My husband keeps showing me and the kids videos of women doing face contouring and joking in a mean spirited way that women are shape-shifters. He tells the boys (in front of me), “do not forget this boys: all women are shape-shifters” and laughs and shows them the video. I am very feminine and only wear skirts and dresses. I don’t know how I can possibly become more feminine. I know there is something I can do differently to help or to make myself not feel bad when he does this. I am open to “mind tricks” and any all helpful tips and advice. Not saying I’m feminine to ward off emotional attacks- just because I need you to know what a loss I am at with this. Maybe there is something I can change, do, do differently, etc. please help.