Sexual dysfunction

RedPillGlasses · 2019-11-14T15:18:01+00:00

Get your testosterone checked ASAP.

There is a TRT clinic in Florida that does 100% over the phone consults and prescriptions.

I won’t say life-changing for me, but it was pretty damn close.

PM if you want the info

2019-11-14T18:54:52+00:00

> Now I have to take psychoactive drugs just to keep her happy?

You're way too far in your own head. This should be for your enjoyment. You're way overthinking sex and looking for Good Lover Validation.

Also this...

Our marriage has issues, not just this sex issue.

Your issues are directly leading to the sex issue.

Me because of -- don't even know, too tired to think.

You're drifting here and have no direction. What are your goals for yourself? If you could have a do-over what would your relationship look like? Why doesn't it look like that (hint: it's your fault)? How can you start to go down the path to get that (with or without your current wife)? Life is way too short to be unhappy. Choose to be happy.

SBIII · 2019-11-14T10:51:34+00:00

Questions:

How much porn do you watch and how often?

How fat are you?

Limp dick and PE are curable with and without drugs. Quitting porn and stuffing your fat face are the first two steps.

If you can't do both, then send your wife over to me. I'll fuck her senseless for you.

arm_candy · 2019-11-14T16:58:16+00:00

[Heads up, I can’t see any of your replies here so you might need to reach out to a mod. Maybe you’re in a shadow ban state for some reason.]

Is your libido actually lower than your wife’s or are you avoiding sex out of shame over your PE?

You also don’t really provide any pertinent details here. How often are you actually having sex? What are the other problems in your marriage that you mention? You are supposedly getting all the sex you want but you’re unhappy with the marriage, so what else is going on? Have you read the sidebar at all? Do you lift? Are you fat? Actual stats and lifts.

Also this:

It's true, I haven't tried medication. I'm weary of drugs in general, and SSRI's have some bad side effects. Not sure whether I should. I've done a lot for our marriage, major beta bux and all. Now I have to take psychoactive drugs just to keep her happy?!

Fuck no. SSRIs might help with PE but will probably make the libido situation worse. You’d do better to look into viagra or similar which would help with PE and possibility libido to some extent. But more importantly, you should be doing what you want, not what you think might satisfy your wife. Do you have no idea what this “community” is about?

mrbadassmotherfucker · 2019-11-14T13:50:37+00:00

What kinda foreplay do you do, if any? Do you get her proper ready for the cock first or do you just dive straight in?

Westernhagen · 2019-11-14T17:12:37+00:00

As another poster said, get your T levels checked. Definitely sounds like low T is a possibility.

Do not get on SSRIs. Get your ass to the gym. Lifting consistently is likely to cure your physical AND mental problems.

Over at DeadBedrooms , half the relationships have the man with the low libido. It happens. Does MRP have anything to say to these men?

Yes - "Get your ass to the gym, faggot!"

HornsOfApathy · 2019-11-15T06:13:19+00:00

I'm 100% convinced by matter of my own unfuckery that "low libido" is a fucking myth faggots tell themselves as an excuse for being unattractive.

Maybe if you stopped being unattractive your dick would work. Along with your manhood.

You'd be better off with iron 4x a week.

And not the kind you swallow, faggot.

tap0988534 · 2019-11-15T22:41:26+00:00

You need to learn to understand your body in a number of ways:

1) Hormones: These are affected by age, diet, bodyfat, exercise, and activities. T is the big one, but all of these have very discernible primary or secondary sexual effects: T, Free T, SHBG, e2, dopamine, prolactin, pregnolenone, seratonin.

For example, if estrogen is too low, your libido crashes, lose sexual sensation, can't nut. If estrogen is too high then libido is weak, erections are soft, you feel overstimulated, and you nut instantly.

Similarly low serotonin levels make you nut fast, high serotonin levels make you unable to nut at all. Dopamine typically increases libido, but too high and you nut very fast.

If prolactin is zero, you feel minimal sexual pleasure, if it is high your refractory period can last days.

2) Training/Reprogramming: How does your body respond to sexual stimulation. Learning to master the mechanisms that control ejaculation is something anyone can do. Largely it is based on spasms and pressure levels in the prostate. You can learn your body and reprogram it. If your prostate is swollen or otherwise messed up, docs are prescribing stuff to fix them. Ejaculation control is a simple as this: learning your arousal level and controlling it. How? Breathing, Reducing stimulation, and a squeezing out fluid to reduce pressure in the prostate, which requires developing a strong PC muscle, or you can even just do it with your hand.

