Thoughts?

redwall92 · 2020-04-03T13:42:10+00:00

My wife "took a break from Christianity" a few years ago ... now she's full-on atheist or some other term .. maybe agnostic is what she calls herself. It varies.

Dude ... next. Be glad this happened now and not later after you had a few kids and life's hardships increase.

I have no clue what hardships have come into your LTR's life to make her rethink things in her life like Christianity. But I would say that getting married and having kids and hitching up to do life with her moving forward will only have more hardships and harder hardships come her way. And if you're hitched ... well, that means you'll get hit, too. And your kids.

My wife doubted Christianity back in our college days as well. I wish I would have nexted. Easy to say at this point. Sure ... I've got five great kids now with her, and we're still together. But it's true. I should have vetted better. Heck ... she should have vetted better, too!

No bueno IMO. Easy answer IMO.

rocknrollchuck · 2020-04-03T14:22:14+00:00

You've been given a gift. Forget about dread. Next her and move on.

BiggestThiccBoi · 2020-04-03T06:05:54+00:00

“Take a break from Christianity”

King, I think we all know where this is eventually going to

RunawayGrain · 2020-04-03T13:03:32+00:00

My LTR of about six months recently told me that she needs to “take a break” from Christianity.

Jonah was told to go to Nineveh. He said "Y'know I'd really rather go to Tarshish." Apparently he needed a break, too. It didn't really turn out the way he planned.

I'd get out of the way before her big fish arrives and you wind up as collateral damage.

Red-Curious · 2020-04-04T04:05:45+00:00

When I was in college I had the same prerequisite. There were girls who were hot and into me who offered to "convert" to Christianity for me. But I knew it would never be a genuine conversion if they were doing it for me. It sounds like you found the same thing: her conversion clearly wasn't genuine.

From a spiritual angle, it doesn't matter if "she will go back to being a hoe." Biblically, all non-Christians can do is sin. A "break from Christianity" means she's going back to being a non-Christian with the hope that Jesus will still take her back sometime before she dies, but only after she's had all her fun. That's playing games with Jesus, not authentic faith. If she really believed what the Bible says, she'd know that the lifestyle she wants to return to is like dipping her hand in acid. Nobody does that unless they're so mentally distorted (such as being on acid) that they literally cannot cognitively understand what they're doing. The simpler conclusion is that she doesn't actually believe her choices are anywhere as dangerous and destructive as they are. How can that be if she's been given a new heart and her eyes have been opened by the Spirit? Oh, it can't. So that must not have happened yet.

figure out an exit strategy

"Sorry, I don't date non-Christians." There, I figured it out for you.

how to dread an ENTP

Dread is best applied in marriage and LTRs. 6 months is hardly an LTR. You should still be in the NRE phase. No need for dread then. Not that it hurts to implement it anyway. It's just overkill. Better just being a high value man than worrying about her.

SkimTheDross · 2020-04-03T09:09:32+00:00

All you’ve shared is that she said she need to take a break from Christianity.

Not a lot of info. On its face, one could say she’s looking to branch swing. But, she could have been s__t testing you to see what you’re made of.

More important than her words - what have her actions told you since then?

coachdad8 · 2020-04-03T11:44:53+00:00

Start posting in OYS for more background and measure progress over time. Your situation isn't a one-time question and answer deal.

Rifleshoot · 2020-04-03T14:24:36+00:00

You can’t “take a break” from Christianity. You are either a Christian, or you are not.

IsAllThisReal · 2020-04-03T17:43:10+00:00

I don't think there is any question here about what you need to do.

She will either follow your spiritual leadership or she won't. Only the father can know and judge her heart, but there is no such thing as 'taking a break' from holy communion with the creator God. You are either in rebellion or you are in submission. I've been in both states, and there is no ambiguity. Everyone has doubts at some point, and everyone sins. Everyone fails in their faith, and in the same way faith grows, it can shrink and backslide. That is why we need to keep feeding our spirit man.

Discuss her issues in the faith with her. If you can bring her back to a genuine desire for submission to God, great. If not, what is there to say.

"If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God." - Hebrews 10:26-27

Billy_King · 2020-04-04T00:56:41+00:00

Next her. I know it sucks but at least you are learning this now instead of after marrying her or something.

Willow-girl · 2020-04-04T12:28:26+00:00

My reply to this thread seems to have ended up on /r/asktrp, so I'll add a few words here. Christianity poses a unique challenge for women, because it includes some passages -- like "Obey your husband" and "Sit down and shut up in church" -- that probably aren't going to square with modern women's personalities unless they were raised in the church, and in a conservative denomiation at that!

Imagine you were applying for a job, and management told you, "Oh by the way, this is your boss, and you will be expected to obey his every directive without questioning anything. Also, you will not be allowed to speak up in company meetings. We expect you to sit quietly, and if you have any questions or thoughts about the topic at hand, you can bring them up privately with your boss after the meeting."

You'd probably go, "Wait wut?", amirite? Because this doesn't square with what people generally expect in modern culture. Almost no one, being told the above, is gonna go, "Great! When can I start?"

So these passages can be a stumbling block to a woman ... if she doesn't find a way to process them which make them palatable to her.

I'd be willing to bet this is exactly what is going on with your girlfriend. Does she have any wise older women who can guide her?

cataclysick · 2020-04-03T07:15:25+00:00

Stats: 6’0, 220 lbs, 15% body fat, lifts: 1/2/3/4 plates Reading: RPC, asktrp, the redpill, stoic philosophy, kierkegaard Finances: make $55k, some college debt. Strong job advancement Spiritual: maturity 10, assurance of salvation 10, daily prayer, share faith often

Eminencemiddle · 2020-04-11T07:05:25+00:00

> Before we met she hoed around a bit. The body count she told me is lower than mine but I have doubts she was honest. Since we’ve started dating she’s come really far with Christianity and even some redpill/rpw stuff. But now that she’s “taking a break,” and doesn’t seem remorseful, will she go back to being a hoe?

Sounds as if she already has her new bf lined up. If I were you, I'd start looking for the RP prescribed "2 backups, minimum".

Title	Thoughts?
Author	cataclysick
Upvotes	6
Comments	26
Date	April 3, 2020 5:25 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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