I’m at a bit of a crossroad in life and would appreciate your advice on how to move forward. I’ll make this post as succinct as possible and will provide more information if needed in the comments.

  1. Work/career: 2 years in my current role. Pedantic manager who is very supportive but overall no long term prospects career wise. I’ve been applying for jobs but haven’t had any success. I’m starting to feel very irritated by my manager’s work style and think I’ve got about 6 months more left in me before exploding. I won’t explode but my patience is running thin so I’ve booked time off to just breathe.

  2. Relocation: Brexit! It’s made it so hard to move abroad and I’ve been trying so hard over the last few years. I recently got a call back after 1-2 years of applying and was rejected at final stage. I’ve been so sad since. All I want to do is pack my bags, move countries and start afresh. It’s been on my spirit for years to do this.

  3. Healing after a heartbreak: 1 year on after my ex cheated, lied, had a baby and married the girl (despite us meant to be doing the exact things) and his smear campaign on social media with so called friends I am starting to feel somewhat OK. Days like today I feel crappy because the betrayal was horrific. I don’t think I’ll be ready to date or anything for some time but I’m turning 30 soon. IDK, the betrayal really closed me off. I know I want a family of my own but I’m never going to compromise my peace or happiness again and feel very weary of men. I was so good to my ex and friends and it totally backfired. What they did and said should’ve made me go crazy but with prayer I decided to stay mute and leave it to God but the PAIN of not being able to defend yourself to outright lies, gossip and BS! He messed up but somehow it’s my fault. It’s like I want to take all the time in the world to heal but that may mean I’ll age myself out of “dating” or “child rearing” and there is a lot of pressure on me from family to marry / have kids.

  4. Other: I’m in therapy 1-2x a week. Being depressed I gained so much weight (60lbs+) as I stayed out of public for a year just crumbling. I’m on Ozempic steadily losing while walking as I hate the gym. It’s just not for me and I like running outdoors but there is no nature where I live. Moving out if an expensive option as everything is so expensive in London. It’s like £1500+ for a 1 bed as flat sharing is a no no for my mental health. I’m trying to save money after finally clearing my debt (yay) so I want to be smart about everything now as I’m getting older (insurance, pension, dental etc is all in order). It’s my savings I’m building back up now I’ve got some good boundaries in place with family leeches and not helping others beyond my means.

I just don’t know the way forward! Everything seems blocked off and I feel very hopeless when I have so much to be grateful for. I want to level up, move forward in life but I just don’t know how! Any advice or ideas?

I need a strategy!