I'm considering going to therapy

TheRedStoic · 2016-09-26T16:21:56+00:00

I recommend it. Find a male therapist.

[deleted] · 2016-09-26T18:57:14+00:00

Here's what I would suggest about therapy.

--meet different ones and select one based on his ability to be honest with you and your ability to be honest with him.

--male therapists only. No women.

--Do not waste your time or money on talk therapy if all you are doing is giving the therapist your tales of woe, bitching about your problems and no one loves you blah blah blah. That therapist should be helping you identify problems, reach solutions to your problems, and making you do work outside of therapy to gain insight on why you are there.

--make the therapist diagnose you. Make him tell you what the diagnosis is and how to treat it.

--take an active role in your therapy. If you believe you need to be examined for a particular condition, ask to be evaluated for it. If you believe you need a referral to a psychiatrist (an MD who specializes in psychology) then ask for it and follow through on it. You might need oral medications to even you out. Get them and take them. If you aren't feeling better, fucking say something and ask to be seen again. If you and your therapist aren't seeing eye to eye, say something about it. If you disagree or have questions, say something. If you think your therapist isn't helping you, then one of two things is going on: usually it's (1) you are not doing anything to get better and falling into old behavior patterns, or you haven't been fully honest with your therapist; and less often (2) your therapist has misdiagnosed you and is a poor therapist.

--make him give you treatment options. Then fucking DO THOSE THINGS outside of therapy.

--most people waste their time talking about their problems for $200/hour and never do a thing to get better. That therapist cannot do anything for you except diagnose, advise, and recommend. If you are not going to do anything to get better, then don't waste time and money on talk therapy.

--If you are depressed and going to therapy and you aren't feeling better in 3 months, you need to say something and you need to try something else.

edwardhwhite · 2016-09-26T16:24:35+00:00

With the right therapist, yes. Don't do psychotherapy or psychodynamic. CBT is best.

RedSkeller · 2016-09-26T16:21:11+00:00

I went to therapy about two years ago and it helped immensely. Just talking with someone neutral helps you realize your own thought patterns and what you need to work on. I had some mild PTSD from a year over seas.

spar101 · 2016-09-26T16:23:42+00:00

Therapy definitely helped give me perspective on things that were wrong with my life. Keep in mind that there are lot of therapists who are shit so if you have a bad feeling or aren't making a lot of progress don't be afraid to look for another therapist.

brooklynisburnin · 2016-09-27T04:12:02+00:00

Didn't make any difference to me honestly, went for one session, talked about my issues and what I believed were the root causes of them, he agreed and asked me how I thought I was going to be able to fix them, I said I don't have a clue that's why I am here, spent the rest of the session "discussing" about why what I was feeling like is bad, which I already fucking knew.

That being said I don't feel like I have an actual psychological problem, just bad programming I'm overriding slowly, so take my experience with a grain of salt.

rpisnotpua · 2016-09-28T07:34:55+00:00

Everyone should do therapy. Make sure he's not a complete beta. (ANyone who got through 4 years of college and 4 of grad school is pretty beta.)

Title	I'm considering going to therapy
Author	TheLonerMan
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Date	September 26, 2016 4:15 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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