I’ve realized something that I am a dumbass once again. I tried to help someone, who I had major concern about as a human being. I took their side over these dumbasses and I really did have compassion. For the sake of this story, we’ll call them Alex. So I met a guy called Alex, I felt so so bad. I was an absolutely kind person to him, joking around and being horrible, as I usually am. I was super rude at first and an arse as a joke…

Anyway, it didn’t take me to long to find out he was a blackpill incel, he even self identified as one. I may have stalked his history and I was curious, wanted to find more. I won’t lie and say that I wasn’t curious, I just didn’t come across someone, who was a somewhat maybe normal incel and self identified as one. So I spoke and tried to help him, we were going to meet too. I was really excited because I had intentions to want to help and I had all these questions. I was going to joke around and come with gloves and a mask, because of a stupid thing he has about cum moisturizer, haha. Then 2 days later, he said to me on SC that he wanted to ‘geomaxx’, (redpill vernacular for: ‘I am such a sorry loser in my own country that I can’t notice good females here, so I will exploit and take advantage of women abroad’) I had no problem with this part because I had intent to help him, then he lost me with his Andrew tate love, too much tate made his delusions grow about harems in Latin America or Africa. His own words to me were ‘I want to go abroad and get a bunch of virgin brides but they can’t be poly, only me’. As a virgin my buttons were set, I was mad and told him, he’s a hypocrite and he’d be preying on vulnerable women. So we fought, then I cried and thought ‘wow he really sees virgins like me as exploitable’. I quit being his friend, then told him why I was upset, then he eventually says he doesn’t know what he wants blah blah. So I gave him two more chances. As I only have a 3 strike policy with people. Then we were chill.. but now he’s got worse, he keeps being obsessed with going abroad and he no longer wants a committed woman. He just wants to lose v card and realizes he can be casual again, destroying his pair bonding ability if he goes onto do that. Personally I felt, he just doesn’t know what he wants. I felt bad, I was once like that. I thought maybe I was a sex addict too and I wanted to go with different men and stuff, but I realized how much my life would’ve fallen apart if I did that. I couldn’t help it and I felt like he understood some stuff about me that I don’t tell very many people. So I told him, eventually I basically kind of had interest, it wasn’t a ‘crush’ feeling per say, as I was waiting to meet him to see that. My friend made a joke and said ‘his height is gonna turn u off for sure’ haha. I told her I was just curious because he seems different to guys that have liked me, I’ve had guys 5’10+ like me. (Sounds shallow, height isn’t a huge deal to me I realize, I’m more of, if he’s tall then sure) I feel dumb because I found somewhere he said he did like me and doubted I felt the same. But nope… I also found him saying how he was physically and mentally abused by a girl he was with, I was going to hide this and tell him some point in the future, well coax the convo to that experience and help him through, my idea was to meet him somewhere more naturalistic filled with land, fields and farm life, as I thought maybe that would help him open up. Everyone needs a bit of nature and bliss to be able to confess, well that’s what I thought. Maybe it was manipulative, but I had good intentions behind it to genuinely understand. I now realize Alex is a huge hypocrite because if I exist in a western country, there are many people like me. Anyway, I gave up and blocked him on everything after what he said to me, that he didn’t see me like that? I was confused and a bit like oh ok, atleast I know. Normally I just block, but I had shit to say, so I unblocked and told him, he can’t cry anymore about western girls and say we’re all bad when he met a good one. And blocked, do I plan to speak to him again? Nope. I normally don’t do that once that type of ‘fancying’ convo is in. Unless I’ve known the guy for 3+ years or something, it’s fucked but I can’t. I have bad humility problems. If he was honest, then yes I’d probably not have him blocked. I don’t think I want to speak to him again. I’m not ‘sad’ per say.. but i am deeply disappointed and I have a feeling of being duped. Any advice and yes I’m aware I was stupid for believing my nativity about helping a blackpill incel. (God I know he has Reddit but I doubt he’ll find this post, I don’t think he uses this board)