This is heavily focused on virgins but can still be applied to men who have had nothing but fleeting, worthless experiences with women. I have tried to clean up 3 common myths that normies love to throw around whenever the subject is brought up. When I use the word virgin, I mean men who have had none or very little sexual experience aged at least 20, but more so early to late 20s. This is about general cases, bluepillers, spare the work of cherry-picking a super handsome successful virgin.

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Myth 1: It’s not unhealthy to have no sex in your 20s

This is a classic – people claiming you have all the time in the world to experience sex and intimacy. What they basically say is that having your first time in your late 20s is exactly the same as having it in your teens.

The human body begins to sexually mature at the age of 12. Most boys have ejaculated for the first time with 13 and from then on are sexual beings. In the following years this manifests and with 18 to 20 men are considered at their peak. The average age for losing virginity ranges from 16 to 18 in most countries.

Development happens in stages. You have about 1-1.5 years to learn walking, you have 2-3 years to learn elemental concepts of speech, later in school you have a set amount of time to learn reading, writing, and calculating. When such milestones are not reached, parents are concerned.

Why? Because they know the more these fulfillments are delayed, the greater the risk of their child grows to lag behind their classmates and friends. They know that not learning to read right now can have dramatic consequences for the entire rest of their life - picture a boy still figuring out letters while everybody else is reading books already. When he is actually done reading the book and comprehending it, others have already interpreted it and moved on to the next.

This is called arrested development; it is akin to the domino effect. A single failure in any aspect can bring down a wide set of new problems and the delay becomes exponentially worse. Nobody would argue that kids have all the time in the world to learn walking or speaking. But when it comes to the most fundamental aspect of human life – the reproduction – time is suddenly insignificant.

“You cannot compare reading and sex.” Yes, I can. And plausibly at that. Forming a healthy sex life is an integral part of a man’s development. It is as a teenager that they pave the way towards bonding ability, understanding of sexual dynamics and de-mystification of women. Their early adulthood is their time to make themselves capable of starting relationships, having satisfying sex lives and family later on. How would you ever balance out that gap between you, who is a 24-year-old virgin, and your friend who has been sexually active since the age of 17? You are simply unfit to compete.

“Everybody matures at their own rate.” Yes, in a perfect world we would all tolerate each other’s flaws and live happily together. This is not a perfect world. This reality is a hyper-competitive society and dating market that spares absolutely no mercy to weakness of ANY sort. If you are not at least on the same level as everyone else, you have lost. Nobody will pick you up and give you time to catch up. There is only one solution: never be left behind in the first place. You have no time to learn all this stuff when you’re nearing 30. You should’ve learned it a long time ago and you will be given the fault.

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Myth 2: Nobody cares if you’re a virgin

The problem with virginity is not so much the virginity itself as the correlating characteristics that come with it. Virginity past a certain age does not exist in a vacuum. It corresponds with low status, social awkwardness, and ugliness. The average 25-year-old virgin is definitely not similar to the average 25-year-old man.

When someone says being a virgin is not a big deal, they imagine an average dude who just so happens to be a virgin. That does not exist. Nobody just so happens to be a virgin. It’s a physical or social issue if someone remains virgin well into their 20s.Women (or denialcels) say virginity is not a big deal until they actually meet one and realize that weirdly enough, he happens to be socially challenged and/or ugly, i.e. nothing what they imagined or want. Quite the contrary, those are things utterly repulsive to them. Yes, most older virgins are repulsive to women.

This is the same thing as when they say, “I have dated a lot of average dudes, women don’t have high standards.” They consider 80% of men below average. When they say they would have no problem dating a virgin, they obviously mean a 7 or 8 who is a virgin – except 8s are no virgins.

Even if you keep it a secret, they can tell. Everyone can tell. When we graduated school, everyone knew who had sex and who didn’t, because despite what people say, it’s a defining factor. I have seen classmates who got into relationships change fundamentally as a person. Their whole attitude and demeanor changed. There was a new sense of self-confidence and worth that they didn’t have before.

