Can you help me?

kriation · 2017-11-13T14:38:41+00:00

Without meeting you in person, all we have to go on is your post history. Based on what you've mentioned in the past, you have a significant confidence problem due to a combination of external and internal factors.

One of the primary tenets of TRP is confidence, and how to increase and maintain it through a variety of means. Some of us started with changing our physical appearance by working out, some by starting to participate in activities that involves others. It's up to you to decide what path you want to embark on to increase your own confidence. However, regardless of the path you choose, remember that change is difficult, requires commitment, and sacrifice. In the beginning, it will be easy to revert to a state of self-pity, undoing whatever progress you have made. As long as you set goals, both small and large, and achieve them, you'll eventually notice an improvement in yourself.

My recommendation is by starting to focus on your physical fitness. The list here includes a set of 12 daily exercises that can be performed in a small space, without any weights or other exercise equipment. Set a goal of completing these exercises, for a day, then for two days, then a week, then two weeks, then a month. When you're ready, add a daily walk, then increase it to a run. Over time, you'll notice not only physical changes, but changes in your mood. Once you've built a momentum, add an activity that involves others, such as volunteering at a homeless shelter, or at a school.

Ultimately, focus on replacing solitary activities with ones that include others, and over time, you'll notice that your confidence has improved from when you started. Lastly, start writing briefly, each day as a record of your progress. Some days will be better than others, but over time, as long as you're committed to making a change in your life, you'll notice the improvement.

Feel free to message me.

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zeussingh · 2017-11-13T15:16:48+00:00

If you are looking for someone to give you a formula to magiacally fix everything it doesnt exist. Thats the reality. Face it.

That being said. I would say you are more in your head than you should be.

I went from a very conservative introvert with no connection to girl and 2-3 friends (spending my entire youth on games and tv), no confidence, decent amount of bullying, and virgin till 26, hb5, .... to a fully grown man, with good amount of confidence, hb7 now, 1 really hot ex gf, good physique, sense of self worth and identity, financially stable and 2- plates at the moment. No GF - on purpose.

If someone asks me how, why and when things changed. It would be every time i hit rock bottom, i changed things about me that i didnt like. And let me make it clear to you. If you think others will help. They dont. Infact they might give you resistance to change (famous : just be yourself). The most important thing i realized is I am responsible for myself and no one else.

Were the changes easy. Hell no. Were they worth it. Hell yeah !!

But i dont want you to hit rock bottom for changes to be there. Start by taking small steps and start thinking outside the box for problems.

1) You cant go to the gym, start by having weights at home.

2) Start by initiating small conversation with random men, then proceed to talking with women( Read she is six steps away, its more suited for you ). If that is a problem start with family members. Try little things outside of your comfort zone. Watch comedy to develop a sense of humor. And laugh at yourself (dont take it to the heart). I realized it very late, how people stop giving you shit when they realize you dont react to it.

3) Fix your posture. Its a boost for your confidence. You wouldnt belive.

4) Fix your style. Try alpha-m or antonio centano .

5) Start discovering a purpose. Remember life is not just about women. Try different things/activities to find your calling.

6) Fix your hygeine. Hair. And diet.

7) Give up porn. No argument over this. And stop jerking everyday if you are.

8) Start reading books mentioned in the sidebar.

9) Meditate

Note only one thing from the list actually require you to interact with other people.

Doing the things above alone with bump up your SMV. You will start noticing changes which will trigger more changes to help you.

And above all .... belive in yourself. Your brain is powerful enough to change everything to get you the things you desire. Visualise yourself being a better,confident,attractive man ... you will get there brother !!

Retspihi · 2017-11-13T14:26:34+00:00

If your face is so ugly, consider dieting and working out at the gym. It'll fix your horrible appearance by far.

Get nice clothing that fits.

Then start talking to women. This is so simple.

Viscount61 · 2017-11-14T01:14:16+00:00

For your face: grow a full beard and mustache.

Title	Can you help me?
Author	mlcsat344
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Comments	9
Date	November 13, 2017 2:15 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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