Is it dangerous to be a "loner" (socially speaking)? Do women see this as red flag?

4thepill · 2016-07-17T20:40:26+00:00

If you're in a LTR and you've spun some plate, why is this an issue/ question?

[deleted] · 2016-07-18T00:39:37+00:00

The only excuse for not having friends that is acceptable to women is that you're too busy with work / being successful, and usually those people aren't so much loners as.... busy with work / being successful. Side note - as a loner, since you've got all that time you should be... you know, successful.

WeedDaddy · 2016-07-18T10:42:53+00:00

Yes.

Extroverted people are suspicious of introverts and feel uncomfortable in their presence. A loner is like an Ebay seller with no reviews on the same page with sellers with lots of positive reviews.

Usually loners don't get girlfriends, not to mention hot ones.

Atlas-XIII · 2016-07-17T20:43:19+00:00

oh this guy must rely on girlfriends for social stuff and is needy

Srop projecting your insecurities.Eliminate them.

Stay true to your self.Being loner is a positive trait.Loner is not the same things as lonely.It mean that at your core you are safe reliant.And fuck chicks opinion,focus at your life.Stay out of comfort.Be active.

[deleted] · 2016-07-17T21:43:44+00:00

if you're a loner but you're content, I don't see the problem.

It's when you start complaining about it that women will start seeing it as a red flag.

frerri · 2016-07-18T11:03:21+00:00

Don't isolate yourself. If you don't have any friends fill up your free time with classes and gatherings for w/r hobby you're interested in.

By doing this you're too busy to spend time with the friends you don't have.

Worst thing possible when you're alone is to get stuck in front of the computer screen aimlessly scrolling through reddit and YouTube.

Be proactive and if you don't have any friends you'll still have tons of activities to do with people you'll get to know through them.

I go to spinning classes. Cycle team. Art class once a week. Gym 6 times a week. (get to know tons of guys there) Do yoga? Join language classes...

Hit the club rack up numbers.

TNNRR · 2016-07-18T18:28:21+00:00

"Do women see this as a red flag?"

Who cares. Live your life. Do whatever you can to make your life more awesome for yourself. If you eat well, find an exercise routine you enjoy, and make a decent living, you'll be fine. On top of that - if you do the above three things and are not ugly, you'll do better than fine.

I'm a lot like you with regard to being able to socialize, doing well at work events, etc. but I'd just rather kick it alone or with one or two other people. I never really had any problems.

Besides, if you decided that it really was a huge red flag, are you going to change who you are just to please some females?

hawkeaglejesus · 2016-07-18T18:50:08+00:00

Romantically plenty of girlfriend and plates. Currently with a LTR who is smoking hot.

There's your answer.

Would some women see this as a bad thing?

I can but just don't want to.

Stop caring about what women think and do what you want.

balalasaurus · 2016-07-18T02:03:44+00:00

Read up on sigmas.

sierratangovictor · 2016-07-18T05:45:42+00:00

Generally, yes, being a loner is an automatic turn off. So i wonder, how do you even get these women, let alone smoking. You must be very successful or italian looking ..

Long answer:

Seemingly women like "mysterious people". No they don't . If they liked mysterious people, they will try to find the last uncontacted tribes in Amazon and dedicate their lives to them. To they? No they don't.

"Mysterious" is just a hamster adjective to a fathomable, but attractive loner.

Blaat1985 · 2016-07-18T10:56:12+00:00

As long as your social skills are fine you will do fine. Just find someone compatible with you. The extraverted party girls arent a good match.

Title	Is it dangerous to be a "loner" (socially speaking)? Do women see this as red flag?
Author	Atatann
Upvotes	3
Comments	16
Date	July 17, 2016 8:27 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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