Let's start this by making it clear I developed a not so small oneitis for this girl and somewhat over-invested in her (going as far as having her meet MY family on my own b-day). I got really happy as she said she wanted my presence - "finally found my ONE!" - on her b-day in 2 weeks and this happened.

We had a small disagreement over her still being in touch with an "abusive" - her words - ex (she tried to kill herself in 2014 and it seems he was involved). She told me HER GRANDMA invited him to the party. LOL. After the fight I was told "I was too much of an extrovert to meet her traditional family and she was afraid I would frustrate them", "that she couldn't love me if she still loved her ex" and that "she felt empty during our relationship" among other rude shit. I even went as far as asking if she still wanted me with her on the b-day - she said "NO".

I tried defending, explaining and rationalizing shit since my emotions were high at the time but it didn't work.

Later on I was in bed at home and she wanted me to drive 15 km to an party she was at so we could "talk about it" - I said "nope, you are the one who should come here". She agreed readily but didn't come later ("drank a little and couldn't drive). I suspect she met another more interesting guy there.

I already know this is NEXT situation - I just want to have you guys' insight on our behaviors and what happened.