Me and my dad own a bar, i have some questions.

ShotgunTRP · 2018-01-09T04:07:20+00:00

It's probably action Bronson with a different chick everyday

FattiesMakeMeGag · 2018-01-09T03:19:56+00:00

The girls are definitely not 10s.

Also, there are numerous reasons for this. Besides them using the guys as beta providers I would say girls just do this when guys have shown enough social proof. Think of it like high school, the most popular guys were sometimes ugly and fat, but they still were the coolest in their eyes.

You own the bar... You have so many opportunities to show value, please use your head.

Conor_Niggregor · 2018-01-09T05:50:58+00:00

I keep seeing super dooper hot girls coming in here, like, 10's, but, they are always, and I mean ALWAYS with fat guys with huge beards. These guys actually look like they haven't ever done a push up, and they all have snapbacks with sports teams, smell like weed, and don't groom themselves.

those aren't 10s. they're 6's with makeup on and to you that's a 10.

batfish55 · 2018-01-09T11:39:15+00:00

I wonder about your town. Do you live in a big metropolis? LA? NY? Frisco? I doubt it. Then those girls would be showing up with the guys you'd expect to see with them.

Do you like in Podunk, BFE? If that's the case, you're probably seeing girls are are 10's in your town, but probably wouldn't rate as a 6 in LA. And other post was right, they're probably with the most successful weed dealers in your town. And so the girls get pretty, and maybe your old man is giving them a few free drinks because he provides your old man's weed, and then the chicks go home with the bears, get stoned, and have starfish sex.

LordThunderbolt · 2018-01-09T06:12:19+00:00

The fat guys have provider qualities. They are probably getting cheated on.

TopTRP · 2018-01-09T14:39:04+00:00

These guys actually look like they haven't ever done a push up, and they all have snapbacks with sports teams, smell like weed, and don't groom themselves.

Well you got part of it right, weed.

These guys are enablers. They have connections, a lot of times involving drugs. If you are connected like that, you will have girls, that's just how the world works.

Example:

A good friend of mine lives in Miami. Exactly like you describe. Probably 350 lbs, crinkly ass beard. Wears sports jerseys a lot.

But...he's a dealer, and super connected in the club/music scene because of it.

Whenever I come into town for ultra or edc, he always has VIP sections for us, don't have to wait in line. People are always hitting him up as we're chilling or walking around.

He knows a few of the artists and their managers (sells drugs to them).

You don't have to be a girl to understand the kind of value a guy like this brings to the table for you.

[deleted] · 2018-01-09T18:22:58+00:00

I was getting 7s and 8s when I was a fat bear (280 lbs at 6'0, down to 195 now). It all came down to frame control, being able to make them cry of laughter, and an above average face. Some girls also seemed to like the fat, alot of love handle and bicep fat grabbing.

Forcetobereckonedwit · 2018-01-09T08:58:42+00:00

They hang with the "bros" but they aren't fucking them. They're safe, they're "masculine", by size and beard, they probably seldom truly hit on the 10s and there you are.

Dress well, act confident until you ARE confident, and wear your antlers.

FlyingSexistPig · 2018-01-09T13:22:50+00:00

These guys have frame. They understand women. They have money and status.

None of these things are things you understand, because you're 19. It's okay.

super_doofus · 2018-01-09T03:19:27+00:00

What kind of fuckin bar are you guys running

BPasFuck · 2018-01-09T06:43:22+00:00

Where are you? Atlanta? GA?

That's a spectacularly special case where women seem to date only within their narrow social circles.

chachaChad · 2018-01-09T12:59:11+00:00

One thing you have to consider and that I failed to take into account when I was your age is the age difference between the couple. I'd bet those girls are all younger than those guys.

In my experience, when I was 19, I was going after girls my own age without any luck whatsoever. I did much, much better with girls a year or two younger than me.

I don't understand your comment about constant rejection. When are you getting rejection? Are you hitting on girls while you're working at the bar? At that point, you're just the help and your SMV is really pretty low. As fat and smelly as these guys are, they still have a higher SMV than you.

jay_jay_man · 2018-01-09T15:10:31+00:00

Money! These girls are prostituting themselves and return the men get sex and shiny attractive girl on their arm making them look better.

SuperCrazy07 · 2018-01-09T20:52:52+00:00

If you're 19 years old, small, skinny, and working in a bar in Chicago - you don't have much SMV. You literally can't compete with older, professional men (even if they are fat). 23 year old hotties aren't in to 19.

Furthermore, I'll bet you've both overstated the hotness of the women and overstated the unattractiveness of the men. If not, what bar you at? :)

The upside is that the older you get, the better you'll do.

360_no_scope_upvote · 2018-01-09T07:10:16+00:00

You guys really can't tell this is a shit post. Like really.

maxrp · 2018-01-09T16:58:08+00:00

You need to get fat, become boring and don't bother with looks, then you get these fine ass 10's

Title	Me and my dad own a bar, i have some questions.
Author	beefstew32
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Date	January 9, 2018 3:09 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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