I need an honest perspective. Straightforward Analysis needed.

AFPJ · 2016-07-29T17:16:45+00:00

The external, factual stuff you write about is to try and fill your internal, vague but unfillable, void.

About self-worth, validation, women, sex and seeking in general (copy/pasting my earlier comment):

a question that every human being for the last five thousand years (or longer) has asked. How to find fulfilment.

And in a schadenfreude yet ultimately senseless manner, you've already fallen prey to the trap: asking this question makes us unfulfilled. Most already have all they need and allow their mind or peers to make them believe otherwise.

Unhappiness is a side effect of excessive rumination of the past or fears of the future. It's a continuous, self-inflicted change people enforce onto themselves day-in, day-out without even realizing it. Stop thinking and you'll be happy.

Our higher order mental faculties were endowed upon us to solve more complex problems, when using them we will search until we find a problem and then focus on it - this is by design. Ergo it stands to simple reason that unless you believe you have an immediate, life threatening / changing problem, you've no business using your higher faculties.

Doing otherwise launches you into searching for problems until you create one that isn't real & try to solve it ...which is of course impossible since it wasn't real to begin with. The "smarter" a person is, the more restraint & wisdom will be required of them to not excessively associate with their mind, thus inflicting great unhappiness upon themselves.

You fuckers are searching for your phone/keys on the way out of the house when they've been in your hand all along.

It's already in your hand. You don't need to find or figure out anything. You need to stop looking.

I find myself making this recommendation very often lately, read The Power Of Now. Audiobook it if you don't like reading. Listen to it over and over again, until you feel like you're starting to get to the place this book speaks of.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-07-29T18:14:26+00:00

You don't need monk mode, you need to start engaging the world.

Just stop keeping them around when it no longer benefits you,

look4wolfpack · 2016-07-29T18:18:03+00:00

I'm going to take a position that is slightly opposed to /u/AFPJ, but want to mention that I respect him and what he had to say. Consider us two sides of the same coin, rather than two conflicting theories. I think we're in a similar place in life, but choose to view it differently.

To start, I think "The Power Of Now" and pretty much all books like it are garbage spiritual fluff that have nothing to do with reality. I read the book, it's sitting on my bookshelf right now. If you watch some interviews with Eckhart Tolle you'll get the impression of a guy who is perpetually high and wants to be an Indian guru a little too badly. If I was going to recommend a book to you, I would recommend Might Is Right by Ragnar Redbeard.

It's already in your hand. You don't need to find or figure out anything. You need to stop looking.

I agree with AFPJ, but again, must present the other side of the same coin. It isn't that you have your keys, it isn't that you have happiness, it's that you will NEVER have your keys (happiness) so stop looking for something that never existed in the first place. This modern notion of happiness is just that, a modern notion of happiness. Animals have existed for millions upon millions of years repeating the same essential pattern. They're born, barely equipped to survive, and they must struggle to do so. If they survive, they have a brief period in which they can attempt to thrive by dominating resources and fulfilling their animal needs in whatever way suits their style.

Life isn't special. You aren't MEANT to be happy. A lack of happiness is not some catastrophic failure on your part as an individual. There is no happiness. It's a myth. Like dragons and valhalla. You can't go there because no path leads there. Instead, accept where and what you are. Keep it simple. Survive, and thrive. The game is boring, and it isn't getting an upgrade anytime soon, but it's still the only game you have so play it and play it well. Make more money, get better at BJJ, fuck prettier girls, eat better food, lift more weight, become smarter, etc. Just improve in any area that is more interesting to you than others. MORE interesting, not necessarily interesting. All of life is relative, and when you accept that there is no fairy tale happiness, it moves the mean (average) significantly toward realistic expectations. Instead of thinking you should be happy, you realize you should be nothing at all and that there is a temporary window where you can do crazy shit until you die.

Every video game you've ever played has been a perfect model of this universe. You buy the game, you start out and explore the world, the story unfolds, and then rapidly you progress toward beating the game. Once it's beaten, you don't want to play it anymore, because the game itself was never that great. You just wanted to siphon what little value it held and then throw it back on a shelf somewhere and do something else. Well, welcome to life my friend. A game that has little value and will eventually be put back on the shelf when you die. Play it, beat it, get what you can from it, and then forget it.

Title	I need an honest perspective. Straightforward Analysis needed.
Author	Federov91north
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	July 29, 2016 4:36 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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