How, specifically, did you get through the difficult stage of transforming yourself “on the inside”?

redhawkes · 2018-01-05T11:33:39+00:00

Sidebar dude. I know it sounds like a generic advice here, but believe me it works. As you said, the shitty conditioning from the past is harder to overcome due to the decades of programming.

Another thing is FRAME. This is basically your reality or how you see things and most importantly how you see yourself. This is achieved thru implementing TRP tenets like Prize mentality, IDGAF, AWALT, Abundance, Outcome independence etc.

When you start doing this, your subconscience is going to try to fuck you up, cos you're overcoming your old habits, but the most important thing is to actually do, no matter how hard it seems to be.

Meditation is huge in this process, as it gives you the awareness of your actions and the control the stop them once you spot them.

Acta non verba is the core of frame. You might see yourself as an imposter after you started to implement the knowledge here or feel like you don't deserve it. No worries, it's just your subconscious mind not catch up with the new habits.

Read and apply dude. That's the only way to internalize the tenets.

Also /u/Whisper has great post about that, Change your actions, and your thoughts will follow.

As you think, you shall become.

ChaddyMcChad · 2018-01-05T14:43:29+00:00

“Lifting is easy, dieting is pretty straightforward”. I don’t think the same way dude. Yes, those things are easy on the short term, but they are only meaningful if you apply them for the long term, and given your assessments I can tell it is not the case. Those things are hard for the mind and require a lot of work on yourself. Discipline, dedication, pain, hard work and sacrifice.

Now when it comes to the difference you seem to make between the internal and external work, there is no difference for me. I tend to believe that the body is very linked to the mind, this working on your body will affect your mind deeply. But it will take time, Rome wasn’t built in a day.

When it comes to “techniques”, I would go baby step mode. If you plan on lifting (you should if you’re on trp), you start by going one time a week, then two and so on. Same goes for the nutrition. This century is full of people wanting instant results, it doesn’t exist in the real world. Work, that’s it.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2018-01-05T23:34:54+00:00

Ultimately the person who determines your SMV to women is you. Others' opinions are irrelevant.

Assuming you're in good shape and we'll dressed, your SMV is based on having abundance behaviors, and a lack of low-value attitudes and beliefs.

DadOnDabs · 2018-01-06T04:11:30+00:00

It's a long hard road and the sidebar is your guide. It takes a lot of mental strength to do. I was depressed at times and went through a lot. The thing that helped the most was building inner game and not giving a fuck about hoes.

I did this by always making plans that I wanted to do. Ride my bike, skate, bowling, etc. I always have backup plans to do something fun if a girl bails. At this point I sometimes hope they bail if I really wanna go have some fun.

Title	How, specifically, did you get through the difficult stage of transforming yourself “on the inside”?
Author	robatusf
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Date	January 5, 2018 11:14 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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