Being an asshole vs being fun when dealing with women, which one has he strongest emotional pull on them?

Docbear64 · 2016-07-23T23:42:23+00:00

Why not do both ? I mix my assholery with being fun . She says something degrading " i'm such a bitch " and then I gleefully agree with a smirk that usually warrants a light slap on the shoulder to initiate touching .

The goal is to be interesting and enjoy yourself , if you're saying something because you think it's what she wants to hear / expects to hear then you're doing it wrong . I feel like you should do what you want and allow her to respond , that doesn't mean you always win or every statement is perfectly curated but you can still be plenty successful .

M1s4n7hr0p3 · 2016-07-24T00:01:21+00:00

Being fun, for sure, but you have to play to your strengths. I like solo sports. I like shooting, running, lifting, riding etc. Not the most exciting shit and shit that is time consuming and nuanced. I have a sense of humor but its niche. Me relying on fun for social proof is a no-go. I am, however, cocky as fuck and a grade-A asshole. So I leverage that. Women only get angry at men whose opinions they give a shit about. You give her those feelz and she'll conclude that means she has feelings for you. Mix in a slught bit of cuddly behavior and she'll be putty.

lanky32 · 2016-07-24T03:27:38+00:00

Being fun is different from being funny. If you are the fun guy you would get laid more than the asshole. But do not be a fucking clown.

Archwinger has written a post on this a while back. Look it up.

IGoYouStayTwoAutumns · 2016-07-24T00:39:03+00:00

There are two general types of game: DANCING CLOWN game (also called "Happy Clown" game) and ANGRY WARRIOR game.

DANCING CLOWN game is where you're fun, outrageous, over-the-top, have a huge grin plastered on your face 24 / 7, absolutely nothing can get you down. Gotta channel your inner standup comedian for this one--it's all about jokes, teasing, negs etc. DANCING CLOWN GAME IS IDEAL FOR INSTANT ONE NIGHT STANDS, NOT FOR LONG TERM PLATING. (Think: Joey from Friends, Beavis from Beavis and Butthead, etc)

On the other side of the coin we have ANGRY WARRIOR game--this is where you basically sit and brood. Life is tough, the Man's got you down, but one day your band's totally gonna make it big and in the meantime, if you gotta sell a little coke on the side to make ends meet, what's that matter? The world's gonna end soon anyway so who gives a fuck. (And then you hop on your motorcycle and zoom off.) The angry warrior doesn't talk (if he does, he grunts), he just sits there and smolders. ANGRY WARRIOR GAME IS IDEAL FOR LONG TERM PLATING, BUT TOUGH FOR ONE NIGHT STANDS (as it requires much more "ramp up" time, and repeated social contact with the target). (Think: James Bond, Don Draper, Jordan Catalano from My So-Called Life, etc)

If you're never gonna see the girl again and are just going for the one night stand (if you're traveling, for instance), be the dancing clown. If you really like the girl and think she might work out as a semi-long term plate (i.e. you want to have sex with her more than a few times), be the angry warrior.

Title	Being an asshole vs being fun when dealing with women, which one has he strongest emotional pull on them?
Author	Nix54
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	July 23, 2016 11:24 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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