I keep messing up on first dates

meektakeL · 2018-01-16T00:16:08+00:00

Switch up your profile. Add more pictures that give off a 'bad boy' vibe. You'll et a different type of matches. Girls who are more DTF. Thats what I did, and started getting girls with daddy issues ;)

TehJimmyy · 2018-01-15T20:55:36+00:00

I usually talk and ask questions with enthusiasm

Replace this with things you like to talk. But still could be other reasons

Quantum_Jiraiya · 2018-01-15T22:58:19+00:00

Tinder dating is tricky business.

It is like dating, but most women on there are open to hook up, even if they aren’t actively looking to hook up. The two most common responses are “I’m looking to date/relationship,” or “I don’t know what I’m looking for,” but you should know many or most people on tinder are looking for something sexual fast.

There are women on tinder looking for genuine connections and might develop a sexual relationship after a few dates, but from your post either the girls you have dated from Tinder don’t like you in person or they don’t fit this description. Otherwise they would like to get to know you better after more dates.

You need to escalate on these first dates. It sounds like you are going from not knowing these first dates to knowing these first dates as a friendly acquaintance. You need to flirt, it is a tinder date. Read the sidebar, but here are some tips:

You should be trying to gauge her sexual interest starting halfway through the date. Maintain eye contact, while laughing at a joke make light physical contact etc.

If the vibe is not horrible, you can ask her if she wants to go back to your place. Even if she says no or acts busy, she might be trying to check your interest too. She might even come around on your 2ND DATE.

Some are looking for “beta” men to buy them food, so don’t be that guy.

boscoist · 2018-01-16T20:04:20+00:00

You're doing better than most, you recognize that what you're doing isn't working. That's a rare quality. Next time you go on a date, if she doesn't go home with you,take 10min and replay it in your head. Try to think about what went well and what you can do better next time. It's important to reflect, but not while you're actually out on the date, then you have to be in the momemt.

casemodsalt · 2018-01-15T21:41:55+00:00

Absolutely cut down on the nice guy vibe.

Seriously try acting like a half-caring asshole. Don't raise eye browse when talking unless it's really deserving of it.

Be calm and cool. Almost like you have a hangover.

Try being a bad boy a little more.

Title	I keep messing up on first dates
Author	Freddie2309
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	January 15, 2018 8:41 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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