Is there any hope for an old Hikikomori to benefit from the red pill?

DJCheeky · 2017-10-27T09:34:11+00:00

Get a job, any job. Flip burgers at McDonald's if you have to. You need this to stop being a strain on your parents, the state, and to start building a nest egg. Live frugally. Understand how hard it is to make just a single dollar. Realise that your time can absolutely be measured in dollars. Raise that number from zero. Keep raising it by learning about doing your work well.
Lift. Plenty of things already said about the benefits. It also forces you to break out of your shell. Talk to people at the gym. Get tips. Get a spotter. Ignore the women there.
Monk mode. You are in no position at all to engage women and their machinations. I would ignore them at this point. Improve your life and find your mission first. Try new hobbies you enjoy. What truly makes you passionate? I can tell you it's something that no woman can help you find.

You have a lot of work to do my friend, remember you have but one life! Carpe diem, memento mori!

vandaalen · 2017-10-27T09:58:57+00:00

I am German, was even a little bit older than you and basically homeless when I started. Takes time, but is doable. Acknowledge that it will be a marathon and not a sprint. It's never too late.

Find a job and join an MMA gym for a start. Then take it from there.

GreenPiller · 2017-10-27T10:08:22+00:00

That's sad desu. Get a job,.learn a trade (mechanic, plumber, electrician) buy a nice car and a decent house. Lift weights and read the sidebar. Soon enough you'll have a 3D waifu instead of a 2D one, although Rukia still holds a place in my heart.

Shukakun · 2017-10-27T11:03:36+00:00

You should definitely watch Jordan Peterson, yes. That man will set you straight and give your life meaning, especially if you do the self-authoring stuff. Become someone you can respect, or die trying. The fact that you know the word hikikomori says a lot, I've been there. The "Look at him, what a nerd, forever alone haha"-stereotype is not just retarded jocks making fun of you. Shutting yourself in and spending all day and night consuming that kind of media has effects on your mindset. You know the reputation that Japanese men have when it comes to sexuality and attractiveness, right? Trust me, you don't want to be that. Work on your body until it's fucking glorious, until you can look in the mirror and say "Okay, no homo but that is sexy as fuck". Talk to people. Not specifically women. Talk to everyone. Give yourself a daily challenge. "today I will say at least one sentence to someone I don't know". When you've succeeded with that for a couple of days, raise the bar to two people, and keep going in that direction. You'll make it.

youcantdenythat · 2017-10-27T13:56:47+00:00

Here's something you might like: https://www.superbetter.com/

gELSK · 2017-10-28T01:56:31+00:00

// , LIFT

Why isn't this prefaced with "Context: European, 35 years old, started lifting"

According to Rollo, male SMV typically peaks around 38, but that's a bell curve.

Gender ratios are also on your side.

https://i.imgur.com/XQwz5.jpg?2

This sounds like exposure therapy:

"A few days ago I decided to walk to my local gym but was too much of a pussy to go inside, it was as if my heartbeat elevated the moment I approached the entrance so I decided to walk away and try again 'some other day'."

Also, just going outside and walking around is seriously underrated. Glad to see you're doing that.

Search for following terms

Clicker Training for dogs

The gist is to try to find a covert signal to make when you take steps toward what you need and want to do. I will usually snap my fingers. Then, give yourself a rush, or some kind of reward. E.g. when I developed my own exercise program, after 15 minutes beating my goals, I give myself a drink of something healthy and sweet.

Also search for the following:

boredom as a resource

Welcome to the gates. Get ready to meet demons within yourself that you never knew were in there.

I'm also surprised no one asked this, but why are you doing this? I had always had the impression that Hikkikimori was a permanent condition, ending in death.

Title	Is there any hope for an old Hikikomori to benefit from the red pill?
Author	Dicerollr
Upvotes	3
Comments	23
Date	October 27, 2017 9:02 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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