I have 3 children with my Ex and she is ruining my life and destroying my relationship with my kids. She has custody of my kids aged 4, 7 and 9. I have fought and tried my best to give me kids everything they need and to make them better people. She only sees them as a free ticket to get government assistance and attention. Any time I try to be strict about making changes to better their diet, sleep schedule, electronic time or the bad influence people she takes them around the trouble beings.

She uses the very one-sided family law court in my state of new york and my children as a weapon against me. She goes to the courts and makes up wild stores about me, in which the courts automatically give me a stay-away order from her but more importantly my children. The courts also suspends my visitation rights and make it so I can not see or contact my children for anywhere from 1 month to 5 months until a court date is available.

In this time I am left wondering how my kids are doing and the safety of their well being. The kids are also starting to blame and hate me for This happening. She is lying to the kids saying I am the one not trying to see them during this time. This has happened 3 times in the past 7 years. Every time this happens it feels like everything in my life has been shattered and I am died inside. I have been pushed to the point where I don't know if it's even worth fighting anymore as bad as that sounds, I just can't take this continuing to happen. I am finely in a relationship where I could start a family and be happy with out it being ripped away every couple of years.

Do I continue to fight and spend all my money on a lawyer for this just to happen again down the road or do I make the hard choice to stop fighting and move on with my life?

Looking for any thoughts or help....