Dealing wth death, Give it to me straight boys.

disgruntledearthling · 2016-07-05T11:21:44+00:00

My condolences to you brother. You don't need to get rid of all those feelings - just don't let them wear you down. Use them to remember her by but get on with your life. I myself lost 3 parents (stepfather) and lived through grief. Even after almost 20 years the death of my mother will bring me down. We're only human, after all.

mikeylongshanks · 2016-07-05T19:16:22+00:00

When my uncle died of cancer this year, I found solice by re reading Seneca's Letters From A Stoic. He has quite a few excerpts about how to deal with loss.

But like others have mentioned, it's perfectly fine to feel sad. It takes processing those emotions and accepting them as a way to begin to overcome them.

I would highly suggest giving Seneca a read. We're all gonna make it bro

Jewishsleeperagent · 2016-07-05T11:07:12+00:00

Slow down there, Bucko. Don't write too many people off just yet. You don't want to be vulnerable, and with good reason. It can be a world of pain. So I'm going to ask that you look at how you are using the death of your sister and her child as a way of not participating in the world.

Start here. http://www.sharischreiber.com/

You want to look for your mother in all this if you say they were neglectful. Forget that it says Bipolar, it's a spectrum that clearly shows patterns I think you'll recognize fairly quickly.

When you have that site near memorized and you know your place in it, mourn what could have been. Not be depressed, but mourn. It should be bitter sweet when you let yourself dwell on your sister.

women can't love

But your sister did. So perhaps you owe her due diligence in making yourself happy. I would say you owe yourself, but you and I know that's just not how it works at the moment.

But that's the goal: your happiness.

Thewelshpill · 2016-07-05T11:05:46+00:00

sorry to hear that man, i hope you find solace and the support you need. therapy might be a good idea but i really wouldn't advise medication, even in dire circumstances (they really fuck you up man).

When i went through something similar learned guitar and their favorite songs just to have a positive outlet for something they would enjoy.

Apexk9 · 2016-07-05T11:56:43+00:00

No matter what you do how you feel they will be dead There is no coming back. Wallowing, sadness, depression they are all just in your head they mean nothing.

They are you trying to cope but what is there to cope with we all die at an unknown time in life worry more about enjpying yours then about the lives that have been lost because people will keep dying and that will never change.

That gave e clarity when my parents died. It happens. That's life.

Jzeezy420 · 2016-07-05T17:40:41+00:00

There is nothing wrong with crying over a big loss. Crying is not strictly blue pill behavior.

Title	Dealing wth death, Give it to me straight boys.
Author	Jewishsleeperagent
Upvotes	4
Comments	11
Date	July 5, 2016 10:49 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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