I tried inviting a girl from uni out a couple times but was denied with usual garbage excuses so I stopped and moved on. Then all of a sudden she invites me out (and in a very keen manner) but basically only on her terms (which of course I called her out on). Mind you we met at the beach and I'm quite ripped while she's mediocre but I'm on a month long dry spell and couldn't care any less right now.

So my question is was that self disqualification, were the rejections shit tests or am I overthinking this?