How can I get more status?

jeezydasnowman · 2016-06-24T00:25:29+00:00

It's gonna take a year of consistent gym gains to lose your dad bod. Social success happens a lot easier when you are muscular and tan - society is about looks first and foremost so keep at it in the gym.

Improv is an amazing way to learn social skills super fast.

h4lp23 · 2016-06-24T03:12:12+00:00

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bruh_my_jays · 2016-06-24T02:34:18+00:00

Learn how to memorize people's names. What works for me is I will usually take note of a characteristic somebody has and attach it to their name. For example, I just met a women named Aubrey earlier this week, and she has red hair. So, to remember her name, I call her Auburn Aubrey.

Beyond just knowing their names however you must also be interested in what's going on in their lives. That's what good friends do. When a friend tells me X is going on in their life, I will ask them how it is developing the next time I see them. For example, if your friend's grandma is in the hospital, remember to ask him about her the next time you see him. How is treatment going? Is there anything I can do to help? Not only does this make for good conversation, but it demonstrates a genuine interest and sense of compassion.

Do keep in mind that these are also great ways to identify people who are good friends. If somebody remembers your name after meeting you only once, or asks how your pet dog Snoopy is doing, then they are probably somebody who is worth befriending.

Honestly, it's hard sharing personal information with others, and a lot of people will cite the 48 Laws [and say, don't give more information than necessary or it will be used against you], but if you want to build meaningful friendships, then you should be willing to share some details about yourself. Life does not necessarily have to be a struggle for power, especially if you just want to be happy and have friends.

My final words of advice would be to make this your personal mission. Do your very best to become the person that you want to be, because nobody else has the power to change you fundamentally. Smile as much as possible, don't be afraid to speak your mind, never take criticism personally, avoid making assumptions, and always honor your promises.

EDIT: Maybe consider looking into a Greek philosopher named Epicurus. He wrote about the importance of friendship, and how it is necessary for living well. It sounds like you have the motivation to change, and I was really pleased to see how well you self-reflected in this post. At this point the ball is in your court, and however your life plays out is up to you. Good luck, /u/h4lp23.

Title	How can I get more status?
Author	h4lp23
Upvotes	0
Comments	7
Date	June 23, 2016 11:48 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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