When do men hit the wall?

agrippa1984 · 2023-03-08T22:56:53+00:00

Only menstruating persons do hit the wall, not applicable to men

ReWildingOfMen · 2023-03-08T23:05:46+00:00

Well it's not the same as men and women are different creatures.

Hitting the wall is relevant to courting and single life. A woman with a family and her Man, is an incredibly valuable and cherished thing..

But a woman past the menopause trying to compete with younger, more beautiful and fertile women... Is just no comparison. Also some women are used to their looks and their femininity profoundly affecting men around them. So losing that as they hit the wall, can hit them hard if all they've really cultivated is their physical beauty without deeper qualities and values.

You could say women burn far brighter on the sexual market place. But for a shorter time.

A man doesn't really hit a wall like that, infact men get better and more attractive to women as they get older, as long as the man stays fit and healthy and has a grip on his life... Really the long game is in his favour.

But that's looking at it from a dating/courting perspective. Which ultimately is an empty and shallow thing.

Man and woman. Made for each other. Bonded in love and commitment and sacredness.... It isn't even an issue.

sunzi23 · 2023-03-08T23:19:48+00:00

You've hit the wall when you've let yourself go. So if men can take of their physical well-being and they have some resources going into their later years, you might not hit the wall til your 70s. However, if you're fat, drink and eat unhealthy, dont exercise, and have a crappy job and have no money, you can hit the wall in your 30s too. But on average it's likely some time in your mid to late 40s whereas for women it's early 30s.

AvailableCandidate89 · 2023-03-08T23:35:42+00:00

You have a serious misconception of what "The Wall" is, judging from both the post and subsequent comments.

What i believe you think "The Wall" is:

A magical age where society finds you unattractive and starts treating you worse.

What the wall actually is:

The realization a woman has when noticing that the guys she wants aren't paying as much attention to her as they used to, while also noticing guys her own age she was blowing off a few years ago are getting much more attention from women.

The reason this doesn't exist for men is because we face a different wall much earlier: That society treats us as disposable, and only values us for what we provide or build. That realization boys have, seeing girls continue to be treated with the care and consideration usually reserved for children, that they realize won't be applied to them ever again. That is "the wall" that boys are forced to overcome, and it usually happens as a very young adult. So men learn young that they need to do things for others like protect and provide, and make themselves more capable of those things, because it's the only route men are given to gain social respect, and often even respect from the people they care about.

This is why men don't "Hit the wall" as they age. What society(and we're talking about mostly women, here) values them for is their assets, not just how physically attractive he is. One's assets generally increase with time and even a wrinkly decrepit old billionaire can get his pick of far more women than an average man ever even meets.

Women build assets, too, and should, but that isn't attractive to men at anywhere near the rate it is apparently attractive to women. These women often strongly resent this difference, as their belief that they would be as attractive, once wealthy, to men as wealthy men are/were to her is directly challenged and dispelled.

Women "hitting the wall" are noticing their female privilege for the first time, because they are noticing the deficits as it fades. She's realizing her privilege was tied to her beauty, and that youth is a critical component of that beauty. This realization often inspires many feelings, and people handle it differently, but gaining an understanding of how much of an advantage your youth was, and how much you likely wasted of it, is a very complex feeling.

Title	When do men hit the wall?
Author	Standard-Broccoli107
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Comments	7
Date	March 8, 2023 10:48 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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