While not now, I can see the probability and inevitability. She couldn’t/won’t with Siri & Alexa blaring it in her ears!

I don’t hate her. I Love her. I just don’t really like who she is or chooses to be. After all, life Is a choice; Right?

Yes; I thought that: life, or I, or Gd could/would change her. Nevertheless, He didn’t change her; me - I still don’t like who she chooses to be. Never mind after 25 married years; I’m no longer hoping for a change, clarity, Whatever!

The Dead bedroom has been since late 2015. I just haven’t had the guts to call it ‘DOA’.

I’m asking, ballpark, what’s this gonna cost me/us to, coyote trapped, chew off my trapped limb? And go our separate ways. Life is Too Fkng Short!

We’re in NY, make ~110K each; been married 25 years; No hostages, kids. I’m on a NYC disability retirement, $96K, tax free; She’s a 25yr, not yet retired DOE, NY, teacher. We’re DINKS, Double Income No Kids miscreants. Own a $840-900K home, a $10K boat. Other than boat I got 0; she got 270K in deferred comp and us 30K of my/our CC debt. Mortgage note is 576K.

How do you think this will come out if we shake the tree and cash out our marital life?

Yeah it’s just me percolating; She doesn’t want to see the fat lady doing vocal warmups on the sidelines. We’re both NYC financed workers again. I’m on 3/4 tax free disability retirement from city, 96K with no more than 20K now showing in addition Fully taxable extra income [What’s that math in particular]?

I’m getting to the point where the ‘rainbow is enough’…

Thx