Fucked up real bad

Cyberdemon_ · 2016-07-12T09:49:12+00:00

I'd say you wait for her to contact you about the watch (a few days).

If she doesn't, tell her you forgot the watch at her place. Go pick it up, be extremely polite, get the watch and leave.

If she starts a conversation with you or invites you to do something, politely refuse.

You don't want her to think you are butthurt because she rejected you.

SkorchZang · 2016-07-12T09:56:52+00:00

No, it's a complete waste of time to "confront" women about how they're being women (creating orbiters for themselves, dangling pussy on a string to control men etc.). Pointless, and reveals your desperation so she'll think less of you for it.

About the watch, pretend like you don't know where you left it; wait for her to send you a message about it. When and if she does that, be like "Oh yes, so that's where it is! Thank you, ya I'll pick it up one of these days. Don't pawn it off yet."

Give it a few days, then pick up your watch. Don't be angry at the girl or at yourself. Namely, picking up the watch and seeing if she's there being coy (inviting you in etc) is not orbiting. She can't make you orbit again just by doing that, you always hold the trump card of walking away from a bad deal if it turns into one. If this sexy chick invites you in for a beer, how's that a bad deal. It isn't. Knock yourself out and enjoy.

To sum it up, basically you might currently be thinking that orbiter status in your previous life may be besmirching you as a man permanently. But this is not true, it's just a beginner mistake. So much so that it's so easy for women to do, they get bored of guys who go into orbit easily. Once your girl sees that you've changed and you're no longer acting like her lapdog all day every day, she will change her tune too. The bottom line is, you don't need any radical shit like blocking her on every social media etc.. By grabbing a hold of yourself, putting on a cheeky grin, and then running a tight ship (watch for her attempts to put you in orbit again, and sidestep them like a Smart Alec) you can accomplish way more for yourself.

Willem_Dafuq · 2016-07-12T10:24:38+00:00

What are you even angry at her for? You had feelings for her and she didn't reciprocate. If you don't want to see her again, that's fine. And if you want your watch back, text her asking to pick it up or have her meet you somewhere, make a joke about the awkwardness and continue never seeing/talking to her again afterwards. If you really are unconcerned for this friendship, it doesn't make a difference what she thinks of you on a go-forward basis.

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2016-07-12T12:50:55+00:00

I had a friend launched 50 feet out the front windshield of a truck because of a drunk driver.

Think about that next time you decide to drive drunk.

drqxx · 2016-07-12T13:58:32+00:00

Call her up; go to her place; grab your watch leave. No hugs; no eye contact, just grab your fucking watch and go. She is using you as an emotion crutch. SHE IS CANCER.

Edit: I had a similar situation like this. She asked me whats my problem. I looked her in the eyes and told her "I want to taste you. However I am not your flavor. Goodbye" The look on her facw when I closed the door. Priceless. A few months later I found this amazing LTR (Rachel, my first jew)

Point is if I didn't walk away then I would have gotten this hotter girl.

trudatness · 2016-07-12T15:00:54+00:00

Man up and get your watch. Then hard next.

japjap · 2016-07-12T12:07:00+00:00

Go pick up your watch. Do not engage in conversation. Tell her thanks, then bye. End all contact and communication after watch retrieval.

writewhereileftoff · 2016-07-12T15:02:59+00:00

This is simple. You get the watch. No smalltalk no nothing and you go and ghost her. Who cares what she thinks?

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-07-12T16:25:23+00:00

Call. Get your watch. Say "thanks." Walk away.

onetoomany0 · 2016-07-12T09:52:32+00:00

The watch does actually have sentimental value, i got it for my 18th birthday from my parents.... i swear i would have left it there if it wasn' t like that, so i should wait a few days for her to tell me about it, go get it, be polite and just ghost the bitch afterwards?

onetoomany0 · 2016-07-12T14:20:34+00:00

Thanks for all the advice guys, it really helps. Just messaged her to tell me when she gets home so i can come get my watch. Will do as instructed: greet, grab watch, leave, and if she asks for me to stay i will tell her i am busy. And another thing, i am positive that she will continue messaging me, calling etc. should i completely ignore these, or respond with a few hours delay "busy"?

onetoomany0 · 2016-07-12T20:23:53+00:00

Got it back, was polite, and was on my way quick. Thanks guys.

deci-mator · 2016-07-12T12:31:52+00:00

Just casually tell her "Yo, I forgot my watch, please bring it to ... [at a place of your choice] at [a time of your choice].. Thanks" Do not over think it, and what you did at her place, you rushed things, where was all the foreplay? The seductive talking? The breaking down of LMR? Never rush things, always have an abundance mentality, know that there are many other girls out there so there is no need for you to rush to getting her pussy. Also you may want to regulate your drinking, I got so drunk one time that I was accused of being "rapey" (because I apparently came on strong with my words). Keep your drinking to the point where you are buzzed and everything flows naturally. You came on well with the whole "your place tonight?". Always hold frame. To get over this chick try getting more plates

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2016-07-12T12:50:56+00:00

I had a friend launched 50 feet out the front windshield of a truck because of a drunk driver.

Think about that next time you decide to drive drunk.

WD_Elvis · 2016-07-12T15:12:18+00:00

See what you're doing is bad. The more you care about what others think of you, the more you are their prisoner. To the point you made this whole post about a watch. Be a man, own it. Tell her you're stopping by at x time to pickup your watch and do it.

trancedj · 2016-07-12T20:03:13+00:00

Was it your fathers gold watch? The one on the bedside table on the kangaroo? I have it. ;)

But seriously, just go get it. Don't act butt hurt at all. Be cool. Get the watch. And bounce.

brooklynisburnin · 2016-07-12T21:59:04+00:00

"this needy mf, he left it there so he could come back"

WHO THE FUCK CARES?

Who the fuck cares about what any person would think about you, if you're not going to be involved with said person in any way??

Send a text, drop by, take your watch, say goodbye, drive the fuck away and live your fucking life for fuck sakes.

You didn't "used to orbit" you're still orbiting this fucking woman the moment whatever she may or may not think makes you second guess the fact that you have to go and simply get your watch back.

itgscv1 · 2016-07-12T09:48:11+00:00

Text wall, you're rambling and it shows. Is it normal for you to get in bed and spend the night with this girl and nothing happens? If she does this with an orbiter (you) she for sure is doing it with other guys. Not worth it at all to pursue.

Is the watch expensive or hold sentimental value? Do you care if you lose it if you hard next now? If not hen let the price of the watch be a lesson learnt on your rp journey.

Don't sit down and talk if you do go get the watch, take it, say thanks, leave.

Il128 · 2016-07-12T09:42:35+00:00

Forget the watch. Next hard now.

Title	Fucked up real bad
Author	onetoomany0
Upvotes	3
Comments	24
Date	July 12, 2016 9:20 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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Call her up; go to her place; grab your watch leave. No hugs; no eye contact, just grab your fucking watch and go. She is using you as an emotion crutch. SHE IS CANCER.