Time to discuss the “Madonna-Whore” concept once again.

Freud once wrote: "Where such men love they have no desire and where they desire they cannot love."

After reading the numerous posts from men ragging on promiscuous woman, the endless debates around how “easy” it is for women to get laid, and the constant chatter about “n-counts”, I figure it about time to bring this out into the limelight.

This outlook on female sexuality seems especially prevalent here. It seems that women are classified as either the rare, honorable “Madonna” or the common, immoral “whore”. Women with any sexual past or future are shamed for their “n-counts”, called disgusting and used, and overall dehumanized. The virgin girl is told to stay away from the corruption of the other women, as they supposedly desire their downfall.

It’s rather interesting how these same men jack off to pornstars and cam girls, advocate for decriminalizing prostitution, lament about how dare “unclean” woman reject them and point out how insufferable the world is because they cannot sleep with a girl everyone else is sleeping with. Everything points to desire for the “whore”. Meanwhile, while the “Madonna” is put on a pedestal, when these men do finally secure a virgin girl they post all over subreddits about failing relationships/marriages complaining about how boring, plain, simple and uninteresting the girl is and how their sex life is unsatisfactory. They oftentimes proceed to leave these women or spend time with the mistress.

I’ve had the personal pleasure of finding myself on both sides of the spectrum at a young age. I can honestly tell all of the girls here that whatever men think they feel about us as a lot - is a complete load of nonsense. You won’t find happiness buying into their bullshit.

At 15, I found myself in an emotionally abusive and codependent relationship with a man three years my senior. He was very happy to have “acquired” me as a virgin, immediately cut me off from any “promiscuous” friends claiming it was for my own good, and then slowly leeched off my mental health and ambition. He failed to graduate while asking me to do his coursework for him. He sat on his ass and played games while I worked a summer job. I began to realize I wasn’t exactly sexually satisfied as he didn’t care to learn how to please me nor did I have half the mind to realize that he wasn’t exactly all it.

I lost my mind when I discovered he had cheated on me with a 14 year old girl and past that point it was a slow and excruciating fight to escape the relationship. I spent the entirety of the relationship loyal and hardworking whilst he bummed around and left me paranoid that he was seeing other women. Being “Madonna” was worth nothing to me.

I swore off relationships after I got away from him and have continued to only participate in FWB type relationships. I embraced the “whore” and realized what I had been missing out on. The amount of attention and validation I got from men and women was intense. I found a sense of agency that allowed me to open up as a person and take opportunities as they came. My social circles widened, my self confidence has only grown. I am much happier now and financially much better off. The fear he had instilled that “no one would want me” completely wore off.

Interestingly enough, what reminded me to make this post, was a recent incident. One of my former FWB got into a relationship. I ended the benefits, but remained in touch and friendly. Recently he’s been entirely disregarding his girlfriend and focusing twice the attention on me, trying to reignite what we had before and claiming he made a mistake by committing.

These men that get into relationships with virgin girls quickly realize that they’re much more likely to be shy, introverted and demand more attention and ambition. There’s a reason they’re not “wild” and won’t spend the week partying or inviting their girlfriend over for a threesome. I don’t understand how men can complain about “starfish sex” when they purposefully bed women that have no experience.

When men here claim women say one thing and do another when it comes to selecting partners, I am entirely convinced that they have simply been projecting all along.