Gender issues in a nutshell. Women have been freed from traditional gender roles. Men are still held to them

So I found a job / career that I would like to do and am doing it right now part time. However, it is a seasonal job. Work like crazy 5-6 months; part-time rest of the year. Just the nature of the industry. I enjoy it and am really good it. However, there is not much income / wealth growth in the industry. Will probably make $45,000 / year at most; $55,000 - $60,000 / year at peak, if I go all in and full time on this. Now honestly, $45K is poverty wages in Canada, especially with insane housing prices.

Now I can make more; I am just finishing up law school. But I found that this was the career I would like to do. What I also like is playing with and spending time with kids and I know that I can be an excellent parent. I am confident I can raise kids better than anyone I met around my age, male or female. I also enjoy baking and do some crochet. I'm by no means an expert. But I'm working at it. Bottom line, I could be a good stay-at-home Parent.

So ideally what I would like would be to marry a successful Woman. Say an Accountant, Lawyer, Engineer, or Doctor. Support her by doing the house work and caring for kids while also working part-time on the side (the way most stay-at-home parents do). When the kids are in school, I can work more during the busy season. The nature of the work allows me to have that flexibility. Work more before we have kids; work less when kids are young; work more as they become older. Do a job I love. That would be the dream.

If I was a Woman. that dream would be accessible to me. Because Women are not expected to be providers. But because Women have been freed from gender roles while Men are still held to them; I am seen as and expected to be a provider, an ATM, and that dream is inaccessible to me. I'd be forced to be a corporate drone working all the time simply because of my gender, and likely be expected to marry down and be a provider. Because Women expect Men to earn more while Men are attacked for wanting fairness in what their partner brings to the table vis-a-vis what they bring (know from personal experience). Being a Woman would have allowed me to live the life I want. Being a Man gets in the way.

Now some might say to forgo marriage. But that's not what I am looking for. I am looking for someone to love and have kids with. A Man, unlike a Woman, cannot have kids outside of marriage. We can't walk into an egg bank the way Women can walk into a sperm bank. We cannot have a kid after a hook up and then choose to keep it.

Someone else might say to adopt. But adoptions is not the same. And doesn't help with the no spouse problem. Bottom line. Because Men - unlike Women - are still held to gender roles; I cannot have the life I desire.