Keep a 6 who's loyal and treats me well or go out and find a more attractive woman?

okkyle · 2016-06-17T19:51:25+00:00

I had an LTR for about 8 months in my early 20's with a girl who was objectively below my league - about an HB 5/5.5. She had a body that was too soft, a flat ass and nothing much in the way of curves, but she had great tits that she knew how to flaunt, and a face that wasn't terrible. She was a waitress at a pizza joint my college bros and i used to frequent. I got her number one night, took her out to see District 9, took her back to my apartment and fucked her the first night we hung out.

We kept hanging out throughout the ensuing weeks. In my mind, I saw her as a FWB and nothing more, but this was me pre-TRP. I didn't know game, plate-spinning theory, or anything useful on how to manage women. She started the slow escalation plan and before I knew it I was meeting her family and she was calling me her bf on Facebook. I passively let this go on because I didn't have abundance mentality and I liked the easy sex she provided.

Point is, I have some experience in dating, not just pumping dumping, girls way below my league. Here are my observations:

The dynamic will naturally be closer to the Capitan/first-mate relationship

You may struggle with beta-backsliding when gaming an HB 7+, but with a girl that you truly believe is considerable lower SMV than you, you don't have to fake anything. When I was dating HB5, I was short with her on phone calls, didn't text her throughout the day, and would frequently blow off plans with her in favor of hanging out with my buddies or doing school work. On Christmas, she got both of us tickets to see Daniel Tosh and a jacket I wanted, and I got her cassette car adapter for her iPhone. I was her Skittles man. I didn't know what a shit test was at that time, but she was very pleasant and girly all the time, the only time friction arose was when she tried to escalate the relationship way beyond what I wanted, like moving in together.

She'll be your submissive whore on-demand

This flows naturally when you have the healthy dynamic mentioned above. I got blowjobs anytime and place I wanted from this chick, anal happened early and often in our relationship. I mentioned a threesome a few times, she didn't jump at the idea and I was still BP, so I didn't have the know-how or game to make it happen. But had I possessed just a little skill and awareness, I know I could have fucked her and one of her friends at the same time.

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At certain point, she will fail to pass the boner test

At one point towards the end, I remember I hadn't fucked her for two weeks. I was a healthy male in my early 20's and I hadn't blown a load in 14 days. I felt as though I could fuck anything, but I didn't want to fuck her. I reached a point where I would have rather jerked off than have sex with her.

Carrying around a considerably lower-SMV girl will hurt your status

Every guy will dip down into the lower nethers of the SMV pool to get your dick wet, but there can be social consequences to keep these girls around as more than FWB's or plates. I remember being slightly embarrassed to bring HB5 around my friends. I never wanted her to meet my family, and I didn't post a single picture of her on social media. Hey, it sounds harsh, but just remind yourself that women are constantly judging how the men in her life affect her social status too.

The Breakup will likely be messy

I finally called it off with my HB5 when my current lease was up. She had been anticipating that we would get an apartment together. When I told her I had other plans, she freaked. I responded that we should take a month break (Again, I was BP and too pussy to assert myself, really I was moving to a new place half an hour away from her and wanted to dump completely). Once the month "break" was up, I called her and told her that I wanted to move on and she broke down, crying like crazy, telling me she'd take whatever arrangement I wanted if I would take her back. It was tough. Even with the cold red-pilled heart I have today, I still wouldn't enjoy doing that again. It never would have gotten that bad if I had simply cut the relationship off months earlier, or made it clear to her that I was just looking for FWB like I should have.

Hopefully this helps. Overall, I'd say there are some short term benefits to dating a girl with a much lower SMV, but there are noteworthy long-term drawbacks. Now that I've studied TRP and had some experience dating higher-quality women, I think it's better focus your efforts higher up on the SMV ladder. If you can't get the dynamic you want out of an HB8, then you're better off working on your own SMV, rather than settling.

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2016-06-17T18:47:52+00:00

How about neither? There is no law out there that says you MUST have a woman in your life.

I think you should not sell yourself short and have higher standards.

[deleted] · 2016-06-17T22:26:10+00:00

Both

Your main girl should rarely be your hottest, she has to be able to keep your stomach full and your balls empty, which is twice as much work as the average chick can handle

ItalianoVero · 2016-06-17T18:43:28+00:00

She's not mentally disabled. She is capable of making her own decisions. If she enjoys your company she will stay. You just keep doing your own thing and DON'T COMMIT.

but to be honest I'm concerned about giving up a good thing for the unknown

Scarcity mentality.

jappithesamurai · 2016-06-17T18:06:57+00:00

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Title	Keep a 6 who's loyal and treats me well or go out and find a more attractive woman?
Author	hdwknd
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Date	June 17, 2016 6:05 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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