How Do I Protect my Son?

KRosen333 · 2013-08-04T02:28:34+00:00

Why is this posted here?

The "good men project" is feminist, and strongly anti-male/mra.

nigglereddit · 2013-08-04T08:13:19+00:00

So how do I protect my son?It is my intention to make sure that my son knows that he is valuable in his own right, not fodder for the industrial machine or a glorified sperm donor. I want him to grow up secure in who he is and following his passions in the world.

You're arming the boy with flowers and life affirming positive messages when he's standing in front of a tank driven by a sociopath who wants to exterminate his entire gender identity.

This is the reason this post was allowed on The Good Men Project. Instead of talking about the real solution - stop the abusers from abusing him - it presents a fake "solution" which is entirely a male responsibility even though the article itself lists the many ways in which he will be attacked and belittled by women.

TL;DR: "I'm worried about the ways my boy will be abused for being a boy". "Solution: make him feel good about himself while he's being abused".

2013-08-04T10:46:13+00:00

The answer is already in an article on the Good Men Project.

When your four year old son tries to kiss a girl and she doesn't like it, you tell him that he is a rapist and write an article telling the world that he is a rapist.

That'll teach him to be a good man. Problems solved.

Seriously, no matter the quality of an article on Good Men Project, we can't support it with clicks or discussion or anything.

avantvernacular · 2013-08-05T15:16:37+00:00

A brief word to the author Adam Blanch, and any else that may share his concerns:

I am concerned that my son will be treated differently because he is a boy. I am concerned that people will be slower to respond to his cries of pain or distress; or may ignore them altogether, or even shame him for them. I am concerned that if he displays his feelings he will be rejected and most likely ridiculed, and that he will learn from an early age that he is expected to solve his own problems while his female peers will be supported to solve theirs.

Then you must not treat any other boys differently. Then you must not be slower to respond to the pain and distress of other boys. Then you must not ignore or shame any other boys. Then you must not shame or ridicule any other boys, and you must support all of them.

I am concerned that if he has a fight in the schoolyard with a girl he will be punished while she will be protected, regardless of who started it or who was winning it. I am concerned that this pattern will be continued throughout his life and that he will automatically be considered to be the perpetrator in any conflict. I am concerned that he will be judged on the shape of his genitals, not the content of his character.

Then you must ensure that all other boys are treated fairly in a fight, and that boys and girls are punished the same. Then you must make a stand against reinforcing the idea that other men are the perpetrators. Then you must not judge other men by the shape of their genitals, but by their character alone.

I am concerned that if he gets divorced he has almost no chance of getting equal custody of his children, and may not get to see them at all, even if he is the world’s best father. It worries me deeply that he can be accused of a crime without evidence and the court will award against him unless he can prove himself innocent of that accusation.

Then you must stand up for equal custody in divorce courts for other men. Then you must fight against those who would assume other men guilty without evidence.

Why do you expect the world to fight for you son if you are unwilling to fight for theirs? Why do you expect you son to be raised fairly if you are unwilling to see to it that other boys are? Why do you hope the world will show your son justice, and compassion, and sympathy if you cannot be bothered to show it to other men?

You may wish to instill your son with confidence and self worth, but you effort is wasted if you cannot treat all other men as you wish your son to be. You don't like the way society will treat your son, but society is the aggregate of all of our actions - including your actions. You want to protect your son? Don't try to change him, change his world - you can start by changing yourself.

saint2e · 2013-08-04T03:10:16+00:00

While I think it's relevant to point out the bias of a source, if the information/advice is useful, I see no harm in sharing it.

2013-08-04T15:45:31+00:00

Don't link to that feminist trash website.

Title	How Do I Protect my Son?
Author	MHRA_Leander
Upvotes	2
Comments	8
Date	August 4, 2013 1:07 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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