At first extended stimulation can mess with you, it feels off like you are leaving your hand on the stove too long, the nerves don't even seem to fire correctly, but your brain will remodel to accommodate it. With practice you should be able masturbate at a very high level of arousal for at least 45 minutes. This should be done without visual stimulation or even fantasizing. You should use lube and maximize physical stimulation. You will learn your body. Pulling back from the edge 6 or 7 times can leave you in state where you will be highly aroused but unable to come at all. Learning how your body works will let you know when the right time to choose to come.

3) Skillz:

While it can be good to occasionally just caveman her for your own pleasure. It is also nice to sometimes leave her a shaking sweaty unconscious mess unable to even roll over and cover herself with a sheet.

But how the fuck do you actually do this? It boils down to three factors:

a) Physical Skillz - Stimulating the right parts, the right way at the right time. This means learning the spots, the angles and positions to hit them right and the arousal level at which stimulating them is effective.

b) Controlling her headspace - the great ruiner of female orgasms is their own thoughts. This is where the SGM DEVI techniques shine. She wants to let go. In order to do that she wants to be led and controlled. She also needs to feel like you're really into her, and like you really want to fuck her. She constantly nervous that her pussy tastes like old fish and feels like a dry flappy burlap sack. This is also where dirty talk works miracles. During sex, even the church lady goes into a trance where she wants to hear about every conceivable aspect of her pussy, how wonderful it looks and smells and sounds, how every time you taste her its like nectar from heaven that sense a lighting bolt down your spine into the base of your cock, how her pussy is silkier than a raven's back if the raven had angel feathers and was so fucking soft and dripping wet and tight and makes you so fucking hard and feels like a pretty little mouth sucking you...blah blah blah. The goal is to just keep talking, because it keeps the trance going and makes her unable to complete other thoughts, like "I wonder if my legs are too hairy? or Did i remember to put the trash out?

You also want to direct her about what to do when, she shouldn't be doing any planning, thinking or sex logistics. She should just be experiencing what you want and the way that you want it. Pushing certain boundaries can break the trance, particularly if she has big hangups. If the trance is maintained, she will be able to achieve and maintain a high arousal level quickly. Dominance also maintains the trance. It helps her feel like you're securely in control and she can let herself go. If you direct her to sit on your face, after 20 seconds of grinding on your mouth, she is going to suddenly feel in control and snap out of it. The feeling of dominating you will cause anxiety and pop her back in her own headspace. In order to make it work you need maintain dominance throughout. Pull her wrists down tightly behind her back, or wrap your arms around her thighs and squeeze tight enough that you are controlling all movement. Gently squeezing her throat can be done in almost any position. Even when she is giving you head, you should be careful to maintain dominance. Make it clear that she is your sex servant, and not your mommy changing a diaper. This is simple to accomplish by grabbing her by the head or hair and moving her, thrusting into her mouth, and directing actions: Kiss here, put you mouth on my balls, suck harder, go deeper, look at me while I'm fucking you in your pretty little mouth, etc. At the same time when you go down on her, you must be in control, and she must never feel like you're the slave girl. This means pinning her hands, squeezing her neck, rolling her knees into her face so she's more vulnerable or exposed, or pushing her face into the pillow.

I would have never believed that simple shit like babbling about her pussy, arm pinning, or squeezing her throat would send my wife into moaning delirium. I would have expected her throw a raging bitch fit and leave.

c) The third factor is time. Female orgasms are simply based on the time being properly physically stimulated at a high level of arousal. If arousal is weak and she is working to concentrate it can easily take 25-30 min to reach the first orgasm, after which she will likely be too oversensitive for more. However if brought into the right headspace, properly warmed up and relaxed, and slow methodical progression of physical stimulation, she can already be at her 3rd orgasm by the time you penetrate her at the 15 to 20 minute mark. By carefully maintaining control over your arousal level you could take it another 30 minutes of PIV stimulation, hitting 4 to 6 different positions and making her come countlessly in wave after wave of ecstatic bliss, until she melts into unconscious spread-eagle cum drenched oblivion, and you head to kitchen for a healthy snack.

Rifleshoot · 2019-11-14T18:47:35+00:00

So the question is, is it you, or is it your wife? Do you get attracted to other women? Do you feel desire for them instead of your wife? If so, then it’s your wife and MRP can probably give you direction. If it’s you, then you need to talk to a doctor about it.

fannyfire · 2019-11-14T11:56:54+00:00

MRP is about fixing the man not the marriage.

Title	Sexual dysfunction
Author	FragrantJunket
Upvotes	1
Comments	49
Date	November 13, 2019 3:43 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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