I'm really into anal and my ltr has gradually turned up her nose at it.

Background info

When she was my plate way back, she offered me anal if I would go down on her (She always used to give me shit about not going down on her and I would bust it shit test style). She didn't like it and grimaced her way through, but we had anal nonetheless. This was all without me pressuring for it or even expecting it.

It happened a hand full of times after that, most of which she protested to begin with before letting me have my way, one of which she had a pretty powerful orgasm with me in her ass.

She hadn't done anal for a very long time before me but had done it with other guys.

Now it took a while, but she first started having a problem with dick play, then a few months later would get shitty at me for having a finger in there and now she won't even let me grab near her asshole or touch it while we have sex. I thought I would build up to it by getting her comfortable with it incrementally, (having my fingers there a couple times, finger in the ass a couple times etc. etc.) and get her relaxing/ associating it with good feelings but she's just getting more and more adamant it isn't happening as I put pressure on. To the point where she brought it up the other night while we were drinking "Your not fucking my ass tonight! Is that your plan? Get me drunk and fuck me in the ass? It is isn't it?

Note, when she was my plate way back, she used to say similar shit.. but I just made fun of her for bringing it up and without expecting it she let me have her ass anyway.

What I was thinking was, she isn't having anal with me because she doesn't feel like she has to put in as much effort anymore to keep me around. So I was going to limit my time with her, up the dread a bit and subtly hint in that direction over text when she hasn't seen me for a while and is feeling frisky. She gets really turned on by girls squirting so I was gonna send her some gifs of girls squirting from anal after a little bit of reduced time together and see If I could get her thinking of it to the point where she wants it.

The thing is, she's enjoyed it ALOT when she's been relaxed and not a bitch about giving up her asshole. So I just want to enjoy the fullest of our sexuality together like we used to.