep the house in order and I'v…
/r/RPChristians10/10/18 06:05 PM
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This is the mindset that is needed to accomplish things in life. It’s one that I need to start developing personally. I spend way too much time thinking about the goal without working on the plan to get it done. I wanted to build a deck in my backyard earlier this year. My parents even gave me $300 for materials for my birthday. I never even got past the planning phase. That mindset is where I need to get in all things in my life. I’m way too passive and just sort of hope things “happen.” I actu…
/r/RPChristians21/09/18 03:37 PM
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What does "employing kino" mean?
/r/RPChristians19/09/18 09:18 PM
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