Quick summary: My boyfriend is in his mid-twenties is a recent college graduate and is unemployed. I'm looking for ways I can help keep his mood positive without stepping on his toes. Please advise.

How old are you and how familiar are you with RPW? I am in my early twenties, and I've been a long time lurker on RRW. However, I decided to make my first account in order to become more involved with the community here.

What is your relationship status? I have been happily dating my boyfriend exclusively for 6 months, however we were close friends for three years before we began dating.

What is the problem? (Don’t badmouth your SO!) My boyfriend is a recent college graduate. He is sharp and well-educated, however he has been having a difficult time since his graduation in early May. He has been applying and networking since January and has not found much success in the job hunt.

While he has been diligent and patient for the majority of this time, I think the stress of unemployment and impending student loans are starting to manifest itself in other places in his life. He has had trouble sleeping and has stopped wanting to go to the gym. Instead of reliving pressure through self care tactics, he seems to prefer drinking and rough sex.

How have you contributed to the problem? I have been very anxious about the possibility of him remaining unemployed. I have kept a relatively happy face, but I'm terrified of the future. He has always been sure-footed and a strong leader, so seeing him this low has been difficult for me. There's a chance that he has picked up on my nervousness because he has always read my emotions very well.

How long has this been an issue? This has been an issue for two months.

What have you done to resolve this problem? This week especially, I've been staying positive and letting him vent frustrations to me. A few things I have tried to help him unwind: favorite dinner, bjs, back rubs, editing emails/cover letters (when asked), dishes, laundry, surprise love notes, hiking, face masks, intercourse twice daily, and spooning (which he loves).

How long have you been together? 6 months as significant others. 3 years as close friends.

Is your relationship long-distance? N/A

Do you have an active bedroom life? Extremely. It's a little more aggressive and forceful during this difficult time. I like it rough, but this has gotten to the point where he has been ripping my vagina on the sides.