I have almost no social skills and want to go out to some bars alone tonight. Any advice?

DamnDirtyApe87 · 2017-12-25T10:26:58+00:00

With low social skills I wouldn't try and game any women. Hop around, find a place you like with the right vibe/friendly bartender. And then just talk to people, the other solo guy next to you.. the bartenders, everybody including women but don't go out with the intent on getting laid.

Go out on a quiet night, when the music isn't too loud and there aren't too many people. Get to know the bartender first, they will be your friends. Have a beer or two and if you're bored, go back home. If you had fun, rinse and repeat until you meet some cool people. This is how I started out anyway after not visiting bars for many years.

I think I had fewer problems talking to people, but going out alone the first time is a hard thing to do imo. You will find a bar with people you like eventually, good luck!

Andrea-Amilcare · 2017-12-24T21:56:34+00:00

Since you're new at this, my best advice would be to sprinkle some game at various women once you settled into the place.

Basically walk to a few women you find attractive, introduce yourself and ask them how their night is going. If they're cold or simply don't seem to have any time for you, leave and go talk to someone else. If they seem into you, talk with them for a few minutes and excuse yourself and tell them you'll catch up with them later in the night.

The worst thing you can do in a club is post up and become a wallflower. The club is a dynamic environment, so you have to keep things moving, constantly interact with women througout the night.

demilitarizdsm · 2017-12-24T23:05:11+00:00

Sit at the bar. Ask what the bartender recommends. Ask them a few regular questions to establish a bit. A drink in just ask another regular question or say something simple to someone sitting next to you at the bar.

Look for people who are together but aren't talking to each other so much. Chatting them up is real easy too. Once you're socializing in that space its really easy to approach women even down the road a few nights as you'll feel comfortable there.

Carbone · 2017-12-24T23:59:14+00:00

RSD bootcamp

Pluglord · 2017-12-25T01:19:59+00:00

Don't go out alone nightgaming if you don't have social skills. Build your people skills by doing day game first then move to night game.

dongus88 · 2017-12-25T02:14:35+00:00

I think you're overthinking this. If you're really an 8 just say hi and see what happens. Another line I like in a busy crowded scene with a lot of bars is to ask people what the name of this bar is. Then go from there

froggyfreshrap · 2017-12-25T09:55:10+00:00

Go up to girls and offer them drinks.

tommycantoy17 · 2017-12-25T09:01:29+00:00

"GUYS, IM LEAVING TO BAR IN 10 MINUTES... ALL BY MYSELF... WITH 0 SOCIAL SKILLS.... GIVE ME QUICK ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO..!"

fucking idiot.

Title	I have almost no social skills and want to go out to some bars alone tonight. Any advice?
Author	Beautiful_Idealism
Upvotes	3
Comments	13
Date	December 24, 2017 9:24 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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