This group has helped me emotionally. My ability to add the community is from a new realization. My communication with my stbx improved overnight. (Atleast to me) After a stressful conflict, we went to no contact/email only communication and my ability to hold resentment almost washed off. Possibly my own attitude toward emotional validation or context in the way I perceive my words compared to others. I'm not an email user. I very rarely deal with matters over email. Maybe it's just my perception but I've had questions answered politely and respectfully over email. Whereas a text would have felt too personal or invasive. Sarcastic undertones and passive aggression always filled the words. My stbx, to me, is completely less emotional and more respectful this way.

Small rant, if you will, but it is hard to see errors in our ways sometimes. Communication is very important to me about matters regarding impending divorce/childcare/finances and as much I wanted to improve ours, I kept making matters worse. Digging deeper and deeper with every intention of holding the peace. I give credit when it's due. A small step forward in the direction you want to go is always better than a shovel in the sand. For me, a simple shift helped to alleviate tensions and high emotions for now. Peaceful horizon in view.

Introspectively, she emotionally detached a long time ago and I'm just catching up.