Women refuse to negotiate then complain over lower salaries

lost_garden_gnome · 2013-11-18T14:23:20+00:00

I literally just ran into this issue last week with my SO (who is being head hunted by a rival software firm), when she declined the first offer a few months ago due to the pay not being enough (she thinks she is worth X and the company offered X - 4000). the company waited and called back a few months later - which was last week - probably after clearing a higher salary or have just become a little more desperate. She was asked flat out, if the pay, X - 4000, wasn't enough last time, what would be enough? She responded X + 3000, which was immediately accepted. So, she did get what she thinks she is worth, plus a little, but clearly she is undervaluing herself and/or doesn't know her own market worth. One frustrating thing is that we just talked about this pay gap and how it is, in part, due to poor negotiating on some folks' part, and I suggested she asked for a "not quite ridiculous" amount of money, since they were spending this kind of effort on her already. Another is that she refuses to negotiate for better benefits (since her "desired" salary is already met), which is silly to me, since they obviously value her more than the pay indicates, but you know what they say about horses and water....

It is to be noted, however, that she does not complain about any wage gap, although she has asked a lot about it

Maybe if there were pressure on her to start a family, buy a big house, and be a breadwinner for half a dozen people or so, then she might step up and start asking for more?

rebuildingMyself · 2013-11-18T11:25:34+00:00

They just want the government to do the "negotiations" (ie by force) for them.

Bartab · 2013-11-18T19:07:48+00:00

Remember all those older television shows with the wife haranguing the husband to "go to your boss and demand a raise!"

JayBopara · 2013-11-19T01:31:51+00:00

Great website. Love the tagline, it's time to recognize feminism for what it really is - misandry.

JaydenPope · 2013-11-18T22:44:44+00:00

Feminism: works till things get tough.

Title	Women refuse to negotiate then complain over lower salaries
Author	feministwaves1
Upvotes	63
Comments	10
Date	November 18, 2013 6:58 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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