Fucking forgot to write a title...

Quick bio, LTR 5+ years with high school sweetheart, pretty much textbook beta provider until I started browsing here. LTR is struggling to come to terms with the changes and I'm not too sure how to handle it.

Had a serial deadbedroom for probably over a year maybe two in which I was getting pitty and reward sex once a week/fortnight, to which I tried to remedy by talking/pleading/being a pathetic beta provider.

Rewind to two months ago, on an amazing travelling holiday across Europe and she puts out like 2 times in a month and is miserable the whole fucking time. At this point it was close to nuke, but having found TRP through /r/deadbedrooms and read NMMG and Tommassi I came to terms with the situation being a symptom of being a low SMV beta provider and not anything else. I want to make it work I can draw a lot of parallels with the "nice guys" in the opening chapters of NMMNG and myself I.e. everything is perfect apart from sexlife. So having done a reasonable amount of reading the comments that really hit home are like the one below

If your SO doesn't want to fuck you, you aren't a dude that makes her want to fuck. You may be in wicked good shape, and you may drive other women crazy, but if you want to drive your wife nuts, you've got to stop being the same schlup who does the same shit day in and day out. -from /u/TheFamilyAlpha https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4sym3v/why_you_cant_negotiate_desire/

Definitely an eye opener, so I gym 5/7 days and do hill sprints on off days, try and keep myself busy with interesting shit, stopped eating like shit and have dropped 20lbs in the meantime, still WIP as I probably have another 50lbs to go but I'm on the path and ive noticed the difference.

So put into practice DGAF dread and upped my game while maintaining plausible deniability and for the most part shes receptive, last weekend we had amazing hours long mind blowing sex for the first time in probably 2+ years on 3 separate occasions, this totally cemented my faith in TRP.

After her hamster has processed the events of the weekend I get some serious shittesting and comfort testing to the effect of:

-Why are you so distant until we have sex then you're happy/open again? -Shes caught onto the DGAF, this one is difficult as there hasn't been much change in actual personality I'm just not bending to her will. She shittests about this one all the time, not too sure what a good general retort is. It seems to me that she could just fuck to keep me happy and it's not a huge mental leap to imply that.

Also I find that after the weekend in question I end up regressing back to BP shit subconsciously feeling comfortable and happy that were fucking on the reg.

Wakes up one morning and says: -Do you think we will get married? We have spoken about it before and she knows my stance on it, no marriage unless prenup. So I think I dodged that one but the fact that she brought it up means she's definitely caught onto the dread/abundance mentality

Another major issue for me is that she keeps hitting / elbowing / kicking me for teasing her or if she's pissed off. I know how to push her buttons and enjoy doing so just to see the reaction. I always keep my cool and its not like it hurts but that's beyond the point. I know I need to set some boundaries and I tell her every single time that she can get out of the fucking door if she does it again. By the next time it comes around its like we never had that conversation, not too sure how else to better stand my ground on this.