Following a family discussion of my intentions to find a marriageable woman overseas I was introduced to a woman from overseas living in my home country.

Upon learning she was separated I decided she would be unsuitable for marriage due to the established knowledge of divorce statistics. I said I was looking for a serious relationship and I should not get involved with a married woman and apologized for the trouble I caused her.

She persisted in pursuing me, asked that I give her a chance and so I've been getting to know her through Facebook messages and voice call.

The story of this lady is as follows.

  • At 19 she immigrated to my country through her Aunt, her Aunt came to my country through marriage to my brother 19, that marriage failed. I think her Aunt may have communicated to my brother to find her a man (?).
  • She lived in another city until she separated (divorced on 5th May) from her (from same country) husband to live with her Aunt.
  • Works every day, five days a week at a pick-packer job and four days a week at a local restaurant where her Aunt also works.
  • No friends, no hobbies and no energy due to working every day.
  • She learned English through films, television and her time living in my country.
  • She doesn't know what feminism is.
  • She says she wants to buy a house, start a business and raise a family.
  • Appears to value being frugal which appeals to me.
  • She has expressed an attraction to me and that her parents would be happy if she married me.
  • She was expressed her desire for me to meet with her although I got a cold over the weekend so had to cancel. It's a 3.5 hour trip one way to visit her so it's no easy task but easier than going to another country.
  • When asked what she is looking forward to this year she said she wants to have a family.

I've not asked why she separated. She has asked how can you know if someone is cheating on you? Possible clue?

Having this woman fall into my lap may be fortunate for both of us as it appears we both are looking for a partner to raise a family with. However taking the easy option may be a trap.

Any advice?