(SORRY LONG POST )*

So I work for a big sport corporate in Uk 🇬🇧

I’m head of a department (M .29Y) And we generally use Microsoft teams for meetings and chats. Or maybes just when sits in a room for some revisions works

A) Whenever it comes to chat or having meeting with males colleagues I don’t have any issue .

I can get straight to the point and tell what the issue is , without out shame them or yelling or any abusive stuff . I Simply and politely say what the issue is ! And at the same time I’m the first one to praise the hard work that they doing anytime they do any extra works or they go beyond’s their goals !

I generally always said lines like:

  • “big shout out for my man that worked hard for this sports event

  • “ you are my man for this job “

  • “my man “

    You get the idea ..

And keep in mind that if it was up to me I would use the same terms even when it comes for female co-workers (but it would be sound absolutely like sexisms and boy-man culture)

For example: imagine if I would use the exact same terms for women! I would loose my job the next day but at the same time here where lies the paradox.

B) when instead it comes to have meetings with females co-workers I never use those terms when it come to females , because I would definitely call out by HR, so I always address them by names,.

“Amazing work Grace!”

Or

“Big shout out to Grace for the amazing effort and work “

You get the point…

And keep in mind that I knows all my males and females co-workers for at least 5years

————————

Now in The recents meeting some females co-workers have been complaining about me because of the language that I use with male colleagues, makes them feel” excluded “ And complaining that I use some man more inclusive language between man than comparing to when I speak with only females co-workers.

  • when in reality I just don’t wanna have any issue with them; and simply address them with the highest respect possible.

It seems to me that they are kinda jealous?

Even because I’ve heard that only women environment has been more toxic than male ones , so bruh 💀

Now based on that. Don’t you see the paradox?

I’m really confused 😕 it seems whatever way we pick even playing by they’re own rules we still losing