Should I lie to women about LTR or F+ ?

1Pink1Stink · 2018-01-16T21:22:34+00:00

This is called being deceitful and it will come back to bite you in the ass.

SjekkieTime · 2018-01-16T21:24:47+00:00

Why are in an LTR if you want to bang other girls on the side? I think cheating is lame, just break up.

There is some things about avoiding the "what are we??" Talk in the side bar

InstigatingDrunk · 2018-01-16T21:40:57+00:00

It's fine if you're seeing many girls while maintaining nonexclusive status but if you're committed to a girl & cheating you're really putting yourself at risk for a damaged reputation or crazy girlfriend seeking revenge.

fnordsnord · 2018-01-16T21:25:54+00:00

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quicklogaccount · 2018-01-16T22:16:22+00:00

Is it smart to be straight forward with women

Nope, you take the hamster food away from her little rodent. Not knowing is far more exciting.

I feel like im missing out on possibilities if I say that I'm not interested in a relationship. The idea is to keep her thinking that I'm possible relationship material while I'm cashing out the sex with her.

You're thinking this the wrong way. She takes what you offer, not the other way around.
You won't step next into your next LTR by waking up someday, saying "I want a LTR now", and going to a church to find a virgin. You'll be fucking some plates, one of them will stand alone and be far more pleasant than the others, and you'll realize that bonding to her has a shot to make up for the loss of the variety of poon. So you'll consider letting it happen and keep your ability to leave.

Anyway, you'll fuck because she will get into your frame and want to fuck you, not because you're hacking her selection criteria for hers.
You'll commit because you want to, not because that is the price of her pussy.

"What are you looking for?"

I'm not sure, I haven't found it yet;
You;
More sex than a shameless guy would be comfortable admitting;
The holy grail, but around here I'm not sure. Anything I guess.

And the list goes on and on.

How do you guys handle this?

I used to make a judgement call when I saw that question.
Sometimes she would a single mother or have some trait that made me think she would only want commitment, I'd be straightforward and say I was emotionally unavailable.
If this wasn't the case, I'd go with the above if I felt like taking some time to game her, or "just sex" if I felt that her compliance to it was what would take me to make me leave home to meet her. It still worked once like that.

[deleted] · 2018-01-17T01:37:29+00:00

This sounds terribly stressful. If you want to have sex with girls on the side then be honest with your LTR. Sneaking around and lying is beta AF.

MattyAnon · 2018-01-17T12:34:14+00:00

Is it smart to be straight forward with women and tell them that I only want a Friends with benefits-relationship or should I lie about being interested in a LTR?

Be honest but not overt.

I feel like im missing out on possibilities if I say that I'm not interested in a relationship

Your'e not. Most women are down for at least trying this. You ease them into it. They rarely ask for commitment in the first few dates. The trick is to subcommunicate that it won't happen quickly and hasn't already happened.

I recieve often the question "What are you looking for?".

Mostly you want to avoid this question and bounce it back on her. If she says "not just a hookup", then proceed as normal and change subject. If she says "FWB" (or words to that effect) you say "Same." and then change subjject.

Title	Should I lie to women about LTR or F+ ?
Author	frey88
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Comments	9
Date	January 16, 2018 9:12 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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