My girl and I have been together for about a year and things are good but her daddy and abandonment issues are deteriorating our relationship and time together and RP principles seem to be counterproductive when dealing with her feelz. I’ll get into a brief summary but I was hoping to see if any others have dealt with this and what successes and failures they’ve learned from along the way.

She shared with me early in the relationship that her dad left the family unexpectedly when she was very young and moved out of the country with little to no contact since (she is 34 now). I’ve dated other chicks whose fathers have left and they all seem to want the same thing out of a current relationship; control. My current girl will shit test constantly, falsely accuse me of things, tell me I don’t care about her and is hyper-sensitive compared to the average. I deal with all this and know how it goes but when it comes to enforcing boundaries like removing attention when she acts up, walking away during irrational behavior and STFU, dread- all these seem to compound her anger and backfire as she takes this as I’m going to abandon her and I’ll get non-stop novel texts and emails telling me the same. All of this seems to get worse as our relationship progresses.

These type of chicks seem to be the ultimate red pill test with abandonment and fears always present. It takes her forever to calm down too like days or even a week sometimes and the more I STFU, amused mastery and just do my own thing the worse it can get bc she doesn’t feel like she’s in control and says “I’m never there for her and I don’t take the relationship seriously”. She will constantly blame, shame, emasculate and play the victim to the point it’s exhausting. She also has a hard time maintaining friendships and jobs because of her paranoia and trust issues.

Has anyone else ever dealt with this and have things changed or found some other form of action/communication that works for girls with severe abandonment issues? Much appreciated.