Got friendzoned by the girl I liked for 4 years.

TopTRP · 2016-07-20T20:55:04+00:00

I would hate to make you feel uncomfortable. I appreciate the reply and I'm glad we can still be able to talk :)

Good god dude I almost threw up reading that.

You've got a lot to learn, but you're 18 so, I guess you've got time.

Start with this tip.

Keep your texts with women SHORT.

I casually text her, and the second time I do I ask if she's free this week. She doesn't text back, so the day after I text her

You've initiating contact too much. If I initiate contact with someone, I say one word only.

"Status". That's it, one word.

After she responded and wrote you a novel, your reply should be (if you even reply at all)

"Haha, aight".

Something along those lines. Don't write her a fucking novel back and ESPECIALLY don't sound like a limp wrist virgin who's hyper sensitive to her feelings.

No matter what your mom has raised you to believe, women are NOT attracted to men who act like that.

MajorDomoBillyBojang · 2016-07-20T20:45:05+00:00

Forget about her and don't respond to anything from her. She's already disgusted with your texting. But I bet you'll text her next week. Don't be an orbiter. She'll only use you for validation and attention and would never be there for you. Don't torture yourself in one sided fake friendships. You are young and will learn this truth in time, but now is a good time to start learning.

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2016-07-20T21:14:36+00:00

Man... you are a giant vagina.

"Yea, sure"

You couldn't tell by this response that she wasn't interested?

I do I ask if she's free this week

You entered her frame right here. You don't ask women questions, women don't know what they want. Always avoid putting the ball in their court. You have to direct a woman. You don't ask if she is free, you tell her a time and place and its up to her whether or not to be there.

I text her telling her I wan't to be straight up and not waste each others time because she's got me confused and that all I wanted to do was hang out with her since I barely get to see her, and I wanted her to let me know.

And you wonder why she isn't into you? This is a big pussy move right here. Instead of being a fucking man(which is what women want) and being direct and non-discreet about your intentions(again, what women want), you instead go the coward route and say "Hey lol I just want to see you because I never get to, lol, nothing serious, I just want to hang out, its nothing more than that" like a big vagina who is too afraid to be direct and upfront would do.

"Hey I'm sorry I never replied I just didn't know what to say. Honestly your very nice I just think of you as a family friend that's all. Hope everything can stay as cool as it was and has been.

Translation: I didn't reply because I didn't want to hurt your feelings, and hopefully this olive branch I am extending will make things not weird between us in the future. I am not attracted to you at all, and I am OK hanging out when we are in a group setting, but I want things to stay the way they are, AKA you are a total beta and you need to stay in your place. If you leave your place, I will not want to be around you.

So, I preceded to text her saying "Of course it can, I didn't mean it like that when I wanted to kick it with you lol. Just wanted to clear up some confusion and I would hate to make you feel uncomfortable. I appreciate the reply and I'm glad we can still be able to talk :)"

Total cringe right here. Would have been better off just telling her straight up you are a weak beta loser. You accept her olive branch and want to keep orbiting her because you have this fantasy of her one day coming to her senses and choosing you. You think all you need to do is be nice and cool and just be around her and one day she will get it.

Doesn't happen that way. You basically admitted in your reply that you have no backbone and will let her dictate how things work between you two. That you will continue to invest time and resources into her in exchange for just being allowed to still be friends. PATHETIC! That's the male equivalent of a whore. Why would a woman want to breed with a weak man with no backbone? Women are always seeking out the best seed. They will avoid weak seed. Also, you talk too much. The 2/3 rule always applies. For you it should be more like the 1/4 rule.

I was thinking maybe wait 2 years, she gets older and try again. I basically want to know how I can get out of the friendzone and what do I do when I see her, should I text her?

You have oneitis, dude. As I said, your fantasy? Doesn't work that way. It only works in Hollywood. Real life isn't Hollywood. She will NEVER be attracted to you, ever. Once a beta, always a beta, in the eyes of a woman. There is nothing you can do. Period. The best course of action is to remove her completely from your life and game other women.

spootsnoopy · 2016-07-20T21:47:21+00:00

Thinking of waiting two years ? I think I'm going to throw up.

She may not have known your intentions at first. Or she may not have wanted to do the awkward rejection in person. She may have been turned off by your bad text game.

Doesn't matter, the solution is simple. Next. Read sidebar. Internalise side bar. Meet new bitches

RunawayGrain · 2016-07-20T21:54:57+00:00

You don't get out of the friendzone. She has to move you out of the friendzone. Basically consider what you are proposing as a transaction. For a transaction to take place, she has to have what you want. Which she does. You also have to have what she wants, which you apparently don't. At this point she has said 'I'm not doing business with you.' and you've effectively said 'cool.'

You need to improve your brand, which is you. Read all the stuff on the Redpill sidebar, start lifting, and start chatting up other girls. Basically improve yourself. You've got a car which, for a younger person, will give you a good start but remember Gas isn't free, and you aren't a free Taxi service.

So the key to your sales strategy is: What does she want, and does she want it bad enough to come to you for it. You know what the best sales pitch is with women? Social proof. Date and bang some of her friends who are unquestionably hotter than she is. In fact bang any girl who is unquestionably hotter than she is. Depending on your parents bring along another, hotter, girl on vacation, so she gets to see you with the other hotter girl every day. Don't act like a douche, just keep it brief and polite.

Eventually one of two things will happen:

Why shop a Wal-Mart when you can go to Macy's? You will be landing hotter girls, and suddenly she isn't as interesting. You forget about her and go on. This is honestly the more likely scenario.
You decide it's just a trophy bang, and she will be more receptive.

Stories_of_Red · 2016-07-20T23:03:21+00:00

Ask out other women. Lift. Sidebar. Lift.

The-Ban-Hammer · 2016-07-22T01:25:10+00:00

http://archive.is/ezPSq

Already answered this for you. Do you ask every sub?

Title	Got friendzoned by the girl I liked for 4 years.
Author	ProficientOtter
Upvotes	0
Comments	11
Date	July 20, 2016 8:16 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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