How to deal with someone who goes out of their way to insult me

Aktiv8r · 2017-10-31T17:58:13+00:00

Dude, you are underage. Any charges you get are going to be a slap on the wrist compared to later in life. Beat that dude senseless and accept the consequences with a smile. This is typical bullying, it's not going to stop without some violence.

Now, I've said that and I have to qualify myself. I was a skinny fuck in school, like you. I did however have a big bullying problem up until I realized that I had to start getting physical with them. I got my ass beat quite a few times and so will you. Be prepared for it. Though, I learned real quick how to handle myself in those situations. I also spent a lot of time on suspension and almost was expelled for fighting. This WILL happen, too. Zero Tolerance gives those people power because you get in trouble when you stand up to them. This is part of the war on boys that we talk about. Only the true alpha will stand against the odds. They want you to stand up so they can punish you for it. At the same time, women will reward you for it. It sounds stupid because it is.

Take my advice or leave it. Just remember that there is no winning a game like this. Just make sure if you are going to lose, he loses more.

SirKolbath · 2017-10-31T18:55:49+00:00

There are a couple of different ways you can handle this.

You can beat the crap out of him. There are pros and cons to this. You might get your ass kicked. Or you might get a reputation as a bully. There will probably be punishments at school. You might have to deal with issues at home because of the fall out. However, you will also pick up a reputation as somebody who is not to be trifled with or harassed.
You can ignore him. Depending on the type of individual he is there is a possibility that his behavior will escalate until he does something you cannot ignore. But there is also the possibility that if he doesn't get a rise out of you he will simply find another target.
You can call him on his crap. Fix him with a seven second stare. Don't say a word, and have an expression of mild disapproval on your face. Then say, very softly, "I I think it is really sad that the only way you can feel better about yourself is to try to make me feel bad about myself. It's not working. Grow up."

You may also find it necessary to mix and match any of these three suggestions.

Peter_B_Long · 2017-10-31T23:45:25+00:00

If you're not going to fight, try pressure flipping. Call him out for being gay for you. "dang dude, why are you obsessed with me?" "Hey man, I don't like you like that sorry". If he's making fun of you for every little thing that you do, then that means that he's watching you which means that if you frame the situation as him being in love with you, then the more he watches you the more he falls into the frame.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2017-10-31T21:42:49+00:00

As others have said standing up to them is the best way but you don't have to plant your flag in the sand and be all dramatic about it.

In the halls check them into the lockers and laugh at them like the annoying little nerd they are. Make them walk into door frames by pushing them at the right time while they're walking. Trip em. Slap their books out of their hands. (especially true if they're holding it in front of their junk, chances are they're covering an NRB. A school of people laughing at their boner will shred their ego.)

Either they'll start avoiding you or they'll try and fight you, which is what you wanted except you are on the "correct" side now.

UnluckyPenguin · 2017-10-31T21:52:11+00:00

Don't complain about it. Actually do something.
Get new friends and work out every day of the week.

People are more mature in college, but your old friends will try to hang out with you, just ditch them.

Back in high school, I was a white boy who hung out with a gang of Mexicans. I had weights class as part of gym every school day, and I could bench more than most of the bigger guys. My friends invited me to a gang vs gang fight, only for us to be shot at. I'm a software engineer now, and no one believes that part of my past. But you can be damn sure that no one messed with me or my friends in high school.

Good luck!

Occams_Stubble · 2017-10-31T19:44:39+00:00

In a zero tolerance zone physical response is probably not worth it.

You might consider a verbal response along the lines of Are you gay for me or something? The way you watch me and comment on everything I do is weird. When he tries to put you down again - and he will - you say Dude, I don't care if you are gay. Just leave me out of your gayness. This has a reasonable chance of getting him to leave you alone, I doubt he wants people to associate him with 'gayness' in any way. But you need to rely on your own assessment of the specific situation.

Westernhagen · 2017-10-31T18:15:24+00:00

What you have to do is insult him so harshly he never says a word to you again.

Of course, he may decide to beat your ass like a drum, so make sure you do some full-contact sparring at a martial arts studio first.

Title	How to deal with someone who goes out of their way to insult me
Author	imaginethegainz
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Date	October 31, 2017 5:48 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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