I live in a european country and the identity of the people from my country has been lost.

Nowadays, every kind of people l ives here. There are a lot of different religion, a lot of different languages are spoken, there are no more national values.

The national identity has been lost.

Nowadays, a guy growing up in my country has no guide on how to behave. There are no rules. Boys are not told "this is what we expect from you: be strong, be advanturous, be fearless, don't cry". For instance, the Bible gives lots of advices on how to behave. It's a guide on how to live a good life. The 7 deadly sins, the 10 commandments. But WE are given lots of contradictory and useless advices.

If you grew up doing martial arts you may have learned a set of values like courage, patience, respect that gave you a sense of identity. Because you belonged to a group, you have a clear and defined identity. And because you follow the code of conduct of the group, you learned useful ways to behave and it helps to become successful.

By being part of a group, one adopter it's ways of behaving and it allowed one to grow and become successful.

But most guys I know grew up using video games, withtout a masculine figure, without belonging to a group and they never learned how to conduct themselves.

How to treat themselves. Coping tools for the hardships. Mindset.

TRP gives a few advices about that : lift, eat healthy. But I'm looking for more because most of the advices concerns one's sexual life and are about women. Being surrounded by losers, I can't find guidance in my real life. I have never been taught how to deal with life, how to conduct myself, what values I should make mine.

Do you know any code of conduct that could help? Or maybe, do you know anything that could help?

I looked up samurai's codes, the Bible but I didn't understand much of the first and the second one was too much filled with faith-related things. I'm still trying to find a group to learn from.