After #MeToo, Men Are Uncomfortable Mentoring Women

Ted8367 · 2018-02-07T05:03:53+00:00

WTF is this "mentoring" they keep on about? I thought we had to claw our way to the top over a pile of dead lobsters. Never heard the term until it cropped up in the context of "mentoring women" and ... oh ok, never mind.

iainmf · 2018-02-07T03:36:00+00:00

This reminds me of the discussion we had here a while ago about the counter-predictive nature of feminism. The things they predict will be good for women turn out to be bad for them.

2018-02-07T11:13:24+00:00

"Far from being a solution, this attitude hurts women"

It isn't to women's liking so it isn't a solution! Rubbish. Fact is, it IS a solution. Sure, it hurts women, but that does not mean it is not a solution -- it's just a solution women don't like. And who was it that put in place the "Listen and believe" standard? That's right, it was women. They wanted the power to persecute any man, no matter how innocent, they got it and now they are whining. Sucked in, girls. Personally, i think the workplace should probably become segregated. Women stay safe from predators, men stay safe from false accusations. There are no negatives here.

2018-02-07T15:49:16+00:00

What male in a high profile job has ever been "mentored"? You get ahead by working harder, longer, playing office politics, and fucking over the competition. Unless, of course, you are a woman..then you just blow the CEO, get "mentoring" and claim "METOO" when things dont work out the way you wanted.

saltshaker42 · 2018-02-07T03:00:30+00:00

So my takeaway from this is women get to shout whatever they want, and ruin men's careers on faulty bases of sexual assault, and then avoid all negative effects by creating a new hashtag with the premise 'it's for the women's!'

Leaving society is looking better and better.

ifelsedowhile · 2018-02-07T05:18:13+00:00

We need less mentoring and more peopletoring.

2018-02-07T06:15:45+00:00

It should only take one accusation against a guy using MentorHer for the hastag to die. So, any day now.

ThrowawayGhostGuy1 · 2018-02-07T07:00:55+00:00

As they should be.

hatefulreason · 2018-02-07T11:51:58+00:00

no strong independent woman should want to be mentored by a man anyways. if they fail guess who's gonna be to blame

marcooni1 · 2018-02-07T12:51:34+00:00

I´m quite sure, that these men who mentor womyns have insurances, like third party always present, so he wont be sued for metoo.

MRA-automatron-2kb · 2018-02-08T02:08:43+00:00

"Men"toring is SEXIST. Call it Mansplaining

svenskbitch · 2018-02-08T15:13:08+00:00

We knew this was happening, but the scale is definitely surprising.

Predictably, the feminist reaction is to mostly ignore this - or dismiss it as male whining and misogyny-driven overreactions.

And I agree. The men who do this are vastly exaggerating the risks that face them. But the point is not to assign blame; the point is to understand these consequences.

We see these overreactions all the time. If we would be as concerned about daily health risks as we are about terrorism (counting the overall cost of all our worries, security, airport queue frustration and dividing that over the death toll values life at billions of dollars), we would hardly leave our homes, let alone drive a car or eat a hamburger. The fact is: we are worried about terrorism, and good public policy should take this into account while making sure that we do not misallocate valuable resources.

This includes ensuring better ways of dealing with these allegations. Of finding middle was between ignoring a problem and exposing it publicly or prosecuting putative offenders of actions that run from serious to ostensibly normal dating behaviour. When a woman who worked for me was aggressively propositioned by a Middle East high-ranking delegate, she refused to escalate the issue - but I was able to speak to him diplomatically and ensure that she was not put in a situation where she had to be alone with him. Worked for all parties.

nascarracer99316 · 2018-02-08T21:50:53+00:00

In other news water is wet.

nascarracer99316 · 2018-02-08T22:04:27+00:00

It is almost like falsely accuse every man of rape has negative reactions.

Title	After #MeToo, Men Are Uncomfortable Mentoring Women
Author	pixelies
Upvotes	118
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Date	February 7, 2018 2:32 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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