Post break up 9mo update: trust issues?

PragmaticRedTruth · 2016-06-20T10:53:35+00:00

hahaha welcome... welcome my friend. This is TRP, go ahead and introduce yourself, tell us your story.

Don't you see? This is why this subreddit has had great success. What's the expression? "Can't see the forest for the trees."

At the heart of TRP, we see self improvement. You took that away, and this is great (handclaps.). However, it is called The Red Pill, because once you take it, you are headed for reality, by taking The Red Pill, your mind is being showed the hypnosis it's endured for years. You are breaking free from slavery.

What you need to do, is continue on reading here. You've missed the bulk of what TRP shows us. It is that society has had numerous affects on women and men alike. It is that men have taken a more feminine role, and women have taken a more masculine role. We see this, and their negative affects on society.

At this point in time, in 2016, it is that society has had detrimental affects on women. If you couple this, with the evolutionary aspect of: "we are all animals, don't over complicate it," you can see why you have "trust issues."

Why wouldn't you when women find psychopaths attractive? Why wouldn't you when you look at divorce rates? Why wouldn't you when you see the turmoil the LAW can cause a man when a women points a finger?

Now there is an even greater problem. It is that you haven't seen this. That you haven't been able to pull this out. And in time, I am sure you will or would have. But, this is key, so make sure you don't miss it:

AWALT, however, not all women are scum. Not all women are whores. Some are better than others. In other words, you have trust issues because you still assume women are to be seen as angels. You have trust issues because you haven't completely given up the notion of relationship (I suggest you do, if you're searching, the outcome is liable to go south.) You are looking at it all wrong. It is that a woman gains your trust by investing in you. Thus, you will never have an issue of such. You gain outcome independence. You spin plates. And then years after doing this (my suggestions at least.) you should THEN look at the potential of even considering an LTR.

I highly suggest against marriage whatsoever, however, if you are to, there are plenty of guides here to tell you how to do it correctly and how not to pin yourself in a corner.

I could write for hours, but you should start reading more and take away what you think makes sense for your life. The thought of a "trust issue" won't even cross your mind because you have a multitude of steps to ensure you never get into a position where you will have to worry, and best of all, a fail safe of being able to walk away in an instance to pick up an even better looking woman. Best of luck.

SkorchZang · 2016-06-20T04:38:37+00:00

How long were you together before the big break?

You can expect a natural recovery time equal to approximately 1/2 the time you were together. During this time it's normal to feel like shit.

You can lessen the shit feelings by removing all reminders about her from your sight. Don't have to burn all your mementos and what not on a pyre, but definitely pack them into a box. Put it somewhere whereit's difficult to get to it for you, so natural laziness does its bit to help you stay on course.

Same deal with old emails, her FB account, anything that puts new information about her in your brain should be excluded, if you're looking to speed up your own emotional recovery. It feels like a daze, but it gets better man! The fogs clear, the addiction cures itself - it is not permanent if you don't permanently keep aggravating yourself by reminders or info about her.

You will realize (after that fog of pain is gone) that you're not meant to trust women like a child trusts its Mother.

You're meant to love them like a Man, with a healthy amount of sexy condescension.

djbarroso85 · 2016-06-20T05:05:51+00:00

First of all. Great call. Better to abort a wedding than divorce later on.

Second, monk mode is okay. Not necessary, but if you have to straighten your shit out, take the time to do so.

Third, keep reading TRP theory and lore. You don't have to have trust issues with all women, just be less readily trusting. It takes time. I still don't fully, but that's just me.

Fourth, do not feel you need to stay unhappy because of this experience. There are plenty....PLENTY of fish in the sea waiting for a fisherman to catch and release them. If you wanna keep one and take it home, make sure it's a Marlin or better. :)

Ali_s1987 · 2016-06-20T07:00:08+00:00

I have been focusing on work/school/gym.

What? School?

raisins3142 · 2016-06-20T17:24:19+00:00

Yes, and that is why I no longer want marriage or an LTR. All the marriages I see suck, and every LTR I've been in turned to hell and was a net negative in my life by month 3. Perhaps it is not a bad thing. Also, given what you know of modern women, how they are raised, the technologies they have (social media/smart phone), is it logical to meet someone and in less than a year actually trust them on the level you'd like? No. I only trust people that have been there and proven themselves to me for years. Women want you to just assume trust after being exclusive. They use and abuse that.

Title	Post break up 9mo update: trust issues?
Author	trpnewbie01
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	June 20, 2016 2:22 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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