I know the basics when you are married, things like dont go get the remote or whatever when she is closer. How do things change when she is pregnant and has an 'excuse' now? Often if I dont do something for her, I'll get the guilt trip about how she just wants to be taken care of during her pregnancy. This is kid 2.

Also, she has a bad habit of running her mouth and talking shit about my family. I mostly just ignore it but tonight we were having some quiet time to ourselves then out of the blue she starts talking about how ' she hates my mom, shes an ugly person with an ugly name and hates that bitch'. I play it off saying being mean is bad for the baby, but then she blows it up about never taking her side on things. I try to not engage, but its same shit about me not caring, or that she wishes I supported her more. I told her being married isnt some suicide pact where I have to agree with her 100% of the time, but she just pouted and went to bed. She is 10 years younger than me, and sometimes the immaturity shows.

But...for my role in things, wtf do I do to try to be better? I know to stay stoic, let things go, and so on, but she just needles and needles until she gets a reaction sometimes. Sometimes it really bothers me too when she is talking endless shit about my family, then instantly plays victim when I call her out on it. To be clear, this was a problem before she got pregnant, but does being pregnant change anything?