I have a chronic pain condition meaning I need to sleep alot, and I've just started shift work. My Husband said the issue in our marriage is that I'm always asleep when he's awake. Due to my pain and exhaustion since starting a new job, I've been walking around grumpy and moody - now I realise. My Husband said "you'll come home grumpy and I just want to be alone and play video games" in reference to us seeing a friend this weekend.

So, obviously I need to present myself as cheerful more. But what else can I do? I gave him an out and said he didn't have to visit our friend on the weekend, but he said he's still coming.

We are also working on increasing intimacy in our relationship as we inadvertently put it on the back burner for years, and now we both feel pretty awkward about it and feel like we are learning and starting again. He says this is due to me rejecting him for years (due to my trauma) and now I'm better we really want to work on it. How can I help this situation?

Just wondering if anyone has any advice? I absolutely am against divorce and we don't want that anyway. I just need some help in improving things. I have hope, but just don't know what to do!