Attraction => Dopamine

Attachment => Oxytocine

Many females deny redpillers arguing that they were not initially attracted to their boyfriend but now they are after having found out how nice his personality is.

No they're not attracted to their boyfriend. They're justed attached to him. It's a very well known fact in psychology that humans don't know about themselves as they claim to do so that they often mistake something for other as the cause. They're mistaking oxytocine for dopamine.

It's like a daughter who finds her dad not sexually attractive. But she likes him and loves him because she feels comfortable, safe, and relaxed around him which has to do with attachment i.e. oxytocine. Attraction happens in less than few hundreds miliseconds the moment you see somebody for the first time. There's no spectrum to attraction. It's more like pass/fail.

So when women say that they are attracted to their boyfriend, they are just saying that their brain is emitting oxytocine but not dopamine as they have spent fairly a long time with their partner together that it led them to feel comfortable, safe, and relaxed around him. But their brain has never emitted dopamine which is like a drug that gives them a strong pleasure. There are very few couples that experience both dopamine and oxytocine at the same time. Those couples are the blessed ones.

So don't fall into the female bullshit that it takes some time for women to figure out your personality so that they know whether they're attracted to you. If they said it to you, it means that they are just not attracted to you at the first place and will never be.