Opinion on losing v-card to sex worker

banllama · 2016-07-07T21:13:04+00:00

Life is a journey and is about patience and perseverance. You are pedestalizing sex as an end all be all experience. There is so much you can gain on your journey to get laid: self improvement, better friends, amazing women etc. Don't be afraid of intimacy. You will never learn to overcome oneitis any other way than facing it head on. Avoiding intimacy because of "risks of catching oneitis" is like avoiding sex because of the risk of STDs. Or avoiding starting a business because risk of financial failure. You are young. You are meant to fail and learn.

Sex with a prostitute is the equivalent of eating steak at a restaurant. It's nice but easily forgetful. But in this case it's essentially taking the easy way out. Like jerking off. Sexual anxiety is extremely normal. Being uncomfortable with new situations is perfectly normal. You're way too fucking young to be desperate enough to fuck a hooker though. Channel that desperation into improving yourself and your relationships instead. I don't think a hooker will help you.

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2016-07-08T02:58:10+00:00

Stupid idea. It's a step above masturbation and not at all an indicator of being a man. Paying a random sex worker to act like she gives a damn about you so you can have an orgasm is absolutely nothing to be proud of.

zedsdedforever · 2016-07-08T00:12:54+00:00

Do it.

empatheticapathetic · 2016-07-08T02:12:00+00:00

I did it in January at 26. Honestly i wish i had done it with a real girl, i just pine for that now. But if i hadn't i'd still be a frustrated wreck.

Docbear64 · 2016-07-08T04:38:54+00:00

I think it can be a healthy outlet if it really bothers you that you've never been laid or intimate. Paying someone cute $200 to be yours for a while is a really straightforward way to be intimate, enjoy sex, and get the monkey off your back.

HOWEVER I would really take a second to consider if this will make you feel better or not. Also doing it once to get the monkey off your back is ok, becoming addicted to pros because they are easy and you don't have to deal with the discomfort of gaming/flirting/ attracting a real girl is a possibility and i would make sure once again you evaluate yourself and if that's the best course of action.

So know yourself, i don't think there's anything inherently wrong or consider the mere act "cheating " . I think knowing what it's like to be with a woman makes being with women in the future easier . Kissing becomes just a thing when you are 't stressing about your first kiss, fucking becomes not a thing when there's no more pressure of your first fuck .

Take some time and mull it over. If you don't sleep with an escort get out there , flirt and have fun . If you do decide to do it do your homework and pick someone whose worth your time and money and have fun. No matter which go out get a pretty girl and have fun.

MuhTriggersGuise · 2016-07-08T13:02:17+00:00

Personally, in your shoes, I wouldn't do it. Not really in line with the idea of abundance mentality and it isn't going to help your confidence at all. Also, having had sex with a lot of women, I can't imagine it being that good with someone who is only there because they're being paid. Finally, STDs. Sex workers are extremely unlikely not to be carrying various strains of HPV and herpes. 1 in 4 women have the herp, how do you think sex workers fit in to that statistic? Remember, condoms don't help too much at preventing its spread...

Work on yourself and your anxiety. Don't try to take easy shortcuts. They don't exist.

Title	Opinion on losing v-card to sex worker
Author	BoostMeister
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	July 7, 2016 8:49 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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