I keep relapsing on discipline

SirKolbath · 2017-11-05T08:01:17+00:00

Can someone please give me some advice on this? Thank you

Yes, stop doing that.

I'm serious. Knock it the fuck off. Set aside a specific day you're going to dick around, and a specific period on that day.

"Wednesday the 18th I have three hours to fuck off."

Set a timer and those three hours are all you have. Enjoy them, and then get your ass back to work.

BreakingRed_ · 2017-11-05T08:25:11+00:00

Discipline has to stem from a position of self-love and self-interest. Your post reeks of self-loathing. "I feel like shit", "I waste away a whole day".

If you think that you must do something "just because you have to" then you're gonna look for the easy way out or you will be anxious about doing it as quick as possible so that you can play video games.

Another way to think about it is the difference between the student who has top grades because he likes acquiring knowledge and the one who has top grades because his parents lock him in the room. The latter is also more prone to cheat in the exams because he made grades his top priority, no matter what.

Sit down and rethink about not just the program but your reasons for doing it. Self-discipline isn't about having a master/slave relationship with yourself, but a teacher/student or a friend to friend. You are your own friend, not your own tyrant. And fallbacks are to be expected, especially if you were a mess before you decided to fix yourself.

dirtygarbage1974 · 2017-11-05T08:22:55+00:00

Tis normal because we are humans. This is the part where you learn balance now.

michael_wilkins · 2017-11-05T09:50:50+00:00

2 Bits of advice.

1 - It's a non linear process, your going to regress, have good periods and bad periods. Maximise the good periods, minimise the lows. Try to identify what causes you to go "off the rails" so to speak and avoid these.

2 - Stack the deck in your favour. Don't let your discipline be a factor, eg: trying to study and you keep checking your phone?

Put your phone in another room, now you are physically unable to check it unless you get up. Use your laziness rather then fighting it.

kieran9323 · 2017-11-05T16:14:31+00:00

Problem is, every 1.5-2 weeks, I relapse. I waste away a whole day

just plan to "waste" that day by traveling or something, put it down into the calendar as a reoccurring event, problem solved.

Title	I keep relapsing on discipline
Author	ast201
Upvotes	5
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Date	November 5, 2017 7:29 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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