They told us about their relief and joy to finally “be normal” and went on to excel in other parts of life while other boys would envy them. They would rub it under our nose as often as they could that they would get a blowjob that afternoon while we would be stuck with porn. It’s been a while now and there is a pattern to who did well after school and who did not.

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Myth 3: Simply having sex (with leftovers) will lift your burden

Imagine a starving child from Africa, whose body is so malnourished they are literally only skin and bones. Would those years of malnutrition be healed by a single gigantic meal? Would it eat one six-course chef-cooked meal and suddenly be of healthy weight? Do you expect to grow past your biological prime, missing out on your sex life and then compensating all that with some leftovers?

This is the type of ugly truth only few will be able to handle: You already missed out irreversibly. Sex is not a one-time event. It is a basic need that every person should have regularly throughout all their younger life. As long as you are potent, you will never stop desiring it.

There is no happiness without regular sex, normies wouldn’t whine about dead bedrooms or divorces/singleness if that was the case. Everyone who has no or an unfulfilling sex life is a coper one way or another. Men love to tell stories about their teenage/adolescent sex and relationships, for those are the memories that stuck with them throughout life. You would have grown up into an entirely different person if you had made those same memories.

Do not let yourself be gaslit into thinking this sentence is bogus and obsessed. Most women and chads have had sex at least every month since they turned 16 – and if they didn’t, that is because they genuinely didn’t want to, not because they couldn’t.Women would set this world ablaze if they only went without sex and intimacy as much as 3 months. Yet society tries to convince men that having literally nothing for years and years is not detrimental in any way and if you think otherwise, you are a mentally ill, creepy sex addict. They do not want ugly men to be sexual beings and they will do anything to mentally castrate them.

Let’s leave aside that at some point you are simply unfit for anything but the most rotting defiled leftovers: even if a loving, caring, beautiful woman appeared right onto your doormat, nothing could make up for your childhood and prime years being wasted. Like I said earlier, if you ended up a virgin at this age you are definitely a low status, socially rejected, very ugly and possibly poor loser. At this point you are only clinging onto this illusion because there is nothing else left. The conventional life was never meant for you and in several ways the system betrayed and cast you out.

Important: Stop revering this idea of sexual redemption. You give women and society the key to your life with that. As long as you are convinced “she is out there” and that she will be your coming of Christ or that if you work hard enough you will be rewarded with p*ssy, you are a slave to this system.“She” does not exist, your absolution does not exist either. Become a monk or whatever niche you fit in, idk. if you remain part of this broken sexual market despite already having lost in every conceivable way, you are only perpetuating it even further.

It is only when you turn your backs to society that they notice that they in fact do need you. They declared you useless even though men are the scaffolding of our existence. Only once you retreat, they will feel it. Then they will suddenly want you back.

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Conclusion

I cannot stress this enough, never let yourself be gaslit into thinking sex doesn’t matter or you’re unhealthily obsessed and disgusting for desiring it. Only someone who has had an abundance of it would say that. They do not want you to show sexual desire, ever.

Always remember this: You are not supposed to be having sex or intimacy, you are however supposed to buy porn subscriptions, OnlyFans, visit night clubs, Thai Massages, make a new commission to NSFW artists, go into beta bucks marriages with single moms, in short: you are supposed to make women and a small percentage of men rich off your solitude and desperation.

I am not presenting a magical mysterious cure to all this. My only advice is to stop playing a game you have already lost. And to everyone accusing me of overreacting, this post is not for you. It’s for the men who know what it’s like to be treated like toxic waste material solely because of their genetics.

Normies will skim this text and all they’ll say is “It’s not that deep bro, take a shower, stop being an inkwell and you will get laid.” or “If you worked as much on your personality as you did on this post you would be having all the women”, when all they’ve ever had was a scummy hookup after binge drinking at a party or they’re stuck in some sexless marriage.

“But at least I am not incel